Do street approaches ever work for you guys?

[RickTheToad]

I've been getting into cold approach. I've had some good interactions with women when they are stationary (like sitting in a park, for example) but I haven't really had any good interactions on the street. The times I've done it they usually walk away quickly and are creeped out. A lot of stuff I read from PUAs (or whatever the hell you wanna call them) say it's important to approach on the street when there's a high probability of rejection. But is there actually any point to it? How many women do you know who met their partner when he chased her down in a busy crosswalk? Have you ever succeeded with this? To be clear, I'm not giving up on cold approach, but just questioning whether chasing girls on the street/sidewalk specificallly is even worth it.

I do not see why not.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Since I don't do OLD and am very careful about social circle dating, every relationship I've had in the last 3-5 years has been from cold or warm approach (mostly cold but a few warm).

1. A 23yo I picked up as she walked down the street. I walked in front of her to stop her in her tracks. We dated for a year.
2. A 31yo I picked up as she walked her dog down a greenway and I was walking mine. We dated about 6 months
3. A 31yo girl I chatted up at a sport event. We dated 9-12 months
4. A 24yo girl I picked up in a grocery store. We dated 3-4 months
5. A 30yo girl I picked up at a brewery. We dated 2-3 months

There are more that didn't turn into anything beyond a date or some sex.

It works. The reason you don't hear about more couples starting out from cold approach is that 97% of guys don't have the balls to cold approach. It's really that simple. It's not that it doesn't work, it's that not many guys do it.

 

[Sam_J]

Since I don't do OLD and am very careful about social circle dating, every relationship I've had in the last 3-5 years has been from cold or warm approach (mostly cold but a few warm).

1. A 23yo I picked up as she walked down the street. I walked in front of her to stop her in her tracks. We dated for a year.
2. A 31yo I picked up as she walked her dog down a greenway and I was walking mine. We dated about 6 months
3. A 31yo girl I chatted up at a sport event. We dated 9-12 months
4. A 24yo girl I picked up in a grocery store. We dated 3-4 months
5. A 30yo girl I picked up at a brewery. We dated 2-3 months

There are more that didn't turn into anything beyond a date or some sex.

It works. The reason you don't hear about more couples starting out from cold approach is that 97% of guys don't have the balls to cold approach. It's really that simple. It's not that it doesn't work, it's that not many guys do it.

Good point. And it's not 97 percent of guys who don't have the balls, it's more like 99.7 percent.

 

[Sam_J]

There used to be before 2014, but the authorities cracked down on it as well as the media. If anything @PRW63 got it backwards. Toronto, Canada you could get arrested for it, they cracked down in 2013/2014, decimated the PUA culture, now the UK is following that trend and it will eventually be like Toronto too.

How could you get arrested for telling a woman you think she's attractive and asking for her number then leaving if she's not interested? What is the crime? If anyone actually ever got arrested for approaching, my bet is that he either grabbed a girl or followed her for a long time and wouldn't leave when she said no.

 

[corrector]

How could you get arrested for telling a woman you think she's attractive and asking for her number then leaving if she's not interested? What is the crime? If anyone actually ever got arrested for approaching, my bet is that he either grabbed a girl or followed her for a long time and wouldn't leave when she said no.

You could be asked to leave the premises by security if you are loitering around a mall and approaching women who are shopping there and making them feel uncomfortable.

 

[Sam_J]

You could be asked to leave the premises by security if you are loitering around a mall and approaching women who are shopping there and making them feel uncomfortable.

Possibly if you were approaching a bunch of women right in front of security and not leaving them alone when they say no. But you were saying you could actually get arrested just from introducing yourself to women. That's ridiculous. Obviously you gotta know when to leave, if they're uncomfortable or ask you to go away then just say sorry and leave. Some guys push it too far.

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

Since I don't do OLD and am very careful about social circle dating, every relationship I've had in the last 3-5 years has been from cold or warm approach (mostly cold but a few warm).

1. A 23yo I picked up as she walked down the street. I walked in front of her to stop her in her tracks. We dated for a year.
2. A 31yo I picked up as she walked her dog down a greenway and I was walking mine. We dated about 6 months
3. A 31yo girl I chatted up at a sport event. We dated 9-12 months
4. A 24yo girl I picked up in a grocery store. We dated 3-4 months
5. A 30yo girl I picked up at a brewery. We dated 2-3 months

There are more that didn't turn into anything beyond a date or some sex.

It works. The reason you don't hear about more couples starting out from cold approach is that 97% of guys don't have the balls to cold approach. It's really that simple. It's not that it doesn't work, it's that not many guys do it.

When I'm in public and I see attractive girls, it doesn't even occur to me to try to talk to them on a personal level. I just assume the guy they're with is their bf, etc. or just that they're too busy to be bothered by a stranger.

Plus I don't know what to talk about anyway. I'm not good at pointless talk or small talk.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Not every girl on the street is with a guy. I personally won't approach a girl with a guy as I too assume he is her BF. It's just not worth it. I see girls out by themselves or with groups of girls more often than girls with guys. Or maybe it's that I immediately disqualify and make invisible, girls who are with guys? Not sure.

You don't have to small talk with girls. I don't. I actually have very deep conversations with women - so deep that it really turns them on. They feel like this is their Cinderella moment where they've met the man of their dreams because they've just had the deepest and most profound and personal conversation with someone who really sees them and is curious about them. It plays very well into their love at first site fairy tail script, but all that jaded commentary aside, there's nothing fake about what I'm doing and I am 100% sincere in my being curious about them. I've just learned how to have deep, fun, and meaningful interactions with strangers instead of small talk. I wasn't a natural at it. Not at all. It's like nearly everything else: something one has to learn and practice. I've spoken about it many times on this forum and given specific instructions on exactly how to do it. It's really not difficult actually. But most people read it and think, "Oh, well that sounds easy. I know I could do that" but then they never go out and actually apply it.

 

[corrector]

Not every girl on the street is with a guy.

But they are on their smartphones texting or swiping guys.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Could you direct me to it? I don't want to have to search through dozens of your past comments to find it.

This:

Being outside today

I just came home from being with 5 guys and 1 girl (the gf of one of the guys) in a riverwalk full of people. Lots of people in mixed company were lounging around, some people had brought music, and there was some dancing going on. I like to observe social situations, and there were two things...

www.sosuave.net

And:

The fluff zone

Any tips on transitioning out of fluff talk? If I start it to build comfort I seem to get stuck in it, convo gets boring fast.

www.sosuave.net

 

[corrector]

Buy a sex doll then.

How is your approaches going? Maybe you should buy one since you can't get a second date to save your life. I'm more successful than you are because I'm getting the same results as you are with less work.

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

Hey man, I'm just trying to help you. You want to stop masturbating, so that's not an option. You view yourself as so ugly that no woman will ever want to talk to you. You will not entertain being with obese women. I guess a sex doll or dismember yourself are the only options left.

Actually he could fvck 10's every day if he can afford it and is in the right location.

He could do that so often that it gets boring.

 

[corrector]

Hey man, I'm just trying to help you. You want to stop masturbating, so that's not an option. You view yourself as so ugly that no woman will ever want to talk to you. You will not entertain being with obese women. I guess a sex doll or dismember yourself are the only options left.

...or putting you on ignore. You forgot that one.

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

Yeah you're right prostitution can be an answer for him. Or he could try guys instead. Maybe he would be a 10 to gay guys?

Big difference between the two... And as much as people talk down about paying escorts on here... Here's a VERY short list of some well-known people known to have done that...

-Justin Bieber
-Shaquille O'Neal
-JFK
- Martin Luther King Jr.
-Donald Trump

I could go on for hours if I wanted.

 

[Travel memoir21]

There used to be before 2014, but the authorities cracked down on it as well as the media. If anything @PRW63 got it backwards. Toronto, Canada you could get arrested for it, they cracked down in 2013/2014, decimated the PUA culture, now the UK is following that trend and it will eventually be like Toronto too.

Damn, approaching women is so basic and guys have been doing it for millenniums....how are people gonna procreate it now?

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Work? Yes. Probability is low but wtf is your alternative? World class has a 10% success rate. How's that for perspective? My D won't suck itself.

 

[corrector]

They say if you cold approach but look too old then it looks creepy. Not sure what the age-cut off for that would be. But this sounds something more ideal for the 20s and early 30s crowd unless you don't look as old in the 40s, 50s, etc..... But an old guy approaching young woman for anything other than directions or business.....

 

[Sam_J]

They say if you cold approach but look too old then it looks creepy. Not sure what the age-cut off for that would be. But this sounds something more ideal for the 20s and early 30s crowd unless you don't look as old in the 40s, 50s, etc..... But an old guy approaching young woman for anything other than directions or business.....

You're making excuses and they're not good ones either

 

[corrector]

You're making excuses and they're not good ones either

You are 24 y/o and I'm 45 y/o so cold approach is more natural for your age. You don't see older people cold approaching. This is a young adult thing.

 

[Sam_J]

You are 24 y/o and I'm 45 y/o so cold approach is more natural for your age. You don't see older people cold approaching. This is a young adult thing.

There's a guy on YouTube with the channel "AlphaMaleSecrets" who is in his 40s and successfully approaches women around 20. I think he's a huge idiot and disagree with a lot of what he says about women and politics but that's beside the point--he still is able to approach even tho he's older