Ill be honest with you, at first I believed that being an Alpha meant being yourself and acting the way you have always acted. But soon I began to realize that nothing had changed and I still had low social status. I was still an AFC even though I was being myself. It got me thinking, why my status and image were different from other people who were seen with high social status.
I was a kid who was brought up in a totally different culture than the kids in Canada (Im form the Middle East), and that I was influenced by a different community and environment. When I first came to school from overseas I was a person who would take chirps seriously, really respected authority and would quickly respond and react to anything that people wanted from me. I was a funny kid but it was situational humor. I was also soft, shy and would trust anyone, in other words I was really AFC. I never got physically bullied but when people talked **** I would get angry and start cussing, getting really pissed off.
So I began changing my approach, I saw certain people (Alphas) that would act differently in similar situations and I realized that even though I was being myself due to my past influences my natural self and personality was not compatible with the community that I was a part of If I wanted high social status.
I started researching proper body language, behavior, etc. I came by a book by John Alexander called “How to be an Alpha Male” which was one of the best things I’ve read and taught me that men with higher value act differently than other men. They are cool, calm and collected and do what they want without taking crap from anyone, plus a lot of other stuff involving how you interact with people especially women.
Thus, in my senior year I went through a kind of transformation. I changed my posture, my tonality, the way I talked to people, and how I would react when people asked me for something or chirped me. I would open up less and I had a set of standards and self respect that I would not break. I took note of Alpha males in movies and tried to have similar body language. At the end of it all, it helped with my social status but still my AFC history kept me from being at the top or the social status that I wanted to have anyway.
Anyways, now that Im in university my behavior has changed my social status, and I don’t have the problems I had in high school anymore. However, the only thing that Im concerned with is that even though im respected by other “Alphas” in my social circle I feel that my attitude and closed but cool personality isn’t allowing me to become close friends with anyone.
In other words, when Im in a social situation with everyone im seen as one of the cool kids, but im not really true close friends with anyone and I think its got to do with me not joking around, teasing people or opening up enough.
I wouldn’t usually open up like this but I feel you guys can help me out.
