Does anyone else have friends that have no problem finding relationships?

[Robert28]

Does anyone else have friends that seem to have no problems in jumping into successful relationships one right after the other? What I mean is he'll date a girl for a long time (1,2 or 3 years) and they'll breakup but within 2 weeks he's met another girl and they instantly hit it off and end up dating a long time too? Meanwhile most of us (me especially) seem to have to weed through all the crazies and b.s. We'll go one a lot of first dates, some girls we'll go out with 3 or more times and then something happens and it's back to square one, or you'll see a girl you are interested in but ofcourse she has a boyfriend or you see that huge rock on her finger just as you're about to approach her?

The types of guys I'm talking about seems to not have to go through all the bs of dating and it's like they'll meet a girl right away after being single for two weeks and instantly hit it off. They don't have to go out on date after date after date after date and hope to eventually bump into a girl who doesn't have TOO many red flags, is single, no kids, isn't a serial dater and so on and so on. They aren't Don Juans that get a lot of women, but the thing is they seem to find the women worth dating at the snap of a finger and all the crap we talk about and go through on this site seems non-existant in their relationships. I fvcking HATE dating around and spinning plates, but I'm not ready to settle down and get married. I just want to not have so much trouble meeting a girl that's worthy of dating for a long time.

 

[Mike32ct]

Yeah plenty of guys are like that. They rarely even think about meeting women. It's just a given for them.

 

[Robert28]

Yeah plenty of guys are like that. They rarely even think about meeting women. It's just a given for them.

The thing is I meet more women then them but it seems like they meet the right women while I have a tough time meeting the right ones.

 

[devilkingx2]

I think those guys are called naturals

 

[Nothing2lose]

Those guys can be naturals or they can be a "boyfriend chameleon".You don't want to admire a BFC because he is not a true man of purpose.He meets a girl and instantly becomes what she wants, and in the long run he gets devoured.

 

[nismo-4]

Alpha fux, beta bux.

The relationship card that men have, while not completely useless, is not a laudable tool in the game. It only has a use when the woman wants you.

The best weapon in the game that men have is walking away. Not being aloof. You can't just tell a random out of luck man with dating to be aloof and then Katy Perry will land in his lap a week later.

Success breeds success.

 

[SgtSplacker]

"naturals" work alot harder at being naturals than you think. Start to pick those dudes brains and get them to talk and you'll see how much planning goes into looking "natural"

Nothing hard comes easily to anyone...but anyone would want you to think it did.

In my blue pill days I had a "natural" buddy. Spoke with him once about dating and he spilled the beans to me having a typical blue pill denial. Looked at him like he was crazy. Now I see he was years ahead of my game.

 

[IBreatheSpears]

He meets a girl and instantly becomes what she wants, and in the long run he gets devoured.

I think this describes my roommate pretty well. After meeting his current girlfriend* he became a brony and chronic League of Legends player.

* Plot-twist: he actually has two girlfriends, and they know about each other. He's strange; he's not generally confident or dominating, but he's very confident with women and they respond to him. I can't figure it out. Then again, neither of his girlfriends is very attractive.

 

[Nothing2lose]

I think this describes my roommate pretty well. After meeting his current girlfriend* he became a brony and chronic League of Legends player.

* Plot-twist: he actually has two girlfriends, and they know about each other. He's strange; he's not generally confident or dominating, but he's very confident with women and they respond to him. I can't figure it out. Then again, neither of his girlfriends is very attractive.

Honestly I wouldn't put any though into him.Find your edge, focus on yourself and find out what works for YOU.You can take notes from other people but only to ACTUALIZE YOURSELF!

and if the girls are not hot........:nono:

 

[Desdinova]

This is something that I think about quite regularly. I believe what happens is these guys are much more willing to tolerate a woman's BS in order to keep her. You have no clue what goes on behind the scenes. They could be arguing, she could be fvcking another guy, he could be ordering her to remove her profile from FB, etc etc.

I think Sosuave breeds us to have a low tolerance for bull5hit and makes us high-maintenance men in the sense that we expect a lot from women. If she's not putting out, we NEXT her. If she's being a bytch, we NEXT her. If she's got too many orbiters, we NEXT her. AFCs will put up with all that crap because she's hot or they're afraid of being alone.

 

[Kailex]

I had posted something along the lines of what Desdinova had said and promptly deleted it. I wanted to give this a bit more thought...

But essentially, my point was going to be: Define "successful".

So they get into an LTR for 1-2-3 years, break up, and jump into another relationship?

The reason why I deleted my original post is because I used to be that guy. My best friend, who I've known since the age of 15... told me at age, 29 after a 6-year LTR... "Can you actually stay single longer than a month for once?".

I didn't understand what he was saying, but now I do. I jumped out of LTR's and into another LTR, and the words Desdi say ring true for me, at least early on. I was doing DJ "things" but not really applying the concept. I just thought I was happier in an LTR so I always seemed to land into one almost a month later. I was willing to gloss over some red flags for the sake of not being alone and having constant sex.

It wasn't until I finally decided to be alone for a while that I realized exactly what I was doing wrong.

So just because they have no trouble finding relationships... ask yourself, why are they having trouble keeping it? I'd rather NEXT in the first 6 months once I've seen the red flags rather than keep it going for 3 years hoping that things will get better.

It's just all a matter of perspective.

 

[bukowski_merit]

I think Sosuave breeds us to have a low tolerance for bull5hit and makes us high-maintenance men in the sense that we expect a lot from women. If she's not putting out, we NEXT her. If she's being a bytch, we NEXT her. If she's got too many orbiters, we NEXT her. AFCs will put up with all that crap because she's hot or they're afraid of being alone.

This.

I have many friends who are either always in relationships, or always around women they are banging.

And to be honest - their tolerance for putting up with female nonsense in the name of the relationship/pvssy is very high.

In retrospect - I often feel like a tyrant when dealing with women's bullsh!t... And i see the same thing from guys across many different PUA boards.

It seems to comes with the territory.

 

[Nothing2lose]

that's where you're wrong.

 

[Nothing2lose]

This.

I have many friends who are either always in relationships, or always around women they are banging.

And to be honest - their tolerance for putting up with female nonsense in the name of the relationship/pvssy is very high.

In retrospect - I often feel like a tyrant when dealing with women's bullsh!t... And i see the same thing from guys across many different PUA boards.

It seems to comes with the territory.

I don't believe that its what so suave is about

 

[VikingKing]

They might have had a really bad break up, and now they end it before they get left holding the hot potato. But on the other hand they want the security of an ltr.

Because of the amount of betas out there reinforcing bad behavior of women, the women tend to end up needing her bf less than she needs him which causes the afc backsliding.

But once you get a strong dose or two of that sh!t, you really don't want more of it. So you just walk away, find a new, and start the inevitable process all over again.

 

[zekko]

Might as well throw my theory into the mix:

I think people like this are basically interchangeable. They are what people call the least common denominator. I don't know a lot of people who are like me, I have unique interests and my own way of thinking. In fact, it's always been important to me to be different.

But a lot of people, like say maybe party people, they think alike, want the same things, act the same, think the same things are cool, go along with the crowd. They run into trouble with one spouse and it's easy for them to go find another one, because there are so many like them.

 

[Rave18]

The thing is I meet more women then them but it seems like they meet the right women while I have a tough time meeting the right ones.

Why don't you try talking with these friends ? Maybe you'll find something new/different. Hope you share

 

[DonGorgon]

yup... all the light skin black guys i know get 99% of black females easy as hell because light skin his a feature that black some love and will consider you immediately sex worthy just for being light skin and thats a fact ..., listen to rap and you will hear them constantly idolizing folks with the lightest skin tones...lol

 

[bukowski_merit]

I don't believe that its what so suave is about

Since you quoted everything I wrote - I don't know which part you're saying this site isn't about. Please be less vague.