Does being married or honest with a girl means oneitis?

[_sideways_]

I like this girl....we argue....we take time apart...which is fine by me cuz I get to hang out with my other female friends ..
But I do care for her....and I think she cares for me too.


But I don't want to be a "player"
But she gets jealous. Which is partly my fault....but I can't stay home all the time.

 

[Anti-Simp Equation]

Your question can be broken down into two separate subjects. Oneitis is only a mindset. A man can have 10 chicks on his roster and still have Oneitis for one chick. I don’t believe being married means a man has Oneitis. The problem is, most men become complacent after being invested with the woman.

As for being honest, there’s no need for a man to lie to a woman. Lying means he’s afraid of the consequences (ie losing her).

I will say though (based on your post), it sounds like you have symptoms of Oneitis. Women love a player. Women love other women around a man, it’s competition. Women aren’t dumb. She probably already knows you’re invested in her.

Don’t chase, attract.

 

[Bigpapa]

I like this girl....we argue....we take time apart...which is fine by me cuz I get to hang out with my other female friends ..
But I do care for her....and I think she cares for me too.


But I don't want to be a "player"
But she gets jealous. Which is partly my fault....but I can't stay home all the time.

oneits basically means that you are willing to change your behavior in order to please her

as long as you keep your limits , then you should be fine , and it is normal to care for a girl . It would be weird not to be like this

 

[_sideways_]

Don't chase ... attract.
That's what I needed to hear.
Thanks brothers

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

As far as “being honest” with a woman: I’d say just don’t do it, you can allude of experience but you can never give deets even if interrogated. I’ve learned this the hard way, I’ve had/have to manage plates and one “main” and you can simply not tell them everything, they obsess about it and try to approach it from a thousand angles and then they scuttle the ship eventually.

Most people, man includes, want to believe the fairytale. Most people are myopic, women can complain about your pov or action all the while basically holding the same pov and doing exactly what they complain about in you.

I’ve had woman I want to spend the bulk of my time with, but don’t because I know it’ll just end the relationship faster - sad but true. There’s times when I want to look in a girls eyes and say “wow, you just do it for me”, but don’t as well. Why? Because once you lose the mystery and “man on a mission” stance you’re toast. You have to give them something to aspire to, and the only way is to be scarcer than you’d even like to be.

This is the hardest lesson I learned, and it sucks.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Married or honest is not One-itis necesarrily but remember to stay in your frame.

 

[PRW63]

Does being married or honest with a girl means oneitis?

No it doesn't.
It ain't that hard to figure out what the difference is. It i just common sense stuff.