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Don Juan
The more I come to understand women the less I like many of them.
Part of this has to do with the concept of love, if that concept even exists between a man and a woman.
In my life I have had no shortage of women tell me they love me, “I love you” over and over I hear. I’ve become cynical when I hear this now.
Months later I often get the, “I love you, but I don’t think love is enough” and usually this comes with a pretty angry breakup on their part.
Discussing this with a friend recently I asked, “Why do these women love me and then hate me?” To which he answered, “Because you do not give them everything they want” and I guess this is true, after a messy divorce I now protect my main assets, want a certain standard of behaviour, and do not want any more children, and I make this clear from the start.
This does not mean that I am not generous, I do the paying most of the time. I just believe fairness is that you get to keep what you work for, unless it is in a long term relationship where going forward from a point of marriage or binding commitment it is a 50:50 done deal.
Prove whether you want the love or the resources first, do you love me when I’m down and up, in alpha or beta mode…why…it’s…do you love me, “For richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, for better for worse etc”…perhaps the people who thought up the marriage vows actually had some idea!”
If you do not love me in that way, do not fricken tell me you love me!!!
I have real trouble with, as one girl I was sleeping with said to me, “Poor men, they go after youth and beauty, and that never lasts, but women go after resources and that always lasts.”
Well honestly how stupid to sacrifice love for resources, what a dumb deal. But maybe women know love does not exist, at least for them.
I work in an industry where the “resources” go up and down every second and they can be wiped out in minutes. My resources went down $10K in the last seconds of trading today. So what! Does this make me just slightly less alpha, less attractive? Apparently, to a lot of women, the answer is, yes!
Resources don’t last and things get old and are thrown away.
The one thing you would hope would last is love.
A friend of mine lost his job. Was his wife sympathetic and supportive? Actually no, she called him a b*stard!
I simply can’t get over the reality that I think women only love men for what men can do for them ie. What resources they can provide? At least this has been my general observation of the current generation.
I watched while a hot girl I’d often have lunch with, but knew enough to stay away from sexually, met a short balding guy with about… $30 million.
Over lunch one day she showed me a large diamond engagement ring. She commented, “I don’t know we just clicked. I love him.” “Yes, I though as soon as you learned he had $30 million your mental cash register went ching ching. It must be love, love, love!”
I sat back and watched the action, like watching a slow motion movie of a guy getting ripped apart by a she wolf.
She moved interstate to marry him.
Where did I last see her? Yep amazingly, three years later while walking past a divorce court. Poor guy I though, as she smiled happily.
The last I heard the guy actually eventually went under, his business after the divorce failed. At some stage the guy must have actually believed she had loved him.
I find many women incredibly vengeful, manipulative and cruel. Perhaps I have just been unlucky, but I look around me and see this as pretty common in many relationships.
Women on the whole have gained a lot better PR than they deserve.
Approximately, 80% of break-ups are apparently done by women, yep certainly some guys can be very bad people in relationships, but I find it hard to believe the guy is at fault 80% of the time. It’s easier to think that women are just not overly loyal, or heaven forbid they just do not love men, unless they continue to provide the right resources.
It’s interesting to turn all this around and say would I accept this kind of behaviour from my best mate? Most of the time you find yourself thinking, no way, he’d be a b*stard and no longer my best mate. Perhaps this is the standard we should hold all women too, the same standard we hold men to.
Maybe my experience is unique and unlucky, or maybe I have some fatal problem, who knows, but my experience is my experience. I am not bitter, I just observe.
The ironic part of all this, caused most likely by the feminist “entitlement” movement or perhaps just the base nature of women, is that I keep meeting women who are deep down miserable. If feminism is so good it should be making women happy, not miserable.
Feminism has been around since the 1960s, 50 years, how much longer can women play the “we’ve been suppressed” card?
Get out of the back office, take some risks, go and fricken invent something or build something for goodness sake! Then as guys we can turn the table and go after your resources, and find out just what a stupid approach it is, but hey many of us are just not that dumb. We already know.
I would not mind betting that anyone, man or women who goes for the “things”, instead of the “true love” primarily is going to end up miserable…and so it goes…but round like a circle in a spiral, is the “true love” just a fantasy anyway…something we know as a man we can give, but something a woman cannot give, at least not without sweeteners…a kind of male love psychological projection onto the woman?
Perhaps I live a fantasy but I just can’t accept the view that love does not exist, even if it is only in the smaller percentage of women. But perhaps I am wrong.
There are things far more valuable than resources, true love and time being two, and you can’t buy them.. well assuming they exist!
Part of this has to do with the concept of love, if that concept even exists between a man and a woman.
In my life I have had no shortage of women tell me they love me, “I love you” over and over I hear. I’ve become cynical when I hear this now.
Months later I often get the, “I love you, but I don’t think love is enough” and usually this comes with a pretty angry breakup on their part.
Discussing this with a friend recently I asked, “Why do these women love me and then hate me?” To which he answered, “Because you do not give them everything they want” and I guess this is true, after a messy divorce I now protect my main assets, want a certain standard of behaviour, and do not want any more children, and I make this clear from the start.
This does not mean that I am not generous, I do the paying most of the time. I just believe fairness is that you get to keep what you work for, unless it is in a long term relationship where going forward from a point of marriage or binding commitment it is a 50:50 done deal.
Prove whether you want the love or the resources first, do you love me when I’m down and up, in alpha or beta mode…why…it’s…do you love me, “For richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, for better for worse etc”…perhaps the people who thought up the marriage vows actually had some idea!”
If you do not love me in that way, do not fricken tell me you love me!!!
I have real trouble with, as one girl I was sleeping with said to me, “Poor men, they go after youth and beauty, and that never lasts, but women go after resources and that always lasts.”
Well honestly how stupid to sacrifice love for resources, what a dumb deal. But maybe women know love does not exist, at least for them.
I work in an industry where the “resources” go up and down every second and they can be wiped out in minutes. My resources went down $10K in the last seconds of trading today. So what! Does this make me just slightly less alpha, less attractive? Apparently, to a lot of women, the answer is, yes!
Resources don’t last and things get old and are thrown away.
The one thing you would hope would last is love.
A friend of mine lost his job. Was his wife sympathetic and supportive? Actually no, she called him a b*stard!
I simply can’t get over the reality that I think women only love men for what men can do for them ie. What resources they can provide? At least this has been my general observation of the current generation.
I watched while a hot girl I’d often have lunch with, but knew enough to stay away from sexually, met a short balding guy with about… $30 million.
Over lunch one day she showed me a large diamond engagement ring. She commented, “I don’t know we just clicked. I love him.” “Yes, I though as soon as you learned he had $30 million your mental cash register went ching ching. It must be love, love, love!”
I sat back and watched the action, like watching a slow motion movie of a guy getting ripped apart by a she wolf.
She moved interstate to marry him.
Where did I last see her? Yep amazingly, three years later while walking past a divorce court. Poor guy I though, as she smiled happily.
The last I heard the guy actually eventually went under, his business after the divorce failed. At some stage the guy must have actually believed she had loved him.
I find many women incredibly vengeful, manipulative and cruel. Perhaps I have just been unlucky, but I look around me and see this as pretty common in many relationships.
Women on the whole have gained a lot better PR than they deserve.
Approximately, 80% of break-ups are apparently done by women, yep certainly some guys can be very bad people in relationships, but I find it hard to believe the guy is at fault 80% of the time. It’s easier to think that women are just not overly loyal, or heaven forbid they just do not love men, unless they continue to provide the right resources.
It’s interesting to turn all this around and say would I accept this kind of behaviour from my best mate? Most of the time you find yourself thinking, no way, he’d be a b*stard and no longer my best mate. Perhaps this is the standard we should hold all women too, the same standard we hold men to.
Maybe my experience is unique and unlucky, or maybe I have some fatal problem, who knows, but my experience is my experience. I am not bitter, I just observe.
The ironic part of all this, caused most likely by the feminist “entitlement” movement or perhaps just the base nature of women, is that I keep meeting women who are deep down miserable. If feminism is so good it should be making women happy, not miserable.
Feminism has been around since the 1960s, 50 years, how much longer can women play the “we’ve been suppressed” card?
Get out of the back office, take some risks, go and fricken invent something or build something for goodness sake! Then as guys we can turn the table and go after your resources, and find out just what a stupid approach it is, but hey many of us are just not that dumb. We already know.
I would not mind betting that anyone, man or women who goes for the “things”, instead of the “true love” primarily is going to end up miserable…and so it goes…but round like a circle in a spiral, is the “true love” just a fantasy anyway…something we know as a man we can give, but something a woman cannot give, at least not without sweeteners…a kind of male love psychological projection onto the woman?
Perhaps I live a fantasy but I just can’t accept the view that love does not exist, even if it is only in the smaller percentage of women. But perhaps I am wrong.
There are things far more valuable than resources, true love and time being two, and you can’t buy them.. well assuming they exist!
