Do you still keep convo short even if girl wants to talk?

[JCKey618]

My girl was sick today, so I called her to see how she was doing. We talked for like 10 minutes and then I said "Aiight, I'm going to let you go so you can get some more rest" and she said "But I'm not going back to sleep and I have nothing else to do..." but I just ignored that statement and told her I would see her at school tomorrow and said bye. I figured that since she is PMSing, I might as well quit while I'm ahead. Better to end the convo early at a high note then stay on the phone too long and having her looking for a reason to get off.

I know that you should keep phone conversations short and sweet, but should you bend the rules and have long phone conversations when the girl is hinting (or outright saying) that she wants to talk (not about anything important, but just to talk in general)?

 

[punkrockpylot]

if shes PMSing, shut down engines, hit ejector seat (if the ejector seat malfunctions, kick window out and tuck and roll) and get your arse outta there...

i usually keep everything short and sweet during PMS time to stay away from "doing something wrong..."

the punk DJ

 

[Vincent]

If you really want to talk its a not bad. If she really really wants to talk to you, i would go over there (unless shes pretty contagious). I personally hate talking on the phone. Just keep the 70/30 rule if you have to.

 

[Jester]

the conversation rule as reinvented by Jester is that you should keep talking until youve run out of good convo to talk about. If all you have to say is how nice the weather is, you shouldnt open your mouth at all.

Now being that she was sick, you should have kept talking to her, or better yet as mentioned, go over there and comfort her.


Eventually, you have to stray from the hard-set rules and regulations given to you by the DJ bible, there are small nuances that you must account for and be able to adapt to. The rules can not adapt, and so, they in time will fail.

 

[blienk]

When you're trying to attract the girl, the key is to always leave her wanting more. However, in a relationship, things loosen up a bit. I wouldn't recommend daily 2-hour phone conversations, but as long as you're both still interested in talking (and you don't have any real reason to hang up) I don't think there's a concrete time limit.

 

[misunderstood??]

Wasn't one of the big reasons to end phone conversations short because your supposed to get the girl to think you are not a loser and that you are busy and have other things to do, making you a challenge?
You let her go by making an assumption that she wanted to get off the phone to sleep. That makes it seem like sleeping should be more important to her than you are. You should've said YOU had something important to do and had to go, not tell her she has important things to do and shouldn't talk to you. No one wants words put in their mouth. It really isn't that a big deal, but next time remember you are the one who has to let her go because you have something to do, not the other way around.

 

[bust.it]

Originally posted by misunderstood??
That makes it seem like sleeping should be more important to her than you are. You should've said YOU had something important to do and had to go, not tell her she has important things to do and shouldn't talk to you.

Very true. That's your answer right there.

TBH it's whimpy to put your life on hold and talk to this sick girl for hours... she's got her mom and her girlfriends to do that. You check to see if she's doing ok, stop by if you need to, then you're outta there because you have your life to live.

Unless she's dying, a small flu doesn't warrant a long phone convo.