Does being sexually inexperienced after a certain age make it impossible to recover?

[Good Gao]

Or virgin for that matter.

I have met guys who lost their virginity at the age of 17, 18, or 19 and were fine from then on. It just seems like to me that guys who lose it in their 20s or are virgins/sexually inexperienced for that long never quite recover even if they lose it. It's like after a certain point if you are sexually inexperienced, no matter what you do after that point, you will always have this anger inside of you for being a virgin for that long. Never met a guy who claimed to lose his virginity late and was still a normal person after it.

 

[GS750]

If he lets it hold him back, then yes. I think I you make a conscious effort to change for the better then no.

 

[IBreatheSpears]

I think you're confusing cause and effect. It's more likely that them being abnormal is why they couldn't lose it.

 

[MtnMan]

i lost mine pretty lateish (20 i think), and it held me back some, until I decided to change it. Then it made no difference really.

 

[Mike32ct]

I agree with the OP. It can mess you up permanently.

I accept that I will never be completely "normal" with women.

You can lead a semi-normal life, get laid here and there or even date if you wish, but it becomes extremely difficult to relate to people, especially women.

IME, men tend to be quite accepting of this "condition" and treat you ok. But women are very uncomfortable around a guy that is on a different "wavelength" such as being a late bloomer.

 

[Cerwin Vega]

Stop looking for reasons why not to live life to the fullest.

 

[latinnova]

Hmmm... I lost mine at 18 because I was hyper shy... but after I got that pvssy one time, it was over from that point forward. But I will admit, I am picky with my woman. I can't do a chick I'm not attracted too, I am a wet noodle if they do nothing for me. I tried it one time and it just doesn't work for me. Now if they are everything that I like, I am hard enough poke a hole in the dry wall with my tool.

 

[VladPatton]

Shıt, all of us on this board have trouble with women, that's why we're here. Getting laid is not written on your forehead. It's like anything else, you gotta get good at it by easing into it, staying with it, then improving certain points of it.

Just act like it's no big deal, never admit you're not getting laid, and when you see that chick that really gets your cawk twitching go for it like there's no tomorrow.

Besides you, no one gives a shıt about your lay count. Lay counts can be pure fantasy, for both men and women.

 

[mangotot]

**** it. Make up for it by sleeping with 100 women. And make sure they are all hot. Don't settle for average.

 

[GS750]

Shıt, all of us on this board have trouble with women, that's why we're here. Getting laid is not written on your forehead. It's like anything else, you gotta get good at it by easing into it, staying with it, then improving certain points of it.

Just act like it's no big deal, never admit you're not getting laid, and when you see that chick that really gets your cawk twitching go for it like there's no tomorrow.

Besides you, no one gives a shıt about your lay count. Lay counts can be pure fantasy, for both men and women.

Nicely put.

 

[bigneil]

Getting laid is equally difficult for everyone. If you are especially good looking, you will have an equal challenge of finding a match. If girls throw themselves at you, you'll learn the hard way that most are crazy anyhow. I was almost 20 when I lost my virginity, but in hindsight, am happy with my sex life. Try to average one girl who you REALLY like per year and you'll be ok. That means enduring months of loneliness in between, a time during which you let the pain inspire you to improve.

 

[Who Dares Win]

First of all, those who lost their virginity in their early 20s are not lesser men, sure they are somehow a lil bit later considering the average but that doesnt mean anything regarding their value.

During all your teens you are not your true self, you are a combination of what you are, how your family grew up and how your peer group considered you and this last one in pretty influenced from the feedbacks you got from your family since your early years.

So your behaviour, your confidence and status all depends on factors which are mostly beyond your control, more like a lottery, those things decide apart luck, when you lose your virginity.

You become your true self or at least most of it later in your late 20s and thats when you should give a judment about yourself.

Now back on the topic there is some truth in what Mike32 said, in our life there are moments in which we are supposed to "learn stuff" wheter is socializing, playing an instrument or practice a sport.

You see while in your late 20s you are much stronger than in your late teens, hardly you will have the same result if you decide to be a boxer or a swimmer, boxing for 2 years in your late teens will lead to much more than boxing 2 years in your late 20s.

Same with socializing, if you spend all your high school time alone or with other introverted kids for various reasons, no matter how hard you try but becoming a social buttergly wont come as easy as it would have been starting earlier.

Regarding sex well its hard to say considering how complicate is the topic, there is the critic field of your inner game which comes from your social confidence, sexual confidence and overall confidence in yourself, then there is your physical built which could influence the reaction of girl naked near you which influence back your mood and so on.

I would say that its not impossible to recover but that it takes much more work and even "discipline", despite what guys say here you cannot simply "be more confident" out of a conscious decision but you can be only following certain facts which prove with no doubt your valour.

 

[Chronocidal]

Or virgin for that matter.

I have met guys who lost their virginity at the age of 17, 18, or 19 and were fine from then on. It just seems like to me that guys who lose it in their 20s or are virgins/sexually inexperienced for that long never quite recover even if they lose it. It's like after a certain point if you are sexually inexperienced, no matter what you do after that point, you will always have this anger inside of you for being a virgin for that long. Never met a guy who claimed to lose his virginity late and was still a normal person after it.

What's your definition of a "normal" person? Getting over anger is something that people of any kind would deal with.

I can understand that there'd be technical issues that could get in his way, though, such as not knowing how he'd make sexual talk with women with any degree of effectiveness since he knows nothing of sex, or not really being able to speak of any of his experiences.

 

[N00byNinja]

Being a virgin at 45 and counting like I am can be hell on your social "life".

You dudes are still young. Don't worry about it. Groom, dress your best, work out, be socially free, and always strive to improve yourself in all aspects for you and not for the outcome of getting a specific chick.

The more you worry about trying to "control" interactions, and having to have a specific outcome as always "positive" the more stressed out and screwed up in the head you'll become. The less you worry about things you can't control the better.

 

[JohnChops]

Being a virgin at 45 and counting like I am can be hell on your social "life".

You dudes are still young. Don't worry about it. Groom, dress your best, work out, be socially free, and always strive to improve yourself in all aspects for you and not for the outcome of getting a specific chick.

The more you worry about trying to "control" interactions, and having to have a specific outcome as always "positive" the more stressed out and screwed up in the head you'll become. The less you worry about things you can't control the better.

NINJA IS BACKKK!

 

[N00byNinja]

NINJA IS BACKKK!

Dude I've been back about 15 times I'm the past two weeks. Pay attention! Hahaha


What's up with no limit chatzy? Dudes are wasting posts.

 

[Mike32ct]

Any guy can and should improve. I hope my post didn't sound overly gloom and doom; that wasn't my intent. It's just that a guy who started late will have to work harder and/or perhaps be ok with lower results. The musical instrument analogy is very useful here. Sure you can learn piano at age 30 (and you should if you have a passion for it), but no doubt that someone that started at 13 will have a huge advantage.

The positive note is that it's quite rewarding to be the late bloomer because you appreciate your results MUCH more, no matter how small. While the experienced guy is bored with his 30th lay, the late bloomer guy is smiling for two weeks after a makeout or his hands on her boobs. Nothing wrong with that. It's all good.

 

[Bingo-Player]

lost mine at 20 and never looked back

i was the last one in my groups of freinds and it was starting to get hard work not being able to talk about sexual adventures

but i banged 10 chicks within a year of turning 20 and never had any complaints from any of them

dont think its messed me up,

my standards were generally lower but thats about it , my attidue for a while was get as much average looking easy pusvvy as you possibly can and enjoy it :rockon:

ive mellowed out now and only really hunt for pussvy i find attractive

one thing i will say is i remember a crushing pressure to loose it starting to build in the last few months of me being 19

 

[Thorninmyside]

If you've been fulfilled by other things in life I don't think it's a big deal. If you bottle up resentment about it then you become one of those mass murder types.

I lost my virginity at 23, had two long term relationships and then a massive sex drought for years whilst I focused on my career. In the last year (I'm now late 30s) I've switched gears and had four girls and a lot of sex since career stuff is pretty cruisey right now. I don't think it's impacted me much because I didn't give sex power over me. Latest girl in particular has been very impressed by my bed skills and thinks I'm super experienced. I just read a lot while I was between women, lol.

 

[Mike32ct]

There are varying degrees of late bloomer.

Up to age 20 - Not much of a problem

Low 20s - iffy but can still recover well

Over 25 - definitely a big problem

Over 30 - Get used to hookers lol

Over 45 - We still like Ninja Man