Though I doubt anyone remembers (or cares) I've said many things on this forum regarding this subject.
Mentioning porn when speaking about sex is laughable and goes to show just how much the average man doesn't understand what sex really is.
I would go as far to say that the LEAST important part of sex is the physical act...sex is so much MORE than physical penetration.
Pornography really gripes me...watch any scene of porn. There is no build up, there is no tension, there is no anticipation...just a man pounding a woman for 30 minutes non stop with the occasional ***** licking and *******. If people think this is sex then no wonder they think sex is overrated.
I've said it before, but there is a bleak difference between the wants of a woman and the wants of a man.
Men want sex NOW, women want sex LATER.
Women experience sex the "BETTER" way IMO.
Everything leading up to the physical act is much, much more important.
To make an analogy of it, sex is similar to how Alfred Hitchcock advised on writing a good thriller movie.
If there's a bomb under the table that's about to kill someone, it's much more interesting if the audience knows that it is there ticking away while your characters don't. Because a scene where there is an explosion, turns into a scene where there might be an explosion or there might not and it will linger in the mind.
Therefore, sex is much more intense if it lingers on both yours and hers mind, but there is a BIG possibility that it might not happen, even though she suspects it will. Dangle the carrot in front of her and I guarantee you will enjoy it too.
When I go out with a girl I honestly don't know whether I am going to **** her or not...not every "date" with a woman should end with you banging her. Even if things are boring, I will deliberately do something to provoke her to give the date an "edge". Most guys want to build rapport with a woman, they want to find commonalities and talk with her like a friend...this leads to boredom. As far as I'm concerned there needs to be chemistry and tension...the sex is ALWAYS better when there is.