Night Owl said:
Never ever chase or pursue. Let the women do all the chasing and pursuing. The only women worth knowing are those that chase after you. End of story.
Why waste precious time, money and energy running after something you might, if you are very lucky, get. The one that chases after you is a sure thing. And don't believe there are not women after you either. They are right under your nose, and you miss them by a hair's breath because you are too busy looking for that perfect 10 or too busy running all those chat up lines and moves through your brain.
As the words of a recent song said.
"Sometimes you walk by the good ones
'Cos you're trying to hard, too hard to see them"
Be open to be chased, let them come to you. I have never chased after a woman, I have never asked a woman out on a date or asked for a phone number nor used any daft chat up opening lines, yet I have scores of notches on my bedpost with HB5 - HB9s.
You are all trying too hard, let go and see what happens.
You are the prize, let them queue to claim you.
I've taken this exact approach my whole life with women, but it's rarely gotten me anywhere. But again, everyone has different experiences on here..like I say, "Let your own experience be your guide with women".
My personal experience has taught me that the GREATER majority of times, an attractive/hot woman won't "vibe" you(won't show interest, acknowledge you, smile at you, etc.) even if you're good-looking or her so-called "type". And as far as I can tell, this seems to happen to A LOT of guys. So, based on that, I'd say a guy really has NO OTHER choice but to cold-approach a hottie whenever he can. Because I can assure you based on my experience, that MOST OF THE TIME, if you wait for "vibes", you'll literally be waiting your life away.
I must also agree that "pursuing" and "chasing" the way I've always understood it, means the same. If you're gonna go for a chick, do it in a way that conveys to her that you don't have to be doing this, you don't need her, that you're doing her a favor by giving her your time. But it has to be done with seductive charm, not in a distant way.
So yeah, in conclusion, I've taken the, "Let them come to me, I don't chase women" approach. In my experience, it hasn't worked well AT ALL, except with a few exceptions. It really is a numbers game. I know, it's ruthless and f*cked up, but what can ya do? No one said life is easy for a guy. That's why, I'd much rather spend my time messing around with attractive CLEAN escorts/prostitutes here and in Amsterdam during the time that I'm not reeling anything in. A ton less of a hassle, to the point, no beating around the bush, you know what you're gonna get, it's guaranteed. I've noticed too, since I've been messing around with escorts/prostitutes, it's been much easier to toss a hot chick to the curb or being rejected. Why? Because of OPTIONS.
