Do U think men that laud ugly women do so to fool themselves for not being able to get pretty ones?

[MatureDJ]

I was reading this man explain why he's proud of his ugly woman. It was started by a self-professed ugly woman asking a question, and there is a particular comment by a man that got me thinking:

https://www.quora.com/Ive-been-told...ver-been-in-a-relationship-Why-is-life-unfair

I've been told by a lot of men that I'm an "ugly girl". I'm in my late 30's and have never been in a relationship. Why is life unfair?

I am a man. 30 Years old.

I loved a girl. She was ugly by society’s standards. She was 29 when we met.

When showed her photograph to some of significant ones, they surprised that how can I fall in love with ‘this’ girl.

‘This’ girl was dark, she was a bit fat. She was not tall. She had her teeth protruding and she had not used braces. She used to sweat a lot.

In society, where fairness is the beauty standard, you can imagine this girl was not at all beautiful.

When I showed her photograph to one of friend, she laughed at me, and got angry too. She said that how can I fall in love with such ugly person. She even said that she even does not look like a women.

Now, why did I fall into love with her?

• She was sincere in her work.
• She and I used to have discussions on many topics including our work.
• She was very much honest. She accepted the most severe mistakes in her life. of course, she was at fault but then she believed in me and accepted everything.
• She was earnest and intense. She was earnest in her intentions and she was intense in her love. Both the qualities, I liked so much.
• She was messy and complicated, but she was also a strong person. She was smiling after all that she had faced in her life.

Why I am telling this to you?

• Those people who have told you that you’re ugly are themselves ugly. Those who cannot go beyond bodily beauty, cannot see the inner beauty and should not be taken seriously at all.
• Life is never fair and it was not never fair - not to you but to most of us. So it is in vain to complain. Seriously, I also feel that life is unfair to me and I am not very much positive about life and living but then I try not be negative, that is it !!
• I suggest to you - to never take these men seriously. Our society is flawed, absolutely flawed and hypocrite.

You find your calling in your life. Try to work hard, even it seems hard. Try to find happiness in your work and just go on living your life.

(I am kind of practical, though I may sound pessimist but I can’t say things - like fly or chase your dreams or something like this because I myself have been alone and I know, how it is difficult to tread the path alone, let alone ‘fly’.)

Thank you. I hope you will read my answer and find something useful!

My opinion: If this woman is in the USA, she must be extraordinarily butt-ugly to not have some desperate man not want to pursue her. And this guy who responded is trying to justify his reasons for having an ugly woman so as to not admit that he could not attain a better one.

 

[sosousage]

I dont wanna discriminate all fat women (some are too old to change, or sick) but a big part of them is simply lazy, refusing to change, bringing their partner down (assuming they had any, otherwise bringing people around down). sure there are ugly girls that just were born this way and not much they can do apart from clothes make up and fitness, however fat women are a surprise to me. Do they want to spend their lives in such a shape? lol. some pretend they are actually happy with their lives (or maybe they are happy) but I just can't tell HOW are they able to have positive vibes while having such a body (or maybe they are not able).

most fat women I know have a bf that couldnt score any better/a bf that does a lot of hard drugs and doesnt seem like he controls it, or a bf that never has any girlfriend before, or dont have a bf.

Anyway these women are rooten in the core, if you are really fat then society will point out their fingers at you and laugh at you in every possible situation (even at the street). Do you think they can remain normal after living 20 years of such shame and brainf*k? lol

 

[Elias.Barbarian]

Definitely, agree with MatureDJ.
If the guy writing this loves this woman, why does he feel the need to justify this to everyone else?
Why is he making his relationship into some kind of social cause? This is really bizarre. If anything, I would assume that this is a fake story, that the author wrote to further his cause of fat-acceptance.

If true, then he is trying to justify his situation to his own ego, by one-upping against everyone else. He is portraying himself as enlightened because he dates someone that others would not. He could either accept that he has no other option or try to argue that he is actually a hero. What do you think is more attractive to the ego?

I really do not like these kinds of discussions: I am ugly - society is unfair. Jesus. Why does everyone expect anything from this life? Yes, life is unfair and nobody owes you anything. So go out there and gain control over the factors that you can control. Get in the gym, eat right, own your imperfections, make your life awesome and fun. Why do people deem it to be easier to bend society in a way that suits them, rather than working on themselves?

 

[marmel75]

No. I think they are just desperate.

 

[Urbanyst]

If you can't date a HOT woman, just stay single or f*ck prostitutes.

We don't need ugly women reproducing. No ugly woman will ever have the opportunity to reproduce with MY sperm. No way in hell lol.

 

[MatureDJ]

If you can't date a HOT woman, just stay single or f*ck prostitutes.

We don't need ugly women reproducing. No ugly woman will ever have the opportunity to reproduce with MY sperm. No way in hell lol.

This attitude of preferring to not reproduce with an unworthy mate does have some evolutionary value. From the POV of the individual who is being picky, it is a form of self-culling so that the familial support of the individual's parents (i.e., in terms of grandparenting attention & inheritance, etc.) is not wasted on a weak offspring (i.e., the other offspring who could manage to reproduce are therefore stronger) and/or weak mating of the offspring.

It is very interesting how ALL behavior has an evolutionary basis.