Do Looks= Confidence

[HollowHorizon]

Alright, ill take votes on the previous post "Do Looks = Confidence"

http://sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=40081


If you would like to express your own option please do so..

 

[italostud]

I'd say, yes, generally. If you don't have looks, you can substitute money or power. Or, if you're like me, your 11 inch sausage could give you confidence.

 

[HollowHorizon]

hahahahhahaha

 

[G_S]

I know plenty of good looking people who are unconfident. On the otherhand, I'm sure they'd be even more unconfident if they were uglier. Looks may help, but they don't make a huge difference alone.

 

[Krassus]

The right answer is 'somewhat.' Not all people with looks have confidence, and vice versa. But looks do help.

 

[Kuen1]

Basing confidence as a whole on looks is weak and empty in my opinion. I knew a guy who was great looking, and always had a ton of ladies after him but he fell into drugs and alcohol and became a complete loser in life. Did his looks really make him a confident man? I also know a short vietnamese cat, who is wire thin and far from a Brad Pitt look alike but he has an awesome wife, 2 beautiful children, a great job, his own business on the side, is awesome at martial arts, can strike up a convo with anyone at any time, and has zero fear or hesitation when it comes to flirting with or talking to great looking women etc. Is his confidence based on his looks?
Hmmm...

 

[Bonhomme]

No

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[echo1212]

No, having good to great looks does not make a person 100% confident. But it does increase your confidence a whole lot, maybe more than any other single thing.

You guys cant tell me that on days you think you look exceptionally good, or are dressed to kill, or that zit you had on your nose is gone, that you don't feel more confident. Of coarse you do, its human nature. Now imagine how a guy whos a 8 or above..like me ...feels almost all the time. Its great. A guy like that knows hes better looking the 90% of the schmoks out there, and therefore that makes him at least think he more desirable to the ladies. It goes hand in hand. Of coarse everyone is going to have periods in their life where they are down, depressed, less confident. Nobody's perfect. But there is not a doubt in my mind that having good looks, or at least having a healthy in shape body and lifestyle greatly influences how a person feels.

I really think that the people that say looks don't influence confidence are the people that well...are maybe somewhat less than good looking. Hate to say it..but its true.

 

[Kuen1]

"I really think that the people that say looks don't influence confidence are the people that well...are maybe somewhat less than good looking. Hate to say it..but its true." LOL. Or maybe they are people who realize that looks alone are not what confidence as a whole is really about. So I guess when we all get older and our youthfull good looks begin to fade then we'll all just become losers with low self esteem and no confidence? I guess that since Ghandi would not be on the cover of "Mens Fitness" that means he was not really a confident man even though he led a political and spiritual movement which forced out an occupying power, and continues to influence millions of people to this day. Right? I read a story once in one of Anthony Robbins books which talked about a burn victim who went on to create and run his own business with great success, marry a woman who loved him and whom he loved, and raise a family. Yep...he had no confidence in himself at all as a human being because he didn't look like a model. Right? Bill Gates became one the richest men on the entire earth, but I guess he walks around all day with his head down because he looks "nerdy."
Being confident, and THINKING that we look good etc is ALL IN OUR HEADS. And, basing confidence, self esteem, self worth, and self respect etc etc all on "looks" is empty and superficial. In other words "table is built on weak legs grasshoppa."
Sheesh...soundin like some superficial, materialistic ass women who walk around like their ish don't stink based soley on the fact that they THINK they "look good." All the while not realizing that those looks will fade, and that those looks really do NOT mean sh*t in the grand scheme of things.

 

[Kuen1]

Oh yeah...forgot my signature.

 

[echo1212]

What I said was that looks help inspire confidence-to a large degree. If you don't believe that you're just fooling yourself. Even people that are older that looked good at a younger age are still attractive to their peer group-mainly senior citizens. I mean you have some seniors that are better looking than others-no big secret.

And if looks didnt matter to an aging person, why is it plastic surgery, botox, and all kinds of other anti aging devices are the biggest thing in the world since sliced bread? To keep their appearance youthful, their looks attractive, and their confidence up. Trust me looks matter, dont kid yourself.

 

[Jin]

just to chime in here guys.. I am a model.. have done Sunglass Hut ads and I'll be in the Jan issue of GQ and have been rated a 9.9 and a 9.6 respectivly on Hotornot.com so I think I'm qualified to speak on this subject...

Yes, knowing you look better than 90% of the people out there can help... but... and this is a big BUT... when you find another guy like you, who is really good looking, taller, more defined and who in your opinion "looks better" in some way or form... you feel much more "threatned" than if it was an avg guy, you feel more insecure because your not used to feeling insecure about how you look so when it happens... its a deep hit to your mind.... but this is where true confidence comes into play... not the "I look like I'm the pimp" BS-paper-thin-macho crap... but the core of true confidence.... which says...

"You know what.. he may look better than me, but I'm going to go in there anyway and give it my all and may the best man win"

and in the end... there are more than plenty of chicks to go around in this world..

the real test is when you have an LTR and have to deal with other insecurity issues which come up in deep relationships, insecurities which really good-looking guys have trouble dealing with..like myself..

so yes..looking great does give you an edge... but that will only take you so far... the rest is in your character... its like someone giving you a Masamune sword.... sure its the greatest blade ever created.... but if you don't know how to weild it correctly its not going to matter if you have a Masamune or a crow-bar.

Best,

Jin

 

[echo1212]

You made my point well Jin.. Thankyou

 

[elvis aint dead yet]

Yes looks play a factor. It does not always make you the most confident, but it gives you an extra edge.

If you have two average guys, both aren't that smart, aren't that good at sports, aren't rico suave or don juan, but the one guy is ABOVE AVERAGE LOOKING and the other guy is BELOW AVERAGE LOOKING it makes a huge difference in the persons confidence.

I hate how so many people on this site assume, ALL AVG or below AVG looking guys are SMART, GREAT at SPORTS, and have all this confidence and all the GOOD LOOKING guy has is his looks.

Get a grip on the real world.

Most people are AVERAGE in everything. Brains, looks, blah blah blah. Stop trying to down some guy who looks great just so you can make yourself feel better.

If a guy looks great, he has a slight advantage over somebody who does not. Plain and Simple. It won't make him a ladies man by all means, but it'll get the girls interested.

 

[HollowHorizon]

Good Post