Do you try a second time?

[oc16]

Part of me wants to text "Its obvious due to the radio silence we wont be hanging out anymore or something like that" or you still think "silence is golden".

I just want some sort of closure.

 

[Glassguy]

Part of me wants to text "Its obvious due to the radio silence we wont be hanging out anymore or something like that" or you still think "silence is golden".

I just want some sort of closure.

Dont send anything. This isnt a game of who can get the last word in.

Just ignore. If she is interested, she will notice your silence and reach out. If she isnt, she wont.

Either way, this isnt a chick you want to be spending much time with so go find new ones.

 

[finality]

Part of me wants to text "Its obvious due to the radio silence we wont be hanging out anymore or something like that" or you still think "silence is golden".

I just want some sort of closure.

That's literally the worst thing you can say.

I know its hard when you are "inside the circle" and you cannot look at things objectively but take the advice of others here and forget about her for now.

If you are patient she will probably reach out at some point.. maybe 50/50. If you keep texting her you will chase her away forever.

In a month for now you aren't going to regret her ghosting you or whatever... what you will remember and have regrets is how you reacted to the rejection and will have wished you just played it cool.

Nothing is truly every finished because everything is always changing. I've been in your situation before where I NEED CLOSURE but you end up just doing/saying stupid stuff because you are emotional and then down the line you wish you would've just let things run their course naturally without forcing her to say ITS OVER.

 

[oc16]

Thanks for the great advice guys. Just wanted a second opinion.

 

[SuckItUp]

Nothing wrong with being persistent. The key is understanding when persistence turns into pathetic/waste of time.

This is one area where men need to step up.

1. If you call a woman/text/e-mail to make a plans and a woman doesn't take your invitation seriously then don't take her seriously. The frame is that you are inviting someone into your world and your time is valuable. If a woman doesn't recognize that your time is finite and limited and therefore valuable, she holds no value to you.

2. Sometimes a woman is legitimately busy, and if she's interested she'll make a specific counter offer. "I can't meet you for drinks on Tuesday but how does drinks at xyz place at 8 on Thursday sound?" The more details included in the counter the greater the interest.

In contrast, "I can't meet you for drinks on Tuesday but we should meet up later this week." leaves you with more questions than answers. Is up to you or her set this meeting? When is a good time to meet? Etc. Confusion = lack of interest.

3. Persistence v. Pathetic is something that requires personalized experience and the understanding when a woman is blowing you off due to no interest or blowing you off because she might be interested but she's scared. There is a difference between the two.

 

[devilkingx2]

Corey Wayne mentions you walk away after getting rejected twice, but what about only once.

Scenario.

I was seeing a girl who was most likely on the rebound. The girl seemed really into me (doing 70% of the initiating, writing longer texts, calling me handsome)and just making it real easy.

I banged her third time we hung out.

After that, we went out one more time, but there was no sex because she had somewhere to be.

Next day we start sexting and i try and get her to come over later on in week, but she says she couldn't (had somewhere to be) and she didnt offer another time (equals a blow off in my mind).

Ever since then, I initiated a text a couple of times and she was alot more terse.

She has not initiated a text in 9 days, while prior to that we were texting almost everyday or every other day with her initiating 70% of the time.

Corey Wayne usually says when you feel a woman pull away you do nothing and she will come back if she is interested. Your inaction will make her curious.

Do i try one more time? Do you think this girl could actually think I am blowing her off because I have not texted her either?

any girl who can have sober sex with you and never talk to you again (the realm of men) is probably such a battle hardened slvt that you'd most likely get cheated on anyway, let her go.