Well if you do it on pourpose its pathetic I think. Like this bud, met his GF at a dating site (and stays with her for 3 years now lol dumb sob), so as you know with girls hooked on these sites - they are garbage and shes ****ing around Im sure, **** she was hitting on me more than once, and now after all this time he decided to play it cool "I took her friends out today without her so I can make her jealous yeah look what a bad mofo I am *alpha as phuck*". When in reality all he ever does is stay home and play video games, and I cant do **** to get him out always lame excuses.
They are pathetic Im drifting away from this bud more and more and Im sad couse we used to be tight. I know what effect low quality women have on men in LTRs but one would expect him being an year older than me would know better.
Dont do that. Just do cool stuff, Ruler put it best. If you do cool stuff which you enjoy you will hang with females who do the same cool stuff you do. Even if its not "cool stuff", say you study in an university, what does a university have? You guessed right - hot chicks with whom at the very least you go out for coffee in the breaks. So there you go, its that simple really.
+ sometimes its simple as going out with your girl and her noticing all the other women eyefuking you. Be very subtle.
I remember, at 19, when I met my problematic childhood+tats+emotional instability drop dead gorgeous GF with whom I spend 3 years, I was pretty closed off from emotions and was simply not giving a **** which is very wrong mindset because its being untruthfull to yourself, but it works with tricking the female brain. You just have to use it as an act and it became my identity which sucked. This is exactly how I kept her in check for 3 years. By not giving a **** more than her. All that while not being a perspective boy at all, I didnt continue studying after highschool, I was pretty stuck and remained this way for a long time. Just by not giving a fuk about ****.
In the end she started prepping a new fool couse she understood Im a lost cause
thank god I sensed it and bailed out first + I was pretty tired of her ****, she knew it, I knew it, it was a matter of when and how.
An year later (a few days ago), I checked her FB out (have her father in friendlist so I get feed). Last two posts, some silly **** about how pretty real love is and things getting better and better (liked by her current fool), then after that some silly poetic **** about some man finally understanding what he missed and how lonely he is and how he was loved (not liked by her fool). Life is more amusing than movies sometimes
. Indifference feels nice and warm. But ofc Im pretty awesome so thats understandable.
The point is - there is much more to life then women. Heck, I love *****, but you see, even if you want to get *****, the best way to do it is to make them see a perspective in you. You do this by having ambition, goals and activities. By having a life to put it simply. Intelligence alone can fool a silly girl you got perspective, but its not enough for a smart girl.
Otherwise your best bet is to be seen as a vibrator. I am that now, although in the last year I grew alot and started developing (*about time you dumb fuk *). The position of a vibrator is not a good one if youre not a heartless person. Basically you get to service some girls sometimes but then again thats pretty hollow isn't it? One may say my ex is right and Im really lonely and sad - which is somewhat true - but unlike her silly little mind I understoon my happiness lies in my developement not in some girl who sleeps with me on the regular. This is the difference.
So - do cool stuff, develop, study, work, do more cool stuff and.. voala... no girl will get tired of you unless you want to. And be honest and truthfull - or you attract the worng kind of girls.
