Do you ever just get bored with women?

[Wysiwyg]

My suggestion: change your focus. You go often to clubs? What about something different, like a rock bar or rock concert? Have you tried to get close to women in bookstores? Or Markets? The world is big, with many different places, and different women to each place! I used to go out to clubs, but i was bored as hell that time. I went then to some unsual concerts (unsual to me) and shows. i found my actual girlfriend in one of these shows, and we're together for almost three years now. Even better, i always find interesting women there - beautiful AND with something to say! Maybe it's just a matter of changing your ambience. C'mon, explore your world!

 

[Slickster]

If you smoke the herb it can kill all your motivation and make you feel this way too.

I went thru this years ago and I know exactly where you are coming from.

What helped me was when I decided to go back to school. Something about learning, bettering myself, the challenge, and fear of failure/success gave me the boost I needed to feel passion for life again.

 

[bugsquish]

I find it helps to go clubbing without planning to pull. I always have more success when I just focus on having a good time with my friends.

If you see a hot chick then you're already in a great mood. You'll be relaxed and indifferent to your success. This is obviously dynamite for your game. If no-one catches your attention then it's no big deal cuz you're having fun anyway. It also reduces the importance of a rejection which keeps you in a good mindset for the next target if it goes wrong.

If you go clubbing solo then it works just as well to make friends with anyone (m or f) at the start of the night and have fun with them. Having some big mission to score a chick is exposing your ego to a potentially unhealthy dose of disappointment.

 

[Click Here]

nothin for nothing but

you are the "hot girl that looks like she isn't having fun, and has no sexuality"

you described yourself when you were negatively describing the women. think about it.

 

[iqqi]

squirrels, you come across in most of your posts as a very intelligent man, with a lot of potential. but i think that you should take some time to realize that your way of thinking is leading you to unhappiness. either you are in conflict with two ideas, or the one idea you are clinging to is not the right one for you.

how long have you been feeling like this? are women really the root of the problem, or is it something deeper? are you projecting your negative feelings about other things in your life onto women and dating? i think you should really look into this, do some self introspection. if this has been going on for awhile now, then i'd say it is serious, and seeing as you are such an intelligent lad, i'd even say that this is a good thing. it is a personal revolution, big things are going on in the development of your character.

do not be so disheartened over women and dating right now. i'd say that is just the tip of the iceberg for you.

and do not ever look to women for happiness. you have to find it for yourself.

click here

 

[iqqi]

I was at a strip club last night...I had more fun CHATTING with the strippers and getting NO play than I think I could chatting up chicks in those clubs and getting any.

But then, I can't really get any. I get kisses, get numbers, but never get laid...as soon as I call them they're no longer interested.

I wonder if it's my fault.

notice how at the strip club you had no expectations, and you enjoyed yourself so much more. you were more interested in having a good time and chatting. and you had a much better time. maybe you should stop looking at clubs as a meat market, and look at them the same way you did the strip club, a place to have a good time, dance, chat, drink and be merry. stop having expectations, to get laid or anything. find happiness with yourself and your friends when you go to the club.

that is what PEOPLE (not only women) respond to anyways. if you are so negative, of course she is going to feel that. negative energy begets negative energy. it is so draining.

It's not so much conversation as it is SEXUALITY. Honestly, I don't think women understand sexuality. They think dressing up in short skirts and low-cut blouses makes them sexual beings...and it DOESN'T.

you even realize this. so why oh why do you still go to the club, find one of these girls in the short skirts and low-cut blouses, and expect them to be the sexual being you want? and this doesn't even mean that they aren't a sexual being, just look at the context you are placing on them. and don't forget about that negative energy floating over your head.

You say you've never had an interesting conversation with a woman. Have you ever heard the saying? " What you see in others is reflection of yourself "

this is the point i am trying to drive home. you should really look into this and think about it.

Squirrels you know I got a lot of respect for you and your words, but your analysis of the clubbing woman as some kind of asexual being is way of the mark. It's all there to play with, you just gotta play a little more and have fun with it - instead of seeing it as a chore. If your heart isn't in it they are gonna sense that. If you're not having fun then they won't have fun either.

bugsy sees it too!


squirrels, you remind me a lot of pook, more than anyone on here. he is at a great place now, and i think you too, will be.

 

[squirrels]

Maybe you're right...I DO expect a lot of the club environment. It's hard to just chill...especially since I took up the Gigalo/Nick Hill anti-mbation challenge and was aiming for finding the girl to complete the challenge.

I didn't feel much like going out that night...I did anyway. I get in funks occasionally, plus I'm not much on going to clubs alone.

I dunno why...sometimes I feel like it's clinical...sometimes I just get in a stretch of a few days where I don't feel so hot.

I try to go by the philosophy of "when you're going through hell, keep going..." so I still go out and try to DJ and all, but it obviously doesn't work. I just feel low on energy. It's getting better I suppose. I felt kind of ill that Friday night at the strip club, and I just thought to myself, "F it...a bunch of my friends are coming out, I'm gonna just relax and take charge and be the man tonight. And have FUN."

For some reason, I couldn't do that last night...partly because of the funk I was in...partly because of my expectations.

It is true...the more I think about the whole "DJ lifestyle", the more I think it's all about leadership by example. It's difficult, but I'm getting stronger each time. Soon those valleys won't be so deep and the peaks'll be higher. I SHOULD be able to lead these women by example, to be able to convey such a presence and energy that they feel compelled to mirror it, assuming they have it in them and AREN'T just "goofy hos".

Thanks for the support, as always. I just got back from the gym so I feel a lot better.

 

[iqqi]

I try to go by the philosophy of "when you're going through hell, keep going..." so I still go out and try to DJ and all, but it obviously doesn't work

i think that this works only for some people, and sometimes.

other people, or other times, you just have to ride that wave when it comes in. learn to recognize how serious of a wave it is, and if it is too big, ride it. if you try to swim, you will just end up drowning. (i speak from experience on this one. )

 

[Livingitup22]

Sounds like you need to take a step back and take a deep breath, Squirrles. I don't take advice very well when I'm down, so whether you decide to be receptive to any of this is up to you.

First of all, know that everybody has periods in their life where they feel depressed or unfulfilled. All of us--and I mean EVERY last person on this board--has felt the same way at some point in our lives. It's the unhappy times that make us appreciate the great days or weeks that much more. Yeah, it's a cliche, but it's also very true.

I sometimes get caught up in prose, type a lot of words, and end of saying very little of value, so let me get to the point.

If your not having any fun out at the clubs, don't go to them until you feel you can! Believe me, I sympathize with you about vapid women, I really do. But expecting much in the way of intelligent conversation at a nightclub is a bit of a stretch. Go bowling instead, or check out the new exhibit at the museum instead of going out for the same ol' friday night at the bar. Try and break out of your routine.

And who the hell cares about some dumb challenge? If it's putting pointless pressure on you and adversely affecting your lovelife, then simply don't participate. Also, you really shouldn't have as high expectations at the nightclub as your appear to hold. It's a ****ing bar! There are some nights at the bar or the club when I spend almost no time talking to women and instead spend most of the night people watching and laughing my ass off at the absurdity of it all!

One of the main pillars of the DJ philosophy is "Woman should never be the major focus of your life" Have you been observing this creed? It your frustrated or bored with women, take a few days--or a little longer--and invest your energies in your hobbies, freinds, family, education, etc. Personally, I often find am at my best picking up women on a saturday night if I spent friday night out with my buds and thursday night reading classical lit or a stimulating book on classical economics. It's all about balance