I was a pretty good basketball player growing up. For about a 5-7 year period, from the time I was 9 until the time I was about 17 or so, basketball was life. I woke up in the morning and I'd dribble to the bus station . I'd play ball before school. Id play ball at lunch. I'd play ball after school. I had ball practice. I had ball games.
I even got good enough to where i played with traveling (AAU) teams. I wore ball clothes all the time, I watched basketball all the time, I went to the gym in my free time. this is what I did. And I was pretty good.
I dont say all of this to brag. Quite the opposite actually lol. I have an older cousin, mike jones is his name, my dad's sister's son, who played for a rival school. He was good enough to play high level D 1 basketball. I had played pickup games with some really good players, joe johnson, scotty Thurman, corliss williamson, but i had never actually played in a real live game with someone that was good enough to play high level D1 basketball before.
Mike is a foot taller than I am so we don't play the same positions, and we played aorund alot and played pickup games and stuff and but this is different.
So this was kinda a big deal in our family lol. so the entire famly comes out. ARkansas scouts happen to be there (Where he ended up playing basketball at), the stadium was packed because both our teams were pretty good.
Long story short I didn't play bad, I think I had 9 points, a few steals, a few rebounds, like 4-5 assists. I was playing against a pretty good point guard for them as well. Mike went for 35 points, like 15 rebounds and like 8 assists. Think he was perfect from 3 point land and he's 6'9. We could not do anything with him and he really wasn't even trying. He was just asserting himself. My best riend played the same position as mike so mike guarded him all game and my best friend did not have one point that was not a free throw the entire game. and my best friend was good. better than me.
My point in all that is to say, I knew as soon as that game was over, that i could never take basketball seriously again. He made my ass quit lol. I knew at that point that there was absoutly nohting I could ever do to be that good. And i Mean, mike was good but he wasnt a mcdonalds all american or anything. he had teams looking at him from across the country, georgia tech, Michigan, but i mean he wasn't like a 5 star athlete or anything. and i Mean, i wasn't even close to his skill level or had his athletic ability.
So I played that year out, my junior year, and the next year, I didn't even go out for basketball, and i was starting as a junior. I gave up on basketball becuase I did not see the point anymore. I wasn't going to play college ball. I wasn't ever going to be that good.
IT was this time that I started to focus on tech stuff, computers, and the rest is history.
Backbreaker, why are you so ucking long winded what's the point in all that? Beucase it's really the same thing. I don't miss basketball honestly. I don't long to play int he NBA. I'm quite happy with what I do for a living I love it. I grew up, my interests changed. Yes I realized that I could not be the alpha NBA playing male and yes there is nothing I can ever do to be that good but that doesn't mean I secretly long for it and that my interests did not genuinely change over the years. I grew up so to speak.
My point is, if i can grow up why can't women? OP says that women's interests change when their looks fall off the cliff, I say that women just grow up. My wife probably would not have dated me at 20 (her not me), because i would have been too serious and not adventurous enough for her at that time in her life. But that does not mean now at 36 she has not genuinely changed
to say otherwise is to suggest that all 35 year olds secretly wish they could still go out and go clubbing 5 nights a week. Im a guy and I got tired of that **** in my early 20's why cant' women?
I'm not saying that some women don't sette. But some women do in fact just grow up.
IF you dont allow for a woman to grow up you are going to be single for quite a while because you have unrealistic expectations.
let me clarify: every woman that is older and now goes for a different type of man than she did 10 years ago has not changed. the woman in the OP i believe has not changed. she has settled. but i know alot of women who just grew up. some women, really do find god. some women just grow out of that phase where they are young and stupid. they have the world by the balls and they realize that just because you can do something doesn't means its' in your best interest.
I mean, if i put you in the exact situation as most 22 year old HB8 females are in would you really be any better if you had that type of embarrassment of options? not really no. I wouldn't. Id have fun, i would not take guys seriously and then when I got older i'd probably want something different.
just beucase you are that different thing does not make you a chump. what makes you a chump is not realizing if a woman is settling for you or if she loves you.
I like the person I am. If by definition a tech geek nerd guy, if im not alpha, I dont want to be alpha. I like the person I am. I like reading. I like working on computers and websites. I love horse racing. this is what I do, this is me and I like it. i could see how younger women would not take me as seriously as someone who is 28-38 would. Im not that type of fun. **** em lol.