Do you think she likes me + What to say

[WingHead]

So today was the 6th day of school, and I was in one of my classes when this girl walks in and takes the seat in front of mine. I noticed that for the previous 5 days she had sat two seats up. As she was walking for the seat she made eye contact. I believe she looked at me a few days earlier when she was in the other seat.

So about 20 minutes into class she turns around and asks me, "What did he (the teacher) say the essay was about?" So I told her. About 20 minutes later from that she asks "Was this work sheet ever collected?" And of course I gave her the answer.

Now I ask if she likes me because the teacher gave us a sheet with the essay directions on it only a few days ago. And she could have asked anyone but asked me.

Do you think she does? I know I don't know her but I like her, she seems like the girl I've always wanted.

I'm gonna talk to her tomorrow, but I wanted suggestions on what to initiate a conversation with. Thanks guys.

 

[War Against Betaism]

You're looking too much into this bro. If she likes you, if she doesn't like you, who cares? She communicated with you, all that matters is she gave you leeway for you to begin talking with her. I've known plenty of women who have liked me and I didn't make a move and ended up not doing anything with them, and I have met plenty of women who didn't really have interest in me that I ended hooking up with. For as what to say, after class just go up to her and make small talk.

If you need help making small talk, there's this book called "The Art of Making Great Conversations and Small Talk" by Sean McPheat that covers not only on what to do in particular situations, but just plain gives you the big scope on being an interesting and sociable person. A comparison is like the old proverb "Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day, teach a man how to fish and you feed him for life." People could come in here and tell you what exactly to say but what about afterwards?

 

[WingHead]

So I talked to her today, we were talking and the teacher began a lecture so we switched to notes.

Best part is I got her number.

Now when do I ask her out? I don't want to get FZ'd.

 

[BongDuy]

Ask her in person, or whenever. You will most likely not get FZ'd that quickly, unless you act like a huge AFC.

 

[eaglez1177]

Well it seems that you two have pretty much just met...I think you should try to develop a little bit more attraction before you ask her to hang out...unless you feel that the attraction level is already pretty good, then go for it. Even if its something like "Yea im like pretty sure shes interested", then odds are shes definitely interested, and you should suggest you two hang out sometime. If its something like "Ehh im really not sure if shes interested", try to build a little more attraction, GET SOME KINO GOING (so you dont wind up in the friendzone), and then try asking. Your going to have to ask her to hang out eventually, no point in wasting an opportunity might as well give it a shot.

Main points: Initiate kino to avoid friendzone, look for IOIs, try to get into a real and deep convo rather than just small talk here and there

 

[WingHead]

Well it seems that you two have pretty much just met...I think you should try to develop a little bit more attraction before you ask her to hang out...unless you feel that the attraction level is already pretty good, then go for it. Even if its something like "Yea im like pretty sure shes interested", then odds are shes definitely interested, and you should suggest you two hang out sometime. If its something like "Ehh im really not sure if shes interested", try to build a little more attraction, GET SOME KINO GOING (so you dont wind up in the friendzone), and then try asking. Your going to have to ask her to hang out eventually, no point in wasting an opportunity might as well give it a shot.

Main points: Initiate kino to avoid friendzone, look for IOIs, try to get into a real and deep convo rather than just small talk here and there

Can you give me some examples of kino to use in this situation?

Thanks for the post, and great sig by the way.

 

[eaglez1177]

^Well BongDuy actually asked a similar question in a different thread, so I'll just repeat to you what I already said to him.

Theres really no actual canned kino moves that I can tell you about lol...kino isnt something that can just be thought up of like a canned pickup line. Kino should just be natural, you shouldnt have to try to come up with "moves" in your head to initiate kino. When your talking to a girl, kino should just be a spur of the moment thing, there shouldnt even be much thought put into it. Like whenever im gaming a chick and know I have her interested, I just naturally put my arm over her shoulder and bring her in to me as we walk or something. Its not something like "ohh should I touch her there? Should I put my arm over her now? Ummm wat other kino can I do?". Your comfort level should spur you on to bring about all the kino you want, and you should never be second guessing yourself or doubting yourself when your about to touch her.

Also, when regarding kino, I recommend you follow your impulses. If you have a sudden impulse to touch her here or there, then go for it! Be comfortable, and natural, like you've been touching girls your entire life.

Think of it like this: Say im in class and theres a girl sitting next to me that I think may be interested/a girl im trying to game. She turns to me and asks "Hey you have a pen or pencil I can borrow?" I smile, and say "Sure", to which I give her a pencil, but when I give it to her, our fingers touch (and maybe if shes really interested, she fiddles around with grabbing the pencil from my hand, just to maintain the kino for a little longer). See how I didnt even really think about it? It just came naturally.

Another example would be something as simple as this: Say the people in class are up and walking about for whatever reason. I walk towards the back of the room, and as I do so, I pass by this girl Im trying to get with. Instead of just walking right by her and not touching her at all, I lightly touch my hand on her back as I move by (and maybe since I did that, she turns her head towards me and smiles. Thats one extra smile I wouldnt have had if I didnt touch her at all). Once again, its all natural, and im not going through this whole process in my head like "Okay Im gonna walk by her now towards the back of the room, and as I walk by im gonna lightly touch her. Okay here I go". Thinking about this kind of stuff will just make you build up nervousness inside, and it will cause thoughts of worry and doubt to get into your head, which may result in you chickening out and not kinoing the girl at all.

EDIT: and thanks the quote is from the movie Batman Begins, its my favorite quote of all time and I LIVE by it.

 

[WingHead]

Update.

So on Wednesday we were in class and she talked to me just a little bit. Around 5:30 I texted her, she read it, no reply.

Thursday she doesn't say one word to me. I was pissed so I didn't bother to initiate a conversation.

Today, near the end of class she told me she switched into my 6th hour class. (I had previously mentioned what class I had 6th). She never said why. Her best friend is in that class so that's a possible explanation.

I think she has a boyfriend. Her myspace has a pic of her and some dude. This and her 'on/off' behavior has kept me from asking her out.

There are two other chicks I'm interested in so I could next her and despite the sh!t she's doing I still like her. I just don't know.

 

[Eugene123]

Just try to have fun!

Whatever is shes not interested in you, there are tons of other girls!

 

[Brighty]

Just play the game yourself and see where it happens. Just trust your judgement, otherwise you'll never learn from your mistakes.

 

[jeffthechef]

Stop wondering if she does because it doesn't matter.

Once you finish hs and perhaps college if you choose to go, you'll be out in the REAL world. Chances are you won't see the same girl day after day after day...

Stop thinking about every single damn step. The longer you wait; the more you're going to screw up.

Take her out. If she rejects your offer, continue on with the rest of the girls you're interested in.

 

[eaglez1177]

So on Wednesday we were in class and she talked to me just a little bit. Around 5:30 I texted her, she read it, no reply.

Thursday she doesn't say one word to me. I was pissed so I didn't bother to initiate a conversation.

Today, near the end of class she told me she switched into my 6th hour class. (I had previously mentioned what class I had 6th). She never said why. Her best friend is in that class so that's a possible explanation.

I think she has a boyfriend. Her myspace has a pic of her and some dude. This and her 'on/off' behavior has kept me from asking her out.

There are two other chicks I'm interested in so I could next her and despite the sh!t she's doing I still like her. I just don't know.

Well I wouldnt just next her without giving it a try...like some person said on this board on some thread somewhere, "Regret is much worse than rejection".

 

[pjtheman]

So on Wednesday we were in class and she talked to me just a little bit. Around 5:30 I texted her, she read it, no reply.

Thursday she doesn't say one word to me. I was pissed so I didn't bother to initiate a conversation.

Today, near the end of class she told me she switched into my 6th hour class. (I had previously mentioned what class I had 6th). She never said why. Her best friend is in that class so that's a possible explanation.

I think she has a boyfriend. Her myspace has a pic of her and some dude. This and her 'on/off' behavior has kept me from asking her out.

There are two other chicks I'm interested in so I could next her and despite the sh!t she's doing I still like her. I just don't know.

either you've done something to turn her off or she's just trying to make you want her by playing hard to get, filt with other girls and give her some time, don't text her alot or act needy (hopefully you allreaday know not to do this)

if she never replies in any way then next her and move on.


(also if you could, more info on the text, what did you put in it cause that way we can see if you've done anything wrong on that front)

 

[WingHead]

The text said something like "Hey, how'd you do on the test?"

And nah, I don't act needy or text her a lot. She didn't reply so oh well.

I've nexted her, she's pissed me off with her sh!t. I'm planning on asking out this HB8 I'm friends with, so wish me luck.

 

[WingHead]

I'm planning on asking out this HB8 I'm friends with, so wish me luck.

I asked her out. She said no, says I'm sweet but she likes someone. :kick: