Does anybody believe in "chasing" a girl or being persistent?

[horaholic]

He may not be happily married, may not be getting the sex he wishes he could be having, there's a lot of unknowns and you're making some fairly broad assumptions based on few facts... Now, if you're close with the guy, and he's telling you, "man, my wife is a freak, we fvck almost every day and she is crazy in the bedroom, cooks me breakfast in the mornings, takes care of the house and the kid and hooks up BJ's whenever I want" i'd be willing to believe your assessment to be true.

Irrelevant. he got the girl by being persistant. Whyt they stayed together or not is a totally different topic.

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

Yeah, if you're completely secure I'm thinking this would work. The problem is staying level-headed and not getting attached. I'm not at a level where I could do this . . When I stop pursuing, its for my own sake.

 

[DondottaJuanpappa]

Dont you know, to cop and blow?

Its not about giving up, its about stepping your game up.

You have to realize that persistence is making sure you have another ***** on board just incase one dont work out.

Chasing one girl and "not giving up" in your words is a sorry excuse for feeling like you'll f*** up again with the next girl.

Learn about the term cop and blow, and remember, you're either the pimp, or the hoe.

Which one are you?




- pimpin

 

[f283000]

There is CHASING. (coming from a desperate, I need you!! frame)

And there is PURSUING. (coming from a masculine, You know we want each other frame)

Guess which one is sexy?

reminds me of The 2 Strikes rule

There's pursuing: You call a girl hoping to ask her out, she doesn't answer so you leave her a message. It's been 3 days and you don't hear anything from her. You decide to give her another chance and call her again. It's been 4 days after the 2nd call and she has not called you back. You give her 2 strikes and shes out! That's 7 days where she did not reply to you.

And then there is chasing: You gave the girl 2 chances already, she did not respond to your calls, you were waiting for days. Deep in your heart you know this is a lost cause BUT you convince yourself by making up excuses for the girl. Maybe she was busy, maybe she didn't get your message, maybe she was away. You make up a whole bunch of scenarions in your mind to forgive her so you'll give her 1 more chance. You decide to call her again with your fingers crossed and happy thoughts that maybe she will answer.

 

[horaholic]

But real persistance would be to call her a month later just for the hell of it, not expecting anything, but just to see if she bites. There is NOTHING wrong with that.

You dont have to completely rule a girl out after the two strikes rule; but you DO need to stop putting forth an effort. Keeping her number and calling it out of the blue two months later does not make you needy or chasing. It is merely letting her know you're still alive if she feels like having another shot at the champ. It usually doesnt go anywhere, but once in a while, you can get laid out of the deal. Maybe she is in a better place for potentially dating you... Maybe not, but who knows? Why rule out the possibility?

 

[f283000]

But real persistance would be to call her a month later just for the hell of it, not expecting anything, but just to see if she bites. There is NOTHING wrong with that.

Is that real persistance or just a show of your lack of options?

Forgive me for getting philosophical but I think this goes back to the root of the problem. Most guys with women problems will put all their eggs in 1 basket and are willing to lose a bit of their dignity and manhood in the hopes of landing this 1 girl that they got a oneitis on.

If you keep on insisting on this 1 girl that you already gave 2 strikes to what does this say about you? If you are a man that has a life and has other options does it show by keep calling a girl that's ignoring you? what do you think is most likely her perception of you? that which I described or that you are a horny single guy with no other options which is why you keep on calling her when she has already not given you the time of day?

To chase a girl that is ignoring you is the excuse for guys that are not going out and meeting other women. Most guys with women problems are like this. They happen to meet this 1 woman and they put all their chances and effort on this 1 woman. They got no other options because they don't go out there and talk to other women. Guys that are good with women or that make the effort to meet women don't put all their eggs in 1 basket and don't need to go around chasing girls that are not giving them the time of day.

The root of the problem is that we give women too much power. We keep on chasing 1 girl instead of realizing that if she shows no interest it's time to move on to other targets. There is an unlimited supply of single women out there for you that won't make your life miserable with bs. You only have 1 life to live. You do not have to waste precious time of your life which is limited on a girl that is not giving you interest.

 

[lakeshore]

Is that real persistance or just a show of your lack of options?

Forgive me for getting philosophical but I think this goes back to the root of the problem. Most guys with women problems will put all their eggs in 1 basket and are willing to lose a bit of their dignity and manhood in the hopes of landing this 1 girl that they got a oneitis on.

If you keep on insisting on this 1 girl that you already gave 2 strikes to what does this say about you? If you are a man that has a life and has other options does it show by keep calling a girl that's ignoring you? what do you think is most likely her perception of you? that which I described or that you are a horny single guy with no other options which is why you keep on calling her when she has already not given you the time of day?

To chase a girl that is ignoring you is the excuse for guys that are not going out and meeting other women. Most guys with women problems are like this. They happen to meet this 1 woman and they put all their chances and effort on this 1 woman. They got no other options because they don't go out there and talk to other women. Guys that are good with women or that make the effort to meet women don't put all their eggs in 1 basket and don't need to go around chasing girls that are not giving them the time of day.

The root of the problem is that we give women too much power. We keep on chasing 1 girl instead of realizing that if she shows no interest it's time to move on to other targets. There is an unlimited supply of single women out there for you that won't make your life miserable with bs. You only have 1 life to live. You do not have to waste precious time of your life which is limited on a girl that is not giving you interest.

I think your entire post sums up what I think about a lot of guys on this board. You're WAAAAAAAY over thinking it. And I certainly do to, I am no exception. It needs to change though.

"i don't want to look like a chump" "oh boy, i wonder how bad she thinks of me now!" "oh god, she probably knows i have no other options"

Who gives a f*ck!

All this worry is just a reflection of how you think about yourself. Not what she thinks of you, who cares what she thinks.

What you should be thinking is "damn, she's fine and I'm getting in those pants no matter what! "

Thats the winning attitude.

 

[DondottaJuanpappa]

Best thing to do is to soak up the opinions and opposing opinions and try to manipulate them to suit you. Experience and practice will only show what works, you just have to see it for yourself.


-pimpin