Does a dj help his friend who is in and AFC relationship?

oteao99

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My friend is in a AFC relationship. We haven't hung out in a long time because he is upsessed with his gf and when I ask him if he wants to do something he says he has work or makes up some excuse. He dosn't hang out with any of his other friends either. I used to be best friends with him, before september but it hasn't been the same after he started going out with this girl. He used to tell me gossip between them but I stoped caring after a month and he figured that out. What should I do, should I just put him on the back burner until he breaks up with her, or should I tell him she is a demon from hell. She told one of our mutral friends that she isn't really into him anymore and kinda wants to dump him but we never told him that. One time last week he thought she was cheating on him and went physco, like punched the wall so hard he had to go to the er (he turned out fine thou, just a little brusing). Could someone tell me where to go from here. MB you've had some experience in this department?

One more thing, she dosn't even respect him, she dosn't say bye on the phone or anything. She has him by the balls.
 

Dr.Dude

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I'm sorry, but don't touch this even if you have a ten-foot pole.

Well, that is until your friend accepts the truth - his relationship isn't working anymore.

Whatever you will say to him right now about his relationship might decrease your friendship and cause unnecessary trouble.

It sucks, I know. Good luck though!
 

PRMoon

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I say let him fry. Experience is the best teacher. There's a very small chance that he won't snap out of it and realize that this this sh*t sucks. After he dumps her or vice versa just vent about it then. You can talk about it durning and exciting adventure to nightclub or strip club!!
 

oteao99

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thanks for the advice, I'm just gonna wait this one out. I hope one of them dumps the other soon.
 

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someone has to be want to be helped.. if you see me constantly getting attention from women, I always have a woman at my house when I want one, my phone rings off the hook when I even keep it on, and you are over here beating your meat, crying because your "love of your life" is getting creampied by her Ex BF.. if you don't have the wherewithal to ask for help, or to acknowledge that this guy might be better than me in this aspect of his life, then you aren't worth helping.
 

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Tell him ONCE and briefly, and make sure to tell him that you're only trying to help and that you would want someone to do the same for you if the situation were reversed. Maybe recommend a site like this one or the Book of Pook. If he doesn't respond favorably after that one time, don't press any further. In fact, even if he does respond favorably, which he probably won't, still don't continue to bring it up in the future. Let him handle it if he decides to repent of his chumpish lifestyle. A man can really only take responsibility for himself.

And this is coming from experience.
 

snowdog

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STAY OUT OF IT. I've been in your situation a couple of times and believe me, the most likely result you'll get out of interfearing is damaging your friendship.
 
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