Quick recap from the last few years;
Dated a girl for three years. She was cheating on me. I didn't know for sure who with, but I knew. Dumped her. Within a month she was officially in a relationship with, and moved in with, her promoted bit on the side. We all worked for the same company. Went no contact.
Six months later she made contact wanting to salvage a friendship. I told her no but in the interests of closure I'll meet with her as I have a few things to say. The boyfriend made contact asking to meet me too. I told him I had a few things to express to him too so fine. They both bottled it and told me they were dying from swine flu and then went no contact.
I was obviously quite miffed at being made a fool of twice, and no longer kept it under wraps, when asked, what happened with me and her (remember this is only six months after a three year relationship). So it quickly became common knowledge she was cheating on me with her new boyfriend.
She didn't like being painted as the villain, neither did he, and in what surely must be temporary insanity (probably not), they told people she was cheating on me with him because I was beating her up. This quickly spread and became a plague I knew nothing about.
Things reached fever pitch (this is now one year post break up) with people starting on me for being a woman beater, girls cancelling dates (including one half way through after running into a friend) because of what they 'knew' about me, people at work refusing to work with me behind my back and area management, knowing what their reason was ('he hit his girlfriend'), moving peoples shifts around to avoid a fuss (which of course gave credibility to this plague). An employee finally blew the whistle and it ended up with a lawsuit from me against the company.
Six people lost their jobs. The girl in question left the company like a coward, so did he, and I chose not to pursue them outside of the company in court because they were now expecting a baby.
That act of mercy has come back to haunt me. Although the plague has subsided (as one would expect when six people get crucified), I still occasionally come across walkers (my little Walking Dead slang term for people infected by this nonsense) now and then. But now I'm expecting a massive re-run; the girl in question and her boyfriend have moved into a house fifty yards from my house (same house she basically lived in with me, she knows it) and thirty yards from my workplace (I'm still with the same place, same company, again she knows it).
I consider this, with no attempt to make peace from their camp, as a hostile act. I've sought legal advice and have been told I can apply for a retro active restraining order thanks to all the paperwork from the process of the lawsuit, citing that it was not originally necessary because proximity was not an issue, but now that she has chosen this residence it can only be considered a hostile act, and a minimum safe distance must be enforced from both my residence and place of work. It would be active and served within 96 hours and the council would legally be forced to evict them immediately.
Of course, I'm wrestling the choice to throw out an entire family unit (the kid has done nothing to me). But on the other hand, I think it's finally time an example be made, because the line I feel has to be drawn here.
Advice?
Dated a girl for three years. She was cheating on me. I didn't know for sure who with, but I knew. Dumped her. Within a month she was officially in a relationship with, and moved in with, her promoted bit on the side. We all worked for the same company. Went no contact.
Six months later she made contact wanting to salvage a friendship. I told her no but in the interests of closure I'll meet with her as I have a few things to say. The boyfriend made contact asking to meet me too. I told him I had a few things to express to him too so fine. They both bottled it and told me they were dying from swine flu and then went no contact.
I was obviously quite miffed at being made a fool of twice, and no longer kept it under wraps, when asked, what happened with me and her (remember this is only six months after a three year relationship). So it quickly became common knowledge she was cheating on me with her new boyfriend.
She didn't like being painted as the villain, neither did he, and in what surely must be temporary insanity (probably not), they told people she was cheating on me with him because I was beating her up. This quickly spread and became a plague I knew nothing about.
Things reached fever pitch (this is now one year post break up) with people starting on me for being a woman beater, girls cancelling dates (including one half way through after running into a friend) because of what they 'knew' about me, people at work refusing to work with me behind my back and area management, knowing what their reason was ('he hit his girlfriend'), moving peoples shifts around to avoid a fuss (which of course gave credibility to this plague). An employee finally blew the whistle and it ended up with a lawsuit from me against the company.
Six people lost their jobs. The girl in question left the company like a coward, so did he, and I chose not to pursue them outside of the company in court because they were now expecting a baby.
That act of mercy has come back to haunt me. Although the plague has subsided (as one would expect when six people get crucified), I still occasionally come across walkers (my little Walking Dead slang term for people infected by this nonsense) now and then. But now I'm expecting a massive re-run; the girl in question and her boyfriend have moved into a house fifty yards from my house (same house she basically lived in with me, she knows it) and thirty yards from my workplace (I'm still with the same place, same company, again she knows it).
I consider this, with no attempt to make peace from their camp, as a hostile act. I've sought legal advice and have been told I can apply for a retro active restraining order thanks to all the paperwork from the process of the lawsuit, citing that it was not originally necessary because proximity was not an issue, but now that she has chosen this residence it can only be considered a hostile act, and a minimum safe distance must be enforced from both my residence and place of work. It would be active and served within 96 hours and the council would legally be forced to evict them immediately.
Of course, I'm wrestling the choice to throw out an entire family unit (the kid has done nothing to me). But on the other hand, I think it's finally time an example be made, because the line I feel has to be drawn here.
Advice?
