Rollo Tomassi said:
a man who draws attention to his conditions isn't 'man enough' to tough out his conditions
According to who? You're logic is starting to sound suspiciously circular.
Like I said before, the default strategy of most is to draw attention to their conditions in hopes that they will either get help changing them, or get compassion for having to suffer them.
I'd posit that an "adult" takes an "adult" approach to changing their situation, where an adolescent takes a whiny "please help me" approach, be they man or woman. Sadly, most humans never really leave the adolescents stage, despite their age.
Take out your imagined male/female dichotomy and it's a pretty straightforward case of people simple not willing to grow up and take responsibility for their own lives.
he's also less of a man if he doesn't stand up for himself to change his conditions.
"man" enough, "woman" enough, "dog" enough. If you aren't willing to change your conditions, you are tacitly accepting them. Filling the definition of a "man" is irrelevant.
It only seems to be a double standard when you accept the definitions of others, which in many cases, in and of itself is a shaming, whiny, "please help me" strategy.
It all boils down your frame strength, and how readily you buy into the frame of others.