This, OLD, and feminism has ushered in an entitled new generation of women. I wish there was a way we as men could steer the ship back on course and back to balance between the sexes.
When order breaks down, you need to be a 'feudal over-lord'. You are the master of your own hard-won castle, with sound solid defenses. You may go on a skirmish or two, and then lower your drawbridge at home only to a select few.
I think it was Amante that pointed out recently that at the 3 month mark (what I call the 3 month resistance point) it is normal to push each other away. It can actually be a sign of high interest and you and/or her being afraid to care too much. I encountered this last December and we almost broke up literally on the (exact) 3 month anniversary of the first kiss (and first day of winter), but then had an incredible 6 months together. In hindsight, I'm glad I didn't miss that part. That was the part that made it all worthwhile, the "I love you" times. We both confessed to feeling exactly the same way (but both of us thought the other was pushing us away). The 6 month mark (said to be the point where you will always have feelings for them) went smoothly, but we then encountered more resistance at the (exact) 9 month mark and ended things rather instantly and fairly mutually (first day of summer). Relationships experience stress around the point where seasons change. It's sort of like "Ok we had a great summer, but now it's fall and winter is coming..." and women think more about where things are going.
I've been doing my part. If the girl doesn't thank me after the date, it's goodbye. No lunch dates. No curfews. No sharing her with another guy (who she tells you about). They have to pay for 20% of the dates. Hold true to your own principles and walk away otherwise. A girl who lets you walk that easily wasn't that interested.
