Doc Love and Trying to impress women

[Starman]

heh has anyone read his latest crap?

To impress any Woman..you have to FORGET trying to impress them.

he made it seem like its some ultimate secret..

While I agree..that women sense when you try to impress them..this can be a disadvantage for you.

Here is my latest at trying no to impress a girl

(AT the HomeDepot this afternoon)

Me: Hey I need to get some carpet cut..can you call some one?

Cutechick: Well! I Can cut it for you!

Me: YOU can cut it? well this I gotta see Super Girl..Grab Your chain saw lets go..

(we walk to carpet)

Me: Arent you going to grab the chain saw ?

Her: No silly, I use a utility blade.

Me: Well just make sure there are no snags..or My cat will go at it..and tear it to shreds leaving only a String.

Her: Heh You're Crazy! Im not a cat type of girl.

Me: Cats are cute..I'll bet you would look cute in a cat suit.

Her : This is a pretty small piece of carpet ..what are you gonna use it for?

Me: For underneath my computer chair..make sure you give me that discount!

She smiles and starts writing up the ticket..on a ripped piece of paper.

Her: Here you go!

ME: Whats this your fone number?

Her: No SIlly! Its the order ticket.

Me: Well write your number on here too..I might have somemore questions.

She gave me her #..but I threw it out because she was like 18 or 19..Im 30..

 

[BGMan]

I think by "impress" he means to boast about yourself and do crazy sh!t, desperately hoping that she'll like you more. What you did was C&F, which isn't trying to "impress a girl", more like "having a good time".

BTW, that was funny stuff!

BGMan

 

[Starman]

hmmm 88 views and one response..This forum seems like its more like "OK This is what happened with this girl " instead of trying to learn anything

Thanks BGman..I just threw that excerpt in because I thought it was funny...and I really wasnt trying to impress this chick...home depot chicks arent to hard to impress

 

[FlyGuy]

Yeah I agree with the idea that you shouldn't go out of your way to impress a chick. Being fun is something different. Thanks for posting your pickup example Starman, its always good to get more ideas.

 

[FlyGuy]

Also, David D's latest newsletter said the same thing about trying to impress women.

Here are some of the signs that a guy is
feeling the need to "impress" the woman that he's
talking to:

1) He tries to only say "cool" things, or things
that will "impress" the woman.

2) He acts nervous and stilted during the
conversation... sometimes coming across as
"formal".

3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants
to hear.

4) If he says something that the woman doesn't
like, he "back-pedals" and tries to change what
he said to suit the woman.

5) He doesn't say anything "risky", doesn't tease
the woman, and doesn't do anything to upset her.


...in other words, when a guy is talking to a
woman that he "likes", he's usually on his "best
behavior", and he's trying to "put his best foot
forward".

and further...

When you intentionally try to impress a woman,
you send the following messages on a "subtle" level:

1) I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I
will try to "impress" you instead.

2) I'm not comfortable enough around women to just
act normal.

3) I don't have a lot of experience with attractive
women.

4) I'm insecure.

5) I don't know how to make women feel comfortable
with me.


Ouch.

But it's the truth.

Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you're "trying".

I'd agree with that...

WHAT TO DO INSTEAD

OK, so you're out having a cup of tea with a
beautiful woman you just met a few days before...

She asks you what you do for a living.

Should you answer with:

1) "Well, I'm an engineer for a software company
that makes sophisticated vector widget plotting
algorithms. I've been with them for three years,
and I'm about to be promoted to ALGORITHM
MANAGER."

2) "I do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in
a movie when a hot actor has to reveal his naked
ass? That's my job."

...?

Well, it all depends on what your outcome is.

If you want to try and IMPRESS the girl with
your cool high-tech job, then #1 will work just
fine.

Unfortunately, it won't impress her at all,
and it will make you sound like a jackass who is
trying to sound cool.

If you want to ACTUALLY impress her, try #2.

See the difference? One is a guy trying to impress the girl and the other is just a guy putting some c&f humor into the convo.

 

[vdk]

I tried to impress chicks when i was in high school, and even then it doesnt take a genius to work out chicks can sense bs coming out of your mouth. In short, dont bother trying to impress anyone.

 

[Quick]

That was a great conversation Starman, but it has no relevance to Doc Love's post on trying to impress women. You should try to be outgoing and funny. You shouldn't try to brag about your accomplishments or hide your personality to get her to like you. The post by FlyGuy is an accurate description of what is meant by trying to impress women, and that's definitely something to avoid.

ps. Why did you ask for her number if you knew up front that she's too young for you to ever call her?

 

[Starman]

I thought Doc love was David D?..anyway the newsletter is what Im refferring to.

I always practice on women .. fat, old , bald, pregant, young, handicapped, mentally challenged..it builds character

 

[FlyGuy]

I thought they were different people *shrug*

 

[digitalrat]

Originally posted by Starman

She gave me her #..but I threw it out because she was like 18 or 19..Im 30..

Man man man..

 

[Starman]

Digital..I used to collect phone numbers as "trophies"..I had a fish bowl full of chicks numbers..that I never called..and the ones I did call..I pulled out of the bowl..

Not bragging or anything..but I dont collect anymore..I mostly just go sarging and practicing the # close..and if she especially captures my interest I call and try to set stuff up..

heh Ive even called chicks like 2 months later..after getting the #..they didnt remember me