Do you think that women are scared of rejection like most men are?

[nismo-4]

As I stepped out of my courtroom, I noticed how much men fear getting rejected by women. And I see how hurt they get when they do get rejected. Myself included. I'm not invincible to rejection. No man in the world is.

But do you guys think women are afraid of rejection at all? Why or why not?

Fellas, you have the floor.

 

[Zerro]

They're even more scared of it then men are, the only difference is that they're not expected to approach in the first place so it's not such a big roadblock for them most of the time.

 

[Fly By Night]

In my experience, they take rejection much closer to the heart then we do. A girl asked me out once but I rejected her. After that she started making disrespectful jokes about me around my friends, she pretty much hated me and didn't want to talk to me anymore.

Where guys just feel bad for about 10-60 minutes then just forget about it.

 

[Mike32ct]

You know I love translating what women say...

"I like a guy to approach me." = Yeah it's flattering if he's cute, but mostly, I'm scared sh@tless to approach him. I hide behind the convenient excuse that "It's the man's job to approach."

I think approach anxiety and fear of rejection are human traits, not just limited to men.

All that said, yes I think women ARE afraid of rejection. Have you ever gotten "proximity" ie she stands near you but doesn't say anything? She's afrad of getting rejected, so she expects you to start talking to her.

So yes, they are just as afraid of rejection as men. It's just less of a problem for women because men usually initiate contact with them and she gets to choose.

 

[PDubb75]

Now, of course what women say can't always be trusted. However, any girl I have made some comment to such as "So go ask him out" or "go ask him to dance", their first response is always something like "nooo, what if he says no?"

I have had conversations with some women about this exact issue. Mostly friend's g/f's. One in particular told me "it's the man's job to ask a woman out, or to make a first move". After probing, she gave in and admitted shes just too nervous to be rejected.

However, I think they hide their fear in these cases MUCH better than men do.

 

[Eternal_water]

They don't need to, they're lucky

 

[cablecow15]

Im positive of it , I honestly think that a lot of girls turn me down to dance because there afraid that I wont be receptive to them after we dance , sounds silly , but the way a girl will turn you down can show how they feel about the situation

 

[bigneil]

Yes, that's why there is a curve in the Interest Level to Number-of-Texts ratio. It's the lukewarm girls in the middle that text you the most - but as they start to care more they start to play games and avoid risking rejection.

Also, if you've ever dumped a girl you will see how AFC they are.

 

[Zerro]

In my experience, they take rejection much closer to the heart then we do. A girl asked me out once but I rejected her. After that she started making disrespectful jokes about me around my friends, she pretty much hated me and didn't want to talk to me anymore.

Where guys just feel bad for about 10-60 minutes then just forget about it.

Or a guy at least might be willing to try again in the future if she's looking more receptive. A chick on the other hand once rejected tends to hate you forever, they're also more likely to bring other guys around and rub try to it in your face that they can just have anyone else and want you to regret turning them down.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

I think women are afraid of rejection or what they think might be rejection.

There was a younger, absolutely stunning chick that always used to come in to my part time job. Always asked around if I was there to other co-workers. Asked a co-worker about me at a party. Would always want me to help her and her mom, one time her and her female cousin.

Problem was I had a girlfriend and she had a boyfriend when I first met her. (I wasn't sure months later.) I'm not the type to cheat. Period. I see no use for it and would rather just break up and be done with it. Anyway..

She would always ask me personal questions yet had sort of "I'm the sh1t. mentality about her though I never fawned over her and nothing fazed me.

Eventually she told me she was moving to an apartment in NYC for work and even though her family lives near where my part time is it was the last time I saw her since.

She also didn't know I'm much older than I look. So who knows. Perhaps she thought I was blowing her off and never came back. Though as hot and sometimes cool I thought she was her 'tude' kindof turned me off.

 

[MisterD]

They're more scared of rejection than men will ever be. "Men have to approach", "Men have to make the first move", they hide behind those shields because they absolutely fear rejection. How many women actually put themselves out there and go after what they want? Very few. Those are the same women that say men take rejections too personal and get bitter and they should just man up and face it.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

They're more scared of rejection than men will ever be. "Men have to approach", "Men have to make the first move", they hide behind those shields because they absolutely fear rejection. How many women actually put themselves out there and go after what they want? Very few. Those are the same women that say men take rejections too personal and get bitter and they should just man up and face it.

Completely agree.

"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" anyone? There is a reason for that saying.

Women have glass egos. Men fear rejection, women are scared stupid from rejection. That's partly why they don't approach....and also because they don't have to.

 

[nismo-4]

TWISI, You'd think women aren't scared of rejection because they've always got guys hitting on them.

But in a sense, I think they are because the women try to do the rejection first and quickly before the men do.

 

[SeymourCake]

What kind of stupid question is this? Everyone wants to be accepted. Just like men, they do fear rejection. Why do people here act as if the opposite sex is not human?

 

[comic_relief]

What kind of stupid question is this? Everyone wants to be accepted. Just like men, they do fear rejection. Why do people here act as if the opposite sex is not human?

because women are actually androids that lost their operating manual. we cannot figure out how to operate them so we attach secret meanings to every interaction there is until we "figure them out."

Didn't you get the memo put out by Allen when you started here?

- comic_relief

EDIT: EVERYONE fears rejection. Get over yourself.

 

[comic_relief]

Holy FUCK that's a stupid question.

what he said :crackup:

- comic_relief

 

[RedZone]

Of course they are. Everybody is/was afraid at some point.

 

[ka_mate]

I'm intrigued by the 9 (at the time of posting) guys who said 'No'.

Any of you guys want to share your opinion?

 

[Jitterbug]

Rejection really crushes them. You should give it a try sometimes, just for educational purpose.

 

[comic_relief]

Rejection really crushes them. You should give it a try sometimes, just for educational purpose.

I've seen it it happen when I have done it. They will become vindictive and refuse to ever talk to you again. Trust me, it is worse than guys when they get rejected!

- comic_relief