Do looks matter less than money after a certain age?

[RichardTheFrog]

You can be a handsome cad... If you are in the wrong circles or aren't validated by females, most of them don't want to be the first to get d1cked down by you. Those womens are notoriously some group think creatures.

Well if they look into my past, they definitely won't want anything to do with me.

 

[El Payaso]

Women have different priorities at different stages in their lives. What mattered at 21 and 27 doesn't matter at 33 and 34. Everything changes depending on their age, aim and goals.

A lot of guys have been told by others, society, media, tv, movies to focus on money. Why? Because it's good for them and bad for you. Essentially, women care more about what you DO and the people you KNOW to get money rather than the money itself. Think about it: if the man was a cashier or garbage man and had saved up a million dollars and the other was a doctor who had saved up $500K, who would she chose? A guy who studied, had respect, prestige and made a name for himself, or a guy who didn't?

Women care about looks as well, but generally HEIGHT and HAIR are more important than "looks". These are things men cannot really change so they are very important to women. Height allows them to feel protected and hair signifies good genes.

So it's not one or the other. Everything is relative. Generally education, status, height, hair are the most important.

Interesting. So you're saying status is more important than money even if one guy had more money.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Well if they look into my past, they definitely won't want anything to do with me.

Most women won't do a background check on you.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

There's a lot more to attraction than just looks

Can you name some things?

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Most women won't do a background check on you.

All it takes is a quick Google search for them to find out I was once on national television for stalking someone. Lol.

I might end up changing my last name in 2022.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

All it takes is a quick Google search for them to find out I was once on national television for stalking someone. Lol.

I might end up changing my last name in 2022.

You can't count on them doing it. Figure 1 out of 10 might do that... Is there anyway to make your name appear lower in the search results? You ne

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Interesting. So you're saying status is more important than money even if one guy had more money.

It's your ABILITY to accumulate resources, not how many resources you actually have.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

You can't count on them doing it. Figure 1 out of 10 might do that... Is there anyway to make your name appear lower in the search results? You ne

Not without spending thousands of dollars. And even then, it's no guarantee.

 

[zekko]

However, you still have other variables in play: Health, Look, Shape, Émotions, Confidence, Quality, Value, Culture etc...

Personality, Sense of Humor, Height, Social Proof, Leadership Qualities, etc.

There was a time in the PUA community when they said looks did not matter at all. Now I think we've swung too far the other way. I don't think that looks are the most important thing when it comes to attracting women. Men aren't about how pretty they are. I think a guy can attract females on a very wide spectrum, almost everything matters. I think they are attracted to the man as a whole.

The younger the demographic though, probably the more important looks are to them. Because younger guys aren't expected to have much, or to have fully developed yet. Looks may be all they have.

And if what you're saying is true, should I just give up? Is being a DJ only for those with extreme good looks?

There was a time when a guy wasn't respected for his game unless he was kind of ugly. People figured any guy could get women if he was good looking, what was impressive was if he could get women with just his game. Of course, PUAs don't always make good sense.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

It's your ABILITY to accumulate resources, not how many resources you actually have.

How does that make sense? I understand that a YOUNGER guy might get points for having potential, but after a certain age, isn't it put up or shut up?

Plus, if you had the ability to accumulate resources, wouldn't you have the resources then?

 

[AJ84]

for sex, never. For relationships, yes.

So true. For sexual attraction looks trump money. Women may be attracted to money/financial comfort/ nice things but holding a handful of hundred dollar bills while standing in her walk in closet full of designer clothes doesn't give her the big 'o'. They will fake it with a rich unattractive man to get the nice things.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

How does that make sense? I understand that a YOUNGER guy might get points for having potential, but after a certain age, isn't it put up or shut up?

Plus, if you had the ability to accumulate resources, wouldn't you have the resources then?

It makes sense because if something really DIRE were to happen and you would lose everything, but are able to get back up from it with relative ease, then she will be more attracted to you compared to a man who would fall down and stay down. And potential is different from ability, so to speak. Potential is what you can do when at your very best or what you can do later on; what your PEAK is. Ability is what you can do at this moment. It's biological in women to be attracted to this because a man who is able to adapt to adverse situations and acquire resources is much more likely to survive vs someone else.

As for your second question, typically yes they do. When I mentioned having the ability to acquire resources vs actually having them, think of some trailer trash redneck that dropped out of high school to go work and mess around, but he just so happened to win Mega Million. Now compare him to a recently graduated Harvard medical student. That's what I am talking about. Should something happen where both men lose everything they have, the Harvard graduate will be much more likely to bounce back up.

 

[bigneil]

Prostitution doesnt count lmao

But a prostitute a man promises via contract to pay for LIFE (aka wife) counts?? Mating is an exchange between eggs and resources. Get more resources.

The only people who hate prostitution are unattractive women and broke men.

Sex costs about $300. $2100 a week gets a man laid by a different hot girl every day of the week. That's $100,000 a year. One tenth of a million. That's one ten thousandth of a billion. Hint: Billionaires score.

Just like a penny saved is a penny earned, a dollar earned is a girl scored. But broke men want to attempt to disqualify men who have money, and vice versa. The latter wins every time, as money talks and bullsh!t walks.

 

[AJ84]

But a guy doesn't have to be stunning to attract girls, and the type of girl he wants to attract will factor into how good looking he needs to be. If he's looking for a Victoria secret model type well obviously he will to be high on the looks department if we are factoring out things like wealth. Girls that are really into themselves and their looks will want nice eye candy on their arms.
Average girls who are not vapid and vain with a nice personality who are also pretty will consider the while man. But no one is into bad personal hygiene and bad attitudes.

 

[bigneil]

Why are you conflating having sex for free for fun with a woman, with marriage, and then with prostitution. Those are different things. By the way the sex for fun with someone who's actually attracted to you is most enjoyable.

1) The most important thing is that she is attracted to you.
2) The second most important thing is that you earn the most you can.
3) The third most important thing is that you spend the least you can.

 

[bigneil]

So a man who is compensating for her not being attracted by spending more is only meeting item 2.

According to sugar daddy / sugar baby web site managers, the amount men pay (for HB9+ 21 year old women, something every man is said to universally want there) varies tremendously based on how attractive the man is. Meanwhile, every man has to pay for dinner for the most part.

So again, it's not whether the man paid as much as how much the man paid.

 

[GoodOne123]

They're apples and oranges. It's because each attribute results in a different type of attraction.

Looks result in sexual attraction.

Money results in attraction for material gain.

If you severely lack in looks, you best hope she doesn't care. Otherwise she may bang a hot young guy behind your back.

If you lack in money, and material gain is important to her, she may look for a guy with more money.

 

[bigneil]

They're apples and oranges.

As long as she has enough groceries she is fine.

 

[Mike32ct]

Some entire small to medium towns may not have even one millionaire. Hell many won't even have household income levels of $320k or 1% range...

I don't think a woman should be attracted to a DJ for his $$$, it should be him, his charisma, his character and his game. $$$ should be an icing on the cake. It's a poor reason to have someone motivated for a relationship for $$$, even the sex will be better if they LIKE and LOVE you... $$$ sucks.

The funny thing is that (other than pickup gurus), it's generally young guys that talk about game. They think it's their "game" that is working, but it's really their youth and looks doing much of the work.

When that same guy is older, he's thinking more in terms of money, maxing out whatever looks he has (or has left) and status.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

The funny thing is that (other than pickup gurus), it's generally young guys that talk about game. They think it's their "game" that is working, but it's really their youth and looks doing much of the work.

When that same guy is older, he's thinking more in terms of money, maxing out whatever looks he has (or has left) and status.

And unfortunately I think this means as I get older, paying for sex will be my only option. Perhaps that is the natural order of things. Perhaps I am just entering a new stage in my life and I need to come to terms with this.

I should spend more time on the real estate forum and less time here.