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Are Women More Sexual Than Men?
It's partly women's greater selectivity in mate selection that fools so many men into thinking that women have much lower sex drives than men.
We disagree vehemently with that conclusion -- it's clearly wrong!
Look at it this way: Until the medical advances of the last century, the consequences of having sex were far higher for women than for men. After all, it was women who ran the double risks of:
Pregnancy, and
Death during childbirth
If the "higher risk" scenario is true (and all evidence supports it), it's logical to conclude that women would need an even greater incentive to consent to sex … such as a stronger sex drive and/or a greater orgasmic capacity.
Based on anecdotal evidence, the average woman does in fact seem to have a greater sex drive than the average man.
But many men don't realize this, because women pretend to be less interested in sex and because women often try to be more discriminating in their choice of sex partners.
An easy way to visualize the difference between male mating standards and female mating standards involves using the "1 to 10" rating scale. You're no doubt aware of the ratings that men often use to rate the physical attractiveness of a given woman when describing her to a buddy.
Most women (by the law of averages) are 4's, 5's, or 6's, with progressively fewer 3's and 7's, 2's and 8's, and 1's and 9's as we move farther away from the mean. And some guys insist that there are no true 10's out there.
Within that statistical distribution, most men would find most women to be "acceptable" (assuming they couldn't do better).
But now imagine a world where there are only one-quarter as many women in the "5 to 10" end of the beauty range … but three times as many women in the "1 to 4" end of the range.
The men in this hypothetical world would be a lot less likely to find a woman whom they consider physically attractive. After all, most of the available ladies would be quite homely and there'd be lot less genuine visual excitement for those men.
A "9" or a "10" would absolutely mesmerize a man if he could find one (and have sex with her) in this hypothetical rarefied-beauty scenario. A man lucky enough to bed one of these extraordinarily-rare beautiful women would most definitely enjoy an experience for the ages, simply because such an encounter would be so truly special.
And that's the situation women face in terms of libido.
Women don't have as many opportunities to really enjoy Best Of Breed sex (it tends to be "rarefied" for them, thanks to the stiffer selection criteria they've evolved to require) but when they do enjoy it, they really enjoy it. Provided they have the right type of partner, females can climax far more often than can males.
That's Nature's way of prodding females to engage in sex (and to compete ferociously for the best males) despite the substantial risks and burdens of pregnancy and childbirth.
