Do women normally respond like this?

[Thor’s hammer]

Hello,

this is a story of an aquintance, not me. I’m posting it here since it seems so unbelievable to be true. Normally, in my experience, this type of behavior gets you into friend zone or dumped. The man in this story, lets call him Jack, is ugly, balding and has no sense of fashion at all. He wears saggy clothes and a beanie to hide his receding hairline. He is definately not fit, but not too obese either. Jack is around 24 years old. He is always available, as if he would crave to be with someone all the time (a friend for example). The woman, which I will call Nicole, is very hot, has great sense of fashion, her body is 12 in scale from 1-10. Nicole is 29. They both go to same school. They both have a history of drug abuse and Nicole has been diagnozed having a BPD. She has been in mental hospital in her youth but that was more than ten years ago.

Jack and Nicole did know each other for almost a year before anything happened. They have talked in parties but nothing happened. Then something unexpected happens: they hook up. After hooking up, Jack leaves for a vacation for two months and texts Nicole every day many times a day. After vacation, when school starts again they become a couple. They seem to be together all the time. They have planned a common future when they were only 1-2 months in a relationship (kids, house etc.).

This leaves me wonder: how on earth is this possible? Normally texting that much does get you dumped or have things changed that much from 5 years or so ago that you stay in touch with a woman all the time? Also, planning common future just few months in seems a bit rushed to me? I hope you can elaborate what is going on. Am I missing something since I don’t find this ”normal”?

 

[Zimbabwe]

Why don't you ask Jack?

 

[Thor’s hammer]

Why don't you ask Jack?

I don’t speak to him anymore, personal reasons.

If this isnt a troll post....there are always outliers. They are rare

No, it is not a troll post. Maybe she is an exception to the rule.

 

[Macadellic]

a history of drug abuse and Nicole has been diagnozed having a BPD. She has been in mental hospital in her youth

Men with experience know not to get involved with her.

A woman is to compliment your life not complicate it.

So what you have here is a pump and dump girl with a man deprived of sex and lack of options.

Watch this relationship become openly “polyamorous” where Nicole has multiple sexual partners and Jack only has Nicole.

 

[mjb3617]

Story sounds scarily similar to my situation. Before I found RP and this site, I was seeing a girl like Nicole. Mentally unstable, cute but not hot, sex was great, and I had limited to no options. She had just broken up with her bf.

If I had know better at the time, I would have kept her as a plate and not promoted her to LTR. My god what a dumbass I was. Well you live and learn as they say. I learned plenty!

 

[Stuffnu]

This relationship is strictly based on a drug fueled mentality.
It completely fogs up the physicality.
Once one sobers up or gets there ducks in a row (likely her), it’s game over.

 

[Konada]

Hello,

this is a story of an aquintance, not me. I’m posting it here since it seems so unbelievable to be true. Normally, in my experience, this type of behavior gets you into friend zone or dumped. The man in this story, lets call him Jack, is ugly, balding and has no sense of fashion at all. He wears saggy clothes and a beanie to hide his receding hairline. He is definately not fit, but not too obese either. Jack is around 24 years old. He is always available, as if he would crave to be with someone all the time (a friend for example). The woman, which I will call Nicole, is very hot, has great sense of fashion, her body is 12 in scale from 1-10. Nicole is 29. They both go to same school. They both have a history of drug abuse and Nicole has been diagnozed having a BPD. She has been in mental hospital in her youth but that was more than ten years ago.

Jack and Nicole did know each other for almost a year before anything happened. They have talked in parties but nothing happened. Then something unexpected happens: they hook up. After hooking up, Jack leaves for a vacation for two months and texts Nicole every day many times a day. After vacation, when school starts again they become a couple. They seem to be together all the time. They have planned a common future when they were only 1-2 months in a relationship (kids, house etc.).

This leaves me wonder: how on earth is this possible? Normally texting that much does get you dumped or have things changed that much from 5 years or so ago that you stay in touch with a woman all the time? Also, planning common future just few months in seems a bit rushed to me? I hope you can elaborate what is going on. Am I missing something since I don’t find this ”normal”?

You forgot to add in the part where Jack gets divorced raped and have all his children hate him.

 

[Thor’s hammer]

So what you have here is a pump and dump girl with a man deprived of sex and lack of options.

I have thought about this too. This is true what comes to Jack.

Story sounds scarily similar to my situation. Before I found RP and this site, I was seeing a girl like Nicole. Mentally unstable, cute but not hot, sex was great, and I had limited to no options. She had just broken up with her bf.

If I had know better at the time, I would have kept her as a plate and not promoted her to LTR. My god what a dumbass I was. Well you live and learn as they say. I learned plenty!

Sometimes we have to learn the hard way. Been there, done that. Maybe it’s the hormones and lack of experience which cloud our rational thinking and cause us to act irrationally.

This relationship is strictly based on a drug fueled mentality.
It completely fogs up the physicality.
Once one sobers up or gets there ducks in a row (likely her), it’s game over.

I get your point. However, in this case they are both sober. They both have used drugs before they even met, but not anymore.

You forgot to add in the part where Jack gets divorced raped and have all his children hate him.

This. Although divorce laws here are not as bad as in the US, the children usually go with their mother and the father has to pay some part of his income as child support.


So we got a bit mixed opinions here: that she is either an outlier or a trap. Only time will tell.

 

[RangerMIke]

This is all timing. Women change like the weather, only where they float is less predictable. Don't get caught up thinking this is something that happened with the dude and gal. The man has NOTHING to do with this... it is all about where the chick finds herself emotionally at that moment in time.

Don't believe me? Well, how many times have you seen a hot dude with a fvcked up chick in a relationship? Sure he will pump and dump them, but she has to have something physically going for her. You never see a man with model good looks with a 200 lb woman.

There are many examples of some super hot chick with a dude that you just don't see how it could happen.... It's all timing. In this case this chick was getting close to 30, saw that her life wasn't going where she wanted, emotionally corrected 180 degrees. The problem for the dude is that he doesn't realize the emotional wind that brought this chick to him, can also swing against him... and usually it does.

See the "Scorpion and the Frog", a person's basic nature does not change... it is formed in early childhood. Men can and do recover from childhood chaos and trauma, women never do. Now a woman can, with a lot of counseling and therapy, be conditioned to function in a normal society... but all that happens is this is covered up with drugs and coping mechanism. She can be taught to function as a member of society, but she can never be completely fixed for a relationship.

I know one woman, super hot... really a full blown 10. I've known her for 6 years now. I have watched her go from a fat rich dude, to a musician in a jam band, an opera singer, to a surgeon, to a performance artist, another musician, and now a man from a wealthy Pakistani family... when ever she is in these relationships, she morphs into whatever the fvck situation she finds herself in. All these men were in 'relationships' with this chick, NONE OF THEM had any idea who she really was... which is a badly emotionally damaged woman, now in the mid 30s, who was raped by her father...

 

[KindredSpiritzz]

i have always had good luck texting women on a regular basis, whether its pre first date or 6 months into dating. They like to communicate and talk and if they're not doing it with you they'll be doing it with someone else. To me its low effort to keep a plate spinning and happy. No chick wants to start feeling like the only time you text is when you want a date (sex). And yes i know many of you dont agree with me.

 

[Thor’s hammer]

This is all timing. Women change like the weather, only where they float is less predictable. Don't get caught up thinking this is something that happened with the dude and gal. The man has NOTHING to do with this... it is all about where the chick finds herself emotionally at that moment in time.

Don't believe me? Well, how many times have you seen a hot dude with a fvcked up chick in a relationship? Sure he will pump and dump them, but she has to have something physically going for her. You never see a man with model good looks with a 200 lb woman.

There are many examples of some super hot chick with a dude that you just don't see how it could happen.... It's all timing. In this case this chick was getting close to 30, saw that her life wasn't going where she wanted, emotionally corrected 180 degrees. The problem for the dude is that he doesn't realize the emotional wind that brought this chick to him, can also swing against him... and usually it does.

See the "Scorpion and the Frog", a person's basic nature does not change... it is formed in early childhood. Men can and do recover from childhood chaos and trauma, women never do. Now a woman can, with a lot of counseling and therapy, be conditioned to function in a normal society... but all that happens is this is covered up with drugs and coping mechanism. She can be taught to function as a member of society, but she can never be completely fixed for a relationship.

I know one woman, super hot... really a full blown 10. I've known her for 6 years now. I have watched her go from a fat rich dude, to a musician in a jam band, an opera singer, to a surgeon, to a performance artist, another musician, and now a man from a wealthy Pakistani family... when ever she is in these relationships, she morphs into whatever the fvck situation she finds herself in. All these men were in 'relationships' with this chick, NONE OF THEM had any idea who she really was... which is a badly emotionally damaged woman, now in the mid 30s, who was raped by her father...

Those are pretty interesting points. I did not think of it that way. Timing makes sense. And the fact that it has nothing to do with the dude. And the theory on emotional winds is quite descriptive. It might be the case where a woman around 30 uses a guy for kids and dumps him. Your description about the 10 sounds like BPD mirroring.

i have always had good luck texting women on a regular basis, whether its pre first date or 6 months into dating. They like to communicate and talk and if they're not doing it with you they'll be doing it with someone else. To me its low effort to keep a plate spinning and happy. No chick wants to start feeling like the only time you text is when you want a date (sex). And yes i know many of you dont agree with me.

It probably depends how much texting and what you talk about. My experience has been that being too interested in a woman leads to rejection. Maybe it was due to weak behavior because I was too invested in a woman? Anyway, do what works for you. Personally I’m quite cautious on texting.