Do not judge and you shall not be judge.

[Dee-Zy]

Sounds like a quote from the Bible huh? Well, hear me out...

If you label another individual as an 'afc', chances are you are one to. Furthermore, most people who strives to become a DJ, focus on NOT being an AFC or 'act AFCish' so much that they end up nowhere near being a real DJ.

Most of the teaching on this board points out wrong behavior, but you should not over emphasize it. Wrong behavior are pointed out so they can be rectified but don't be afraid to ACT in the real world too.

To sit down and NOT perform an action because you are scared it is 'AFCish' is foul. One cannot become a DJ with such state of mind.

Therefore, if you say someone is an AFC - be careful, cuz you might be on the road of becoming one too.

 

[divega]

I agree on that statement. Focusing on the negative qualities of others only makes apparent our own insecurities and weakness which we try to mask through negatively analyzing someone else.

I used to do that **** all the time. I was so negative towards others, just to make myself feel better. I've realized since then to look for the positives in everything, and my life has improved because of it.

Besides, everyone here has superceded the AFC status. Everyone here wants improvement, otherwise, why be here?

 

[Silquee Smoove]

Damn right, Dee-zy!

Like I said in a post about 3 days ago, too many on this site focus on theory and not enough on actually practicing it.

I have, so I'm not a hypocrite in that area.

 

[l-deezy]

youre right. you shouldnt be in nobodys business if you aint got your stuff together

 

[Page]

Exactly.

I wrote in the Book of Shuma Gora that a real Don Juan does not attempt to rate every action that can possibly be done on the AFC scale.

Instead, he simply chooses the true DJ solution for every situation without thinking twice.

 

[Dee-Zy]

The title is kinda misleading.

Another point I want to make is,

If you keep judging others (ie, labeling others AFCs) this will inevitably make YOU subconciously be afraid of what others think of you therefore decrease your confidence level.

It is only normal.

It is not that if YOU judge others, others will judge you, but more that if YOU judge others - you will suddenly care alot about what others think or 'might' think about you. Thus making you selfconscious and lose self esteem.

It's human behavior.

 

[GTS Jeff]

Originally posted by Dee-Zy
Sounds like a quote from the Bible huh? Well, hear me out...

If you label another individual as an 'afc', chances are you are one to. Furthermore, most people who strives to become a DJ, focus on NOT being an AFC or 'act AFCish' so much that they end up nowhere near being a real DJ.

Most of the teaching on this board points out wrong behavior, but you should not over emphasize it. Wrong behavior are pointed out so they can be rectified but don't be afraid to ACT in the real world too.

To sit down and NOT perform an action because you are scared it is 'AFCish' is foul. One cannot become a DJ with such state of mind.

Therefore, if you say someone is an AFC - be careful, cuz you might be on the road of becoming one too.

shut up, only an afc would say that, u afc!

 

[Dee-Zy]

Re: Re: Do not judge and you shall not be judge.

Originally posted by GTS Jeff
shut up, only an afc would say that, u afc!

Very constructive refutation and WHO are you to tell me to shut up?

 

[GTS Jeff]

Re: Re: Re: Do not judge and you shall not be judge.

Originally posted by Dee-Zy
Very constructive refutation and WHO are you to tell me to shut up?

someone with a sense a humor...or so i thought

 

[Dee-Zy]

Sarcasm is hard to detect on the net.



anyways ... bump


I think ppl need to read this.

 

[ScrewIt]

good point.

i remember from somewhere i heard in the past if you accuse someone of being ___ (gay) you yourself are actually hiding the fact that you are ___(gay). some **** like that.

just dont talk about others behind their back, what goes around come around.

 

[mistyc]

Originally posted by Dee-Zy
It is not that if YOU judge others, others will judge you, but more that if YOU judge others - you will suddenly care alot about what others think or 'might' think about you. Thus making you selfconscious and lose self esteem.

It's human behavior.

oooh now THAT was deep Goes along with what I've thought for a while and read in someone's ebook, that ppl are too concerned thinking about what others think of them to have time to judge others.

 

[Gollum]

Quite right, there are too many posts here where someone says

"I CA'd this HB8 and her guy friend said..." "...but he was just a jealous AFC"

People make these snap judgements about guys they've just met, it's a perversion of the "put yourself on a pedestal" attitude

 

[Dukester]

i see where you are coming from w/ the dee-zy, and it is a good point, but i have to disagree.

what if you do have your sh!t together, and you are a true DJ (in your eyes)?

plus- it takes one to know one. all DJ's have been AFC at one point in their lives (at least). so they all know the tendancies of one.
it's easier for us to detect, because we've been there. we detect, we assess, and we offer advice.

 

[00Kevin]

I'm not sure I agree with this. I think it can be helpful to aggressively attack AFC behavior.

If I was acting like an AFC I would want someone to be very blunt about how wrong I was. The more I was rebuked the more I would listen . That is just my personality. Some people crawl up into a ball when they are attacked and others respond accordingly.

The very process of lashing out against AFC behavior can help you . The more you lash out against it the more it the helps you affirm what is right and wrong. Only once you realize what is right and wrong can you act in a positive manner to change yourself.

I'm also not sure you can call people who respond aggressively to AFC behavior AFCs . Some people on here do it to help people wake up and/ or help themselves improve.

I think that everyone on this forum has a fault that they need to correct. If they didn't they wouldn't be on this forum.

Sometimes everyone needs a good lashing to wake the f-ck up.
So, I can honestly thank all those who told me off on occasion for acting like and AFC.

 

[mistyc]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
I'm not sure I agree with this. I think it can be helpful to aggressively attack AFC behavior.

If I was acting like an AFC I would want someone to be very blunt about how wrong I was. The more I was rebuked the more I would listen . That is just my personality. Some people crawl up into a ball when they are attacked and others respond accordingly.
....

he's not talking about going up to the guy and saying "haha you're AFC, look at what you're doing wrong, blablablabla".

No, he's talking about you see a guy and saying "haha he's AFC, he's doing blablabla what a chump, I'm so much better than this".

As for the rest of your post.. Dunno man.. I used to do that, I'd be at a club and would look around and be like "haha, look at this chump buying her drinks.. look at this chump leaning in and she's definitely not interested" etc..

Then one night I realized "wait a minute. THESE so-called chumps are talking to girls. I'm still alone." and stopped focusing on the others...

 

[diplomatic_lie]

I used to date a judgemental chick. She was VRRY judgemental. And also a Christian.

In any case, when the tables were turned, she was very nervous about how other people saw her, and had low self-esteem a lot of times.

 

[luv_ya_amj]

Or, for example, guys labeling girls attention **'s...

I mean, afterall, it's just a guys attempt at trying to mask their frustrations with a girl and explain every so-called "flaky" thing she does...(e.g. "that girl flaked out on our date cuz she had to go tend to her dying mother...that stupid attention ___!!")... yes, very sad and immature...*tsk tsk* mad: , then... )

But, OH WAIT!!... *gasp*

We call guys attention **'s too...

AH, DA*MN IT! I gotta stop being so freakin' hypocritical!



(Hint/Conclusion: we all pull this BS...just gotta recognize it and FIX yo dang self...)