Do you guys have any girl friends who have a boyfriend?

[vagrant]

This is awkward man. I met this girl in my class. I have to admit I do like this girl A LOT but at the same time I know she has a boyfriend who she's been with for almost 6 years! I thought about it but no, I'm not going there.

Anyways, she's hot, pretty, smart and a really cool chick and I'd like to keep her as a friend because I'm trying to expand my circles but this girl really sees me as a threat to her boyfriend. I can tell she likes me even from the beginning and now after hanging out with me for a little bit, making her laugh and all that, I'm thinking she's falling for me a little bit and I can tell she is backing away from me. Is there any way I can make this work out?

As much as I like her I just want cool friends around. I'm 22, I have options, and I have no intention of ruining 6 years of relationship and I know she's already made up her mind anyways that her boyfriend is the one. I'm just pissed a little that this girl will cut all contact once school is done.

Anyone feel me? It's all about balance. I'm happy by myself but to be by myself all the single time? Everything is about balance.

Do I just let this girl go? How can I make her as a friend? Someone to invite during my birthday and sh*t. Is it possible? Or the fact that there's a little bit of attraction between us makes it impossible to be friends with each other?

 

[OFWHAP]

You can't be friends with this girl without being friends with her boyfriend as well. However you're attracted to her, but she is with someone else. There's no need to torture you like that. And either way, there's no need to worry about their relationship. You don't appear to be friends with the boyfriend so it's not like you're ruining anything between you and him. And don't worry, there's no such thing as the one. If this girl likes you enough, she'll leave her boyfriend for you. Girls have no problem ditching their men if something better comes along. It doesn't matter if they've been together for 6 years or 16 years. How old is this girl? Is she really going to marry her high-school sweetheart? Either way, you need to make a move or move on.

 

[DonJuan11]

I never understand guys who want to be 'friends' with a hot girl who has a boyfriend. You do all the work all day and her ego gets stroked while her boyfriend gets the sex from her at night? Doesn't seem like a good deal. What do you get out of it? Her touching you? Her talking to you for 5 min? The boyfriend doesn't do anything and he gets sex from her.

You have to look at girls as a transaction. Would you work at safeway for free?no. Then why would you give your time energy and money away without getting anything in return from a girl?

 

[Serg897]

I disagree with DonJuan11.

When I first moved to my new city for graduate school, I connected with a cute girl over beer, out of all subjects. I immediately thought that I needed to make moves on this girl - until I found out she had a boyfriend. Of six years. Exactly like what you describe. I've never met this guy still, since he doesn't live close by. But she mentions him often.

Still, I decided to remain friends with her after I found out what a cool person she is. You dont need to do anything special. Just treat her more or less like one of the guys - and she has been one of my most loyal friends since I've moved here. She has invited me out drinking, I've met other chicks through her, etc.

And, I've noticed that after nights of drinking she will turn her flirting up a bit - so I'll do the same. Just something interesting.

The bottom lime is that you ARE getting something in return - an expanded social circle and an outlet through which you can meet new people. If she is cool then being friends isnt a bad thing.

My two cents.

 

[jonwon]

This is awkward man. I met this girl in my class. I have to admit I do like this girl A LOT but at the same time I know she has a boyfriend who she's been with for almost 6 years! I thought about it but no, I'm not going there.

Anyways, she's hot, pretty, smart and a really cool chick and I'd like to keep her as a friend because I'm trying to expand my circles but this girl really sees me as a threat to her boyfriend. I can tell she likes me even from the beginning and now after hanging out with me for a little bit, making her laugh and all that, I'm thinking she's falling for me a little bit and I can tell she is backing away from me. Is there any way I can make this work out?

As much as I like her I just want cool friends around. I'm 22, I have options, and I have no intention of ruining 6 years of relationship and I know she's already made up her mind anyways that her boyfriend is the one. I'm just pissed a little that this girl will cut all contact once school is done.

Anyone feel me? It's all about balance. I'm happy by myself but to be by myself all the single time? Everything is about balance.

Do I just let this girl go? How can I make her as a friend? Someone to invite during my birthday and sh*t. Is it possible? Or the fact that there's a little bit of attraction between us makes it impossible to be friends with each other?

You contradict yourself:


"As much as I like her I just want cool friends around"

"Or the fact that there's a little bit of attraction between us"

"I can tell she likes me even from the beginning and now after hanging out with me for a little bit, making her laugh and all that, I'm thinking she's falling for me a little bit and I can tell she is backing away from me. Is there any way I can make this work out"?

If this girl dumped her BF today, you'd be the first in line.

I dont believe for a second you want her as 'just friends'.

I call BS.

It is clear you fancy this girl, you want to friend her in the hope of eventually getting in her pants. Your the kind of guy, that proves without a shadow why when a girl has male friends, it's not always so black and white and in most cases like your's is a guy willing to be a 'friend' on the sideline, but in truth he is after a bit more.

Perfect example of a guy being a male friend orbitor (in the hope of getting something more) trying to mask it has just friendship -

You want this chick, dont lie, I see through your BS.

I applaud the girl!

You, personnally, I dislike your actions - it's not going to get you the puss* in anyway shape or form, but you'll still try to find a way to latch on like a barnicle - Leave her the fuc* alone, save your friendship pandering bollo*cks for AW who will string you along.

 

[The Greek]

I think you can clarify that you just wanna be friends through actions and words. Interestingly enough, from experience this can have the opposite effect once in a while. A girl's interest can be raised by her getting friendzoned. Anyway let us know what you decide to do.

 

[Maxtro]

Being friends with a hot girl can only work if you have no desire to sleep with her. If you want to bang her then you are only hurting yourself by trying to be her friend.

 

[SexxiKing777]

I dont see anything wrong with just being cool with the gorl

I did this last year with a female I approached in class but turned out she had man so oh well, but we still became good study buddies and friends and we still cool to this day. We were a unstoppable team in the class. her man was pretty cool too. Don't get me wrong, she was sexy a hell, And I woulda banged her silly, but I didn't let that get in the way of anything plus I already had options so it was cool. Dont ever get attached to a chick in a relationship, no matter how much she might seem to "like" you. If she wants you then she'll leave her man, but if not then oh well

Besides, it's always cool to have more friends, especially females who you cam joke with and learn to be more natural around women with no pressure

 

[OFWHAP]

In the end, it's cool if you're friends with this girl. But don't be her friend while secretly hoping for their relationship to fail.

 

[PRMoon]

Hook up with one of her friends. That way you can remain just friends with her, still travel in her circle, and you get some tail out of it.

 

[kingsam]

hot chicks have hot freinds who you CAN bang... and they'll hopefully have put in some good words in for you already!