Do older chicks like AFCs?

[WestCoaster]

Depends on dating history/divorce

I've met some incredibly immature mid-30's women, usually carrying the baggage of recent divorce who want a quick fling and still date dirtbags. Best to stay away from them. They say they want an LTR, a commitment, but at one time they believed in intimacy but that was shattered with a bad marriage and divorce so the best way around that is to have quick, useless flings. While that is fun for awhile, the older one gets (like me), the more worthless it really is if one wants a mature girlfriend.

At the other end, I've dated some young 20's who are incredibly mature and know what they want out of life. It's really odd.

I think the big indicator for most older women is the divorce or break-up of an LTR or live-in boyfriend. How they have or have not resolved that issue in their life depends on how they treat you.

As for DJing them, it still works well, just that they don't always bite as quick as the youngsters. Sometimes they want a little more persistence and effort, but don't EVER act like their rejections or pullbacks is affecting your behavior. They bail real quick on that stuff, just like a youngster.

 

[Doppler4000]

Re: Depends on dating history/divorce

Originally posted by WestCoaster
I think the big indicator for most older women is the divorce or break-up of an LTR or live-in boyfriend. How they have or have not resolved that issue in their life depends on how they treat you.

Exactly... If they've survived the wrong guy and A. understand why he was the wrong guy and B. are still sane, you've got a good catch there. They're not chasing the a-holes anymore.

For the older women- status and CONFIDENCE go a long way- think James Bond here. If you can treat them respectfully and well while at the same time being confident and not coming off as overemotional and needy (ie. what you guys call AFC), you'll do well with the mature older women. They're still looking for a thrill, but not necessarily in the same way as a 21 year-old.

 

[tamales]

Oskiano... or whatever your name is..... bite me But yeah, I'll try and get some sleep and shut my trap.. You obviously, don't need any input.. Sorry, you seem to have everything under control.

Good luck hon!

 

[oskiano]

Tamales, you're the best...see guys, they do get better with age.

Who said anything about sleep? Now get over here so I can bite you.

Tony

 

[tamales]

And you are sooo wrong about years being kind to me But whatever.....There are some very hot and I mean hot older chicks! I work with mainly 20 something others and my ass, face and overall shape.. will rule anyday.. Just be careful.. There are some very hot older chicks and age has done me a favour. I am the best I have ever looked and even in my young days when I modeled I still have people saying I never looked better.

I have done treatments but so far no plastic surgery or major jobs.. and yes,, I love my breasts. No. I am not 20 but for an old broad not bad. I can easily and have scored on men in their 20's but I find them boring and well, they very well, should be seeking a much younger gal.. Not all but some. So again, bite me O... At 34, you would be lucky to have me and I know exactly the types of chicks you attract.... afterall, aren't you my age.. boast all you want but I highly doubt you would live up to my standards.... So bite me.. I am off tonight and worked until 8 and well,, who really cares.. I didn't post that to get bashed but whatever.. I don't really care. Good luck to you... That wasn't my reason for posting but you can forget ever getting on my knees for you for anything... That I can promise!

Kisses,
T

 

[oskiano]

I think you missed the point there T. No bashing darlin, quite the contrary. So cool your jets. Oskiano is here for you.

You don't know what kind of women I attract by the way. How about a 10 year relationship? Hmmm...? Smart, quality, passionate women for this guy.

IM me if you like. I too am home tonight after a great night yesterday...

Talk to me girl.

 

[tamales]

O- Afraid not. You made your point and well, it's clear you aren't my type.. Nor am I looking but good luck anyways Glad you had an excellent night as well .. and well, you should. I mean none of you guys should be here. I am here for only a bit more but I am pooped. After 11 hours on my feet all day selling, and no.. not that kind of selling... but I am beat.. Sorry to bash O.. but you really, pissed me off. Maybe you hit a nerve but not the kind that I am seeking. But I am sure you are a Dj in all other aspects, so good luck to you and no hard feelings.

 

[oskiano]

Hey T, you are funny, you know that? Yeah, I was sooooo looking forward to meeting you... I'm just raging with oneitis for my little hot tamales...I best cancel those plans I have with the other women this week and just set up my shrine to you. Can I call you and leave 10 messages about how wonderful you are this week?

Hey, I've got it. How about I buy you dinner to prove my worth to you...

Yeah, I should be out tonight, but I'm just too tired...I get out way too much during the week...hehe

And about you getting pissed, whatever it was, it was more in your head...I was having fun...you should too. Stop pouting.

On that note, don't apologize for what you say when you write your posts (you frequently do). Just state your case. I like having a woman (however emotionally volatile) here to give a different perspective.

You are one funny girl. You're so cute when you're upset.

 

[Jvesti123]

Reading this thread makes me think of the Lover/Provider concept talked about in Double Your Dating.



Your a late 30 y/o female your eggs are getting rotten, your biological clock is slowing down, your not getting as much attention from guys, you might have a kid or two already. It's time to find someone to take care of you that you can own or pretend to do a 50/50 with him to Provide for you. You will still be sexually attracted to guys who OWN (and that's why there are affairs in marriages by the fem having a kid from another man, and the PROVIDER AFC takes care of the kid thinking it's his own) But your getting older, your options are running out. That is what i believe is going on with a good deal of chicks.

 

[tamales]

Grrrr...... O...so I'll pout then... thanks You win. I don't want to argue.And I don't want men to bash me on here thinking I am all that curious.... or an attention *****. I am not. Enough said. Just trying to better myself and hell, don't blame me I found this place to vent. But.....

Afterall, this is a man's board. So, I am even cuter when we call a truce then...

Thanks

 

[tamales]

ANd for the record, Jvesti or whatever.. my options are only beginning and well, God has a plan for everyone. My Dad met his dream girl when she was 40. She is still modeling and they are happy and both are healthy happy and all the wiser..ANd also for the record, my mom had my very late in life.. Not always the best option but life ain't perfect.

Maybe there are those generalizations but I would rather think not. As far as my eggs.. or me.. you have no idea what I am like or look like so think what you want. Talk to me when you are an adult, my age, have had major success, death of a loved one and understand that life is not static... I suppose you are right.. I wish I had started earlier. No, I don't have kids. Nor have I been married... But I have an ocean front condo, a company, a career and not really sure what tomorrow will bring. Just trying to be my best. Oh, how naive you are!

 

[A1SteakSauce]

shallow peeps

"I have a this, that, and the other thing . . ."

"I have such good looks, I was a model, I'm so pretty . . . "

I saw Fight Club the other night and I liked what they said about your possessions owning you.

Take heed, Tamales, and find something to believe in besides The Barbie Dreamhouse (tm). In the end, the Ken doll turns out to be a pile of plastic crap without a weenie.

A1

 

[tamales]

Thanks. I'll keep that in mind. I didn't realize how shallow I have been all this time. But for the record, I have never played with barbies nor have I owned or want to own a dreamhouse. And ken is a fag...

But thanks for the insight. Hardly shallow.

 

[Chrispy]

Originally posted by tamales
Thanks. I'll keep that in mind. I didn't realize how shallow I have been all this time. But for the record, I have never played with barbies nor have I owned or want to own a dreamhouse. And ken is a fag...

But thanks for the insight. Hardly shallow.

Hey don't be too hard on yourself..sometimes it is easier to validate oneself through ones posessions, but after getting past that, the discussion on this board invariably gets back to talking about dating/LTRs or in this thread, about the difference between approaching "older chicks" vs "younger chicks".

 

[The Time Machine]

Pressing The blue button....
Bump!

 

[DonGorgon]

No but older chicks have less options so they are less picky