Do you still fancy me?

[Jizz]

Basically theres this gal with a bf, who i got into and stuff nothing happend just flirting etc, and then basically after some discussion/arguements over silly things she says "its probably the wrong choice but its best we dont talk" so im like ok fine, i dont contact her at all, ive chatted to her bf since and he doesnt like me and i think he reported back to her what i said to him (loads of crap, but i also mentioned i dont fancy her anymore)

so tonight after say a week of not talking she texts me saying

"do you still fancy me? my friend (a mutual friend that i know) doesnt believe me that you dont, just had to ask, hope work is good"

i dont wanna reply then an hour later her friend texts me saying "mike be honest with me you do fancy her still dont you?"

im thinking dont reply coz tbh whats the point?

but what would you reply saying?

cheers

 

[Jizz]

I did, but i couldnt be arsed with the bf ****, so we agreed not to talk (even tho it was clear we both wanted too, and its clear we miss each other, and shes kidding herself if she says otherwise, she wants me to give her attention when her bf doesnt, but i also think shes missing me as a person coz she definatly thinks im a cool guy)

im trying to move on, i have other gals but tbh im starting to get a lil oneitis since i havent been able to talk to her, most things are coming back to her and resulting in me thinking about her, which is a ****ing pain tbh

should i reply to either of them? if so what should i say?

im bound to speak to them on msn or in person soon, if they ask again what should i say?

if they ask why i didnt reply im just gonna reply "i was busy with some gals who dont have bfs"

 

[Jizz]

im tempted to text her tomorrow some point while she is at work and just say

"even when your not suppose to be talking to me, you cant help but talk and wonder about me with your friends, hope work is good"

what do ya think?

 

[Dr Box]

just reply with "well you fancy me.......thats obvious" (all credit for that line goes to David D)

 

[&UWlNoMeByThTrlOPusy]

'i only fancy girls that are available.'

 

[Jizz]

I like the idea of that reply "i only fancy gals that are available"

anyway this is just getting stupid now

so i text her back this morning, basically saying random crap like its not good that your trying to find out if somoene fancys you while you have a bf and stuff like that, i never gave her an answer to her question, despite her asking me about 5 more times saying things like "mike tell me!" and "please tell me! i just want to know!" "why wont you tell me?"

i told her she shouldnt be seeking attention from me while she had a bf she replied "i dont want attention from you, dont flatter yourself, well have a nice nite"

so i said "course you dont, hence the reason why you dont keep asking me if i fancy you or not, which you still dont know the answer too, have a good night yourself"

she replied "im not bothered about it anymore, i cant be bothered to talk to you when your acting stupid"

how can i reply to that? im thinking not say anything

on a side note, i have a party with her coming up this week, the only reason i got a ticket was because i was with her when he friend was giving out the invitations, this was a while back, now that its coming up, im gonna go, but i have no idea where it is, so i need to speak to this gal about it! im thinking phone her up a couple of nights before and just say "so hey, you hate me which is cool, but this party is coming up and i have no idea where it is, so how about we meet up and go together, obviously ignoring each other all night, but it will be fun"

 

[AmIAFC]

She's an Attention Wh0re. NEXT.......

 

[Jizz]

I know she is, and i know i should next but its hard seeing as we see each other most days at college but anyway

am i giving her attention here? i dont think iam, i think im doing pretty well, wouldnt you say?

just tell me if i should keep this attitude up around attention *****s or if im acting completely wrong

comment on the situation and what i should do and say not going "next" i know that and dont need people to tell me, but im not willing to next her just yet as i wanna sort things out with her

cheers

 

[joekerr31]

dude, you answered her question. not with your words but with your actions.

all she wants to know is that she still matters to you.

because you keep replying and playing games with her, she knows she does.

she KNOWS that if she dumped her bf tomorrow and chose you that you'd come running.

the ONLY defense against this type of chic is to cut contact completely.

you made a mistake engaging her in a conversation of her choosing - ie. whether you fancy her or not.

at this point you need to accept that she played you good, you feel for it, and that you'll never have the upper hand in this situation (no matter how badly you want it).

The only way for you to "win" now is to quit playing the game that she obviously still wants to play.

think of it like this. if i guy were to keep pushing you saying 'come mike, fight. lets fight you sissy" what would you do? either you knock him out or you walk away. pick one or the other. don't just stand there saying "hey stop that. i dont like that. you dont really want to fight your just being a bully. blah blah blah"

knock her out once and for all (with words!) or walk away.

pick one.

J

 

[Jizz]

what are the words that would knock her out then?

 

[joekerr31]

ok, this is a pretty underhanded tactic, but from the things you've said it sounds like this girl deserves it.

next time you talk to her act like a stand up and guy look her in the eye and say:

"listen. do i fancy you? no. I use to. but a friend of yours told me something about you that i found pretty shocking. and since then, to be honest, the most i'd ever want us to be is friends."

she will try to pull out of you what that "something" is. Just walk away and say "im done with this drama".

watch her world implode. she'll become ultra neurotic, start fighting with her friends, start thinking people know some slutty horrible fact about her that makes her look like a total fool when she tries to pretend to be cool and miss perfect.

after that there are a million things you can take back control of the situation.

she will probably want your approval again. not so much for you, but in hopes that whatever it was you found out wasn't any of her really slutty dirty secrets.

J

 

[Jizz]

yeh that sounds fun but bloody harsh aswell

she doesnt try to be miss perfect at all, shes a bit of an attention seeker but not a big one, only a lil one i would say, if that makes sense, she doesnt have any dirty lil slutty secrets, shes a virgin!

tbh thinking about it i have a feeling ive been really harsh with her, yeh ive been telling her she shouldnt be texting me and stuff which sounds afc, but the tone ive been using is quite harsh and sarcastic and arrogant eg

she said "ooo someones in a bad mood arnt they, not getting what you wanted again?"

so i replied "ha ha bad mood me? im a very happy bunny thanks, getting exactly what i want, just coz its not with you doesnt mean im enjoying it any less, 1 thing i will say tho, is seeking attention and flattery from other guys isnt exactly good is it? Your bf still not giving you any?"

anyway she probably thinks im a **** or wateva, and arrogant, but im not too bothered about it

im just gonna act myself from now on, and not worry about her, easier said than done i know but its worth a try, if i see her ill be like "hey" and ill just say "look you might think im a **** or wateva, im not bothered, i did fancy you, i like you as a person, i think your a cool gal, ur personality is what attracted me to you, not the way you look, but ur happy with ur bf and i dont go for gals who are taken, ill be your friend but thats all untill your single at least"

infact i might just text her saying that to end it all, and just say i hope were ok now, and im not playing anymore games with you

 

[AmIAFC]

Jizz,

No offense, but I don't believe you'll ever get over this chic. You'll be text messaging her today, tomorrow, next week, next year, and for however long it takes. She'll be the one to break contact with you, and you'll feel like an idiot/pawn.