Does anyone else HATE hitting on girls at your college???

[JoeyCalves82]

Maybe it's just me, but I absolutely despise hitting on chicks who go to my college - more specifically, the ones who are in my classes (as a commuter I generally don't spend much time socializing with those who aren't in my classes anyway.) Now I've been a practicing DJ for over 2.5 years, reading every article/tip/post/book you can imagine. Still working on my game, though it has improved drastically, the one experience I still loathe, and probably always will, is being rejected by girls from my classes - girls I will have to see, talk to, and possibly even work with for four or five months. As a Psych major, I've concluded that this is due to the "out of sight, out of mind" rationalization. For example, if I'm on vacation in a foreign country, at a club that I've never been to and will never visit again, and a girl whom I mack it to shoots me down, well, SO WHAT?!? There's not even a remote chance that I will ever, ever, see her again for as long as I live. A girl from class, however, is someone who I may very well sit next to and even be forced to socialize with in a class setting. Now I know many of you are going to jump at the opportunity to minimize this and claim that "rejection ain't that bad" and that I should just let it "roll off my back" like it's "no big deal," and to an extent, I certainly agree with this much. I mean, I'm not even trying to imply that rejection is the worst thing in the world, but you know what? It still sucks, and I would like to avoid it whenever possible, wouldn't you? Just imagine the kind of blow one's ego would suffer if he hit on two or three girls (throughout the semester) in the same class (all of whom happen to be friends, unbeknownst to him) - then we have a guy who's been rejected by several girls, friends no less, in the same class, all of whom would send out nasty vibes for the duration of the semester. A long shot hypothetical situation, I know, but still, it's possible. In any event, all I'm proposing is that if a woman is to turn me down, that's fine, but I'd prefer to never see her again at all if possible - especially if I were not as smooth as I could've been or if she was espcially b*tchy. I've had friendships ruined and school acquaintances destroyed because of this. So my question is as follows: is it safer to just refrain from picking up girls from your classes?

 

[KGB]

I feel you man. I am at the exactly same position as you are.

I want to go out and experiment, to try some outrageous pickup stuff. (ie after getting the girl's name you say: "now that we know each other on the first name basis, let's ****") You get the idea.

And you really can't work numbers game in college. My campus isn't huge, so if I approach 50-80 girls everybody will know that I'm actively hitting. I don't want to ruin my rep.

I've done 2 cold pickups, closed both. I met up with the first chick already. She wasn't as hot as she seemed to be when I picked her up. I had fun time and NEVER will call her again. And I have no problems to deal with - she lives far away and doesn't even know my phone number. I star sixty sevened all my calls.

I think you just have to build the social network in college and be more "friends" kinda way. No asking out, no dates - just chilling. Then when you get strong IL from someone, **** close her.

But that's only my take, I didn't even get laid yet.

 

[icepick]

Ahem...

END OF THE QUARTER!



Of course, you should try and know the answer before you get it, but for the "long shots"...the end of the quarter seems like a good time.

 

[Julian]

Does anyone else HATE reading posts without paragraphs?

 

[JohnGalt]

Stop caring what other people think of you.
Edit -- I missed your question : is it safer to refrain from picking up girls in your classes.
Yes it is safer, just as it is safer to not cross the street out of fear of getting hit by a car.
Become risk loving, and you'll be halfway there.

 

[JoeyCalves82]

Originally posted by Julian
Does anyone else HATE reading posts without paragraphs? [/QUOTE

Complains the child who includes an "eye-rolling" smiley face in his reply...

Thanks, buddy, for that excellent contribution. An acclaimed writer, I hardly need to be reminded about the use of paragraphs (or any other grammatical insight you think you may have for me.) The point of this forum is to educate ourselves and one another with intellectual discussion. It is clear that you have no intelligent response to the question I raised, so let me take this opportunity to thank you instead for the lesson in writing that I needed oh so badly. You are surely a credit to Don Juans everywhere!

 

[So pimp its scary]

But paragraphs, even too many paragraphs makes the text alot easier on the eyes.

I love hitting on girls at my college. I make soo many new friends, and in each group there is usually one girl or two that has some interest in me. I take my time, I go for the quality opportunities, even if it takes a few weeks before seeing a girl to ask for her number.

It's all worth it in the end... but then again, my goal isnt to shag, it's to have a group of women that are soo deeply in love with me that I just shag them all whenever I meet up with them... There is one so far, and soon to be a second.

Who cares if you get shot down by one girl, she will see how much of a ladykiller you are, and she will regret her decision. And even if not, why think about it. Why not just keep talking to the girls that shoot you down on a friend level? Take advantage of the hot friends.

 

[Wong Fei Hung]

I know what you mean, JoeyC. I hope you luck. Since you a Psych major, maybe you know how the human mind work better than me.

How many times do a woman think about sex in a day? From my research, 0 for single woman.

You dont ask for number in class, then do the number asking in the library and wherever you find comfort.

 

[MikeYikes122]

I dont know what it is, but i hit on more chicks in my classes than I do anywhere else on campus. I've been trying to think about it for you, but I really have no clue why it is so easy for me in that venue.

I guess it's just easy for me to sit next to them, get them partnered with me for group BS that we do everyday and just talk to them. I ask for their phone numbers only if im positive they're into me....

 

[icepick]

You can also do the typical college thing and just ask but-loads of girls to partys with you.

"Some people I know are having a party this weekend, you should come with us!"

Then you can get all drunk and stupid together! WOO-HOO!

It is super easy really. Girls like to have fun...

 

[Don Corleon]

lol,this post is funny. i know what you guys mean. i go to a small, christian college that is the equivalent size of a normal high school. to top it off, the chicks and the people her act like its high school and form lil clicks. so in my case i have to carefully select the girls i like, and then make sure they dont know each other, because there have been a few instances in which they do.

 

[Mr. Mystery]

Do yourself a favor and just ask a girl or two out from a class, you will find that it is not so bad if you get rejected. Laugh it off, it won't be weird unless you make it weird.

I got rejected by a chick I see all the time because she's engaged (I've getting alot of that lately ) but everythings cool whenever I see her, still flirt and joke, but its all in fun. Its not a weird situation because I don't treat it like its a weird situation. Its whatever you make it out to be. Go for it, you only live once.

Don't forget women love to be hit on, do them a favor and boost their egos.

Mr. Mystery

 

[vdk]

Yeah, please use paragraphs so it is easier to read. Most of us speed read and if its too long, in caps or there are too little paragraphs, it decreases the chances potential posters will read and reply to your question.

In regards to your question, I make a rule not to hit more than 2 girls in a tutorial class, since bad reps in our uni spread like wild fire. Having player status means most women will have their xxxxx shields up.

 

[Don Corleon]

yeah i agree vdk, thats a pretty good rule to follow

 

[Beige]

Girl: I've got a BF/ LJBF / Some other BS
Me: Girl, I wanted to have some fun, not marry you! Oh sh*t, I proposed something similar to John two weeks ago, I hope he didn't take it as serious as you.


That's the response I've prepared for myself. It's ****y, it's funny and it's honest. You want to hang out and see what happens so that's not such a big deal. I believe that this line will save my ass one day

 

[ShortTimer]

Originally posted by Julian
Does anyone else HATE reading posts without paragraphs?

YES

 

[salthepal]

i guess if you don't hit on your classmates the same way you hit on girls in bars, you'll be fine .....