This isn't me being arrogant or anything but I few months back I got dumped for no real reason. When she explained she was a little drunk but said "to be honest you're the nicest guy I've ever met and you're too good for me, you deserve someone nicer and prettier than me". Right...at that time I was fuming because it sounds like typical utter girl speak bollocks. All I wanted was an explanation....not complete bull ****!! I spent weeks thinking why...and going over everything, even conversations we'd had to try and come up with an explanation. I couldn't. Then...I was on a bus and a couple of her friends were talking about me and her but didn't recognise me so I was able to listen. One of them asked why did we break up and her friend replied it was because she didn't feel comfortable with me because she didn't feel pretty enough for me and thought I would always be looking for something better. This has totally knocked me for six...Im flattered sort of but gutted as well....i really like this one. What can i do? Do you think this is a case of I like you as a friend bull****...nice guy and all that? I hate the word nice guy!!! Guys what do you think...surely girls don't think like that do they?
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do girls ever think were too good for them
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rgeere
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Yeah, it's totally bull; girls don't feel comfortable telling guys they don't want to be around them because they smell or act like slobs, or any other similar reason. She's passively dumped you to keep from hurting your feelings by making it seem like she is to blame.
I understand your frustration about the way girls say things, especially when they arn't direct, but if she really liked you she would have told you what behaviours you need to change.
Or like the previous poster said she could really have self-esteem problems, but it's not your problem, so don't worry.
FlyGuy
Master Don Juan
IMO that is a BS line 99% of the time... but there is that 1% out there that may really think a guy is "too good" for them. If you really like her and want to work it out then why not talk to her. Although personally I think you're asking for trouble as long as she has self esteem issues (jealousy, depression, etc.)
Yeah....I was 130% convinced it was bull****...racked my brain thinking what it could....bad breath.....bad kisser....boring....you name at sort time or other I thought it. But having over heard her friends Im not sure. Why do girls do this too us? If there's such a thing as karma I am owed a tonne of good stuff! I've always been honest with girls that I broke with...and didin't feed them the typiacal bull**** lines girls give us. Why are girls such arsesholes? Well not all...but the ones that are more than slightly attractive. I love this site because it encourages us to play there games...I think a few one night stands are in order!!! Wow that felt good!! I think Im just smarting because this is the first girl to ever dumb me...and im pissed I never got a decent explanation!!!
It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.
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MindOverMatter
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It's a bs line. Do you go and say "this Bentley is too good for me, I don't deserve it, I'll drive a Yugo". Broads have a warped logic, but it's not that warped.
As for her friends, maybe they did recognize you but pretended not to, so you could listen in on their convo.
Don't waste time thinking about it, move on with your life.
As for her friends, maybe they did recognize you but pretended not to, so you could listen in on their convo.
Don't waste time thinking about it, move on with your life.
Yep, it's total BS! It's not to say she didn't find you attractive at one time, and may still find you good looking, but you're probably too nice (aka AFC or wussy) for her. I've had this line given to me time after time and it means the same thing.
A girl I was seeing last year started out looking upto me, saying things like "I can't believe you are interested in me" and "I'm so lucky" as if she felt unworthy. I revealed the wuss in me and immediately she walked all over me, flaunted me like a trophy, patronised me, started developing an ego, flirted with other men and dumped me (with the same line as you got) and I ended up feeling like I was not good enough for her.
No man is too good for a woman unless he believes it himself.
Ps. Mindovermatter's analogy is spot on!
A girl I was seeing last year started out looking upto me, saying things like "I can't believe you are interested in me" and "I'm so lucky" as if she felt unworthy. I revealed the wuss in me and immediately she walked all over me, flaunted me like a trophy, patronised me, started developing an ego, flirted with other men and dumped me (with the same line as you got) and I ended up feeling like I was not good enough for her.
No man is too good for a woman unless he believes it himself.
Ps. Mindovermatter's analogy is spot on!
Yeah...good point and im trying!!!!
To be honest I've seen her pull a few guys in the last couple of months (same uni) and I'd say honestly that I was far and away better looking (and Im not arrogant...just being honest). So thats why I just don't get it...and I know am I nice guy!! Gurrggh!!!!
To be honest I've seen her pull a few guys in the last couple of months (same uni) and I'd say honestly that I was far and away better looking (and Im not arrogant...just being honest). So thats why I just don't get it...and I know am I nice guy!! Gurrggh!!!!
Lebon: It's probably true that you are much better looking and have much more going for you than these guys, but the sad fact is women would rather settle for an ugly, but confident jerk than a studly, but wussy nice guy.
Maybe it would do you good to be more arrogant. If you believe it, promote it for all to see! To women, arrogance is actually a lot more attractive than modesty.
Maybe it would do you good to be more arrogant. If you believe it, promote it for all to see! To women, arrogance is actually a lot more attractive than modesty.
Spike_the_cowboy
Master Don Juan
Just another kinda' LJBF line. BS all the way.
I used to think exactly the same and I only learned differently since visiting this site, but humility and modesty is the worst policy for dealing with women. I mean, don't go overboard with the arrogance to the point where she feels like you are putting her down or to the point where you're always talking about yourself, but just make sure she knows you're a great catch.
Basically do the same ****y stuff you do with your mates. As long as they're not offended by it, I doubt she'll be.
* LJBF = Let's just be friends
If she got with you than she found you attractive. But you might have put her on pedestal, thinking she's the **** or just too nice. You have to be bold sometimes. It's not about being a nice guy or a jerk, it's about being a good guy, a man.
California Love
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If you are a sexy man beast, then yes, they may think you are out of their league.
Life-Trainee
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I wonder what would happen if you answered "You're right. I AM to good for you."
YES. if we think that about chicks. then there are chicks that think that about us.
maybe she thought you were a "nice guy" and made that excuse to her friends...as this line clearly states.."to be honest you're the nicest guy I've ever met and you're too good for me, you deserve someone nicer and prettier than me".
maybe she thought you were a "nice guy" and made that excuse to her friends...as this line clearly states.."to be honest you're the nicest guy I've ever met and you're too good for me, you deserve someone nicer and prettier than me".
Kineti[C]harm
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Yes girls may think you are out of their league (if you are an attractive guy or for whatever other reason) but this is usually what keeps them from APPROACHING you or anything like that, if a girl says something like that to you she's making excuses for lack of attraction/wanting to be with you.
KC is on the spot
usually when a rejection comes around, girls wont be ugly/truthful about it. They will usually make neither person look good nor bad for the outcome.
Like if you asked some girl for their # and theyre not interested, they will either not give you theirs + ask for yours, or they will give you theirs and make up an excuse when you call for a date.
they dont want guys or anyone else to see that part of them that may be ugly or cruel. plus they want to be liked by everyone.
usually when a rejection comes around, girls wont be ugly/truthful about it. They will usually make neither person look good nor bad for the outcome.
Like if you asked some girl for their # and theyre not interested, they will either not give you theirs + ask for yours, or they will give you theirs and make up an excuse when you call for a date.
they dont want guys or anyone else to see that part of them that may be ugly or cruel. plus they want to be liked by everyone.
So how do you think I should go about treating this girl...ignore her....try and be friends....just make polite conversation when we meet....try and initiate something again? I see her pretty much most days and I don't know how to react....it usually depends on my mood. If someone said that to you what would do and how would you treat her?