do girls ever regain interest?

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Do girls ever regain interest after they showed they are not interested? If so, what causes that?
From my experience it seems like its not really possible and only when I really forgot about them they came showing interest.
And when I'm not interested it seems that it usually stays that wAy. I guess people want what they cannot have.
 

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t510 said:
Do girls ever regain interest after they showed they are not interested? If so, what causes that?
From my experience it seems like its not really possible and only when I really forgot about them they came showing interest.
And when I'm not interested it seems that it usually stays that way. I guess people want what they cannot have.
Interested in what way?

If interested as in social proof, usually when you screw up your social proof and you make it negative it makes it harder to impossible to game women who experienced your screw up. You can reclaim yourself by reinventing yourself, but it may only get you opportunities from people who are not aware of your previous negative social proof. Its better just to gain credibility and gain positive social proof to begin with.

If you mean interested as in they don't know you and they reject your initial approach say like A1 of the mystery method model, then its easier to reclaim yourself. You just simply have to begin approaching the girl in a way that gets her interested and attracted to you. That is why its safer in most cases to do an indirect approach and display social value, however if the girl is one who would be interested in you regardless you can just be direct and to the point.

If you mean comfort, then a girl either wants one of two thing; a pretty boy or a masculine man. A pretty boy romances a woman and a masculine man directs her.

If you mean seduction, than there are two types of women. Slow women who want to make you wait and not give direct answers, and women who are direct and either want you to have sex with them fast or they keep you as friend. With the fast women if they get the impression you don't want to fvck with them, they will friend zone you and you won't get out of it unless you start acting like a horny man and you want to fvck with them. With the slow women, you have to act like you are not interested in sex, kino them to death and talk with them all the time like you are their boyfriend. You have to indirectly make them want sex with you by being less interested in it and yet baiting them every step of the way.

That is generally it. And a woman can be any combination of the above dichotomies. An inability to tell which part of the dichotomy a woman belongs to in each category and how to deal with it is exactly the reason men fail with women.

And by the way, generally women are attracted to both alpha and beta males. Individual women are attracted to unique combinations of alpha and beta male traits. I don't get why people say you have to always be alpha and never beta and such and such. That just seems like bvllsh1t to me. You need to know how to be good at being both skillsets to ultimately attract any woman you want and there are skill sets for both alpha and beta males where both can be successful. Very few men seem to recognize that.
 
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Thanks rgeere, definitely talking to one of the "slow" girls in the seduction category right now. At first I was like maybe she isn't interested, but she's always initiating contact and there is definitely a romantic attraction. Its' just frustrating, guess I'll try to up the kino and just play it cool. Also as far as the regaining attraction thing, I agree with OP in that for some reason or another when a girl throws you to the curb and you finally do manage to get over it and move on the girl will then start hitting you up. It's like they know there are other girls in the picture and they seek validation once again. Makes me wonder if there really is a secret girl network, I swear they all talk to each other. I believe it is possible but it prob won't happen for a long time without seeing the girl, she will be interested in what you been up to or how you been. This is the point where you can either play it cool and game her on your terms, or realize she ain't worth it and continue on improving your life. Sorry OP not tryna hijack your thread lol
 

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As fickle as girls are, I say there is a possibility. Thing is you never know. I choose the "play it cool" method, especially if she is part of your social circle and you see her periodically.

Some girls have a knee-jerk to just saying no because they just don't know who the hell you are or what you are all about. Nonetheless, you should still try to get her out early, even if she declines, so she know you at least are interested and you are not a chumpster.

Afterwards, I say play it cool right down to the bone. Tease her, act like you don't give a shyt about prior flaking, play around with her, get a little touchy-feely, and then you go ghost. Let her wonder. If there is interest, she'll show it. If not, it was a fun night out with the gang. Either way you win.

Do not send texts or call when you get declined or she shows low interest. Completely unnecessary. Make her YOUR satellite. If you're never gonna see her again phuck it all, then you NEXT her and call it a day.
 

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Yes they do, it seem like the method that made these girls come back to me, was I stayed busy,ignored them, and kept the contact very low.
 

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Yeah, after a few years go by. OOORRR, after you win the lottery.

Funny you said that, haven't talk to my ex in a year. Fast foward to know and she text me every single day, you just got to distant yourself and talk too other women, if you don't keep yourself busy and stay stuck on one girl, you will never ever get her back.

The saying is true, distants makes the heart grow or something like that, or time makes the wounds heal.
 

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Plenty of girls in my life who treated me like crap only to come back after seeing me ignoring them (genuinly not butthurt/revenge ignore) and getting hotter girls.

Although I think its not a return of interest but a bite from their ego.
 

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Yes women that rejected my advances when I was in my twenties and beating down my door now that they are 30 and want to start a family. I just bang them and throw them back to the wolves.
 

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J Roc said:
Yes women that rejected my advances when I was in my twenties and beating down my door now that they are 30 and want to start a family. I just bang them and throw them back to the wolves.
Lol a lot of the guys on here say ignore, I never let anything to waste, if they did me wrong in the past and come back, I at least get that last bang out of them when they do come back.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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t510 said:
Do girls ever regain interest after they showed they are not interested? If so, what causes that?
From my experience it seems like its not really possible and only when I really forgot about them they came showing interest.
And when I'm not interested it seems that it usually stays that wAy. I guess people want what they cannot have.
They do, sometimes, but searching for the cause is an exercise in futility. Too many variables in play. Could be right time/right place/right guy.

Maybe she's ovulating and had a strange dream about you (which was really just her brain processing something that showed up on her Facebook feed with your photo on it that you posted that night).

The only thing you can do is not burn bridges and let her be able to contact you if she chooses. Then move on with your life.
 

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This is why you never delete a number, a chick who was not interested at one time may be interested now. I have made it a habit of not deleting numbers of girls I nexted anymore. Mainly because women think with their emotions, and although she may have been a **** the first call through, she may not be such a **** 6 months down the line (less options, better mood, whatever).
 

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Dude I totally agree, a lot of girls come around as long as you don't blatantly burn down the bridge too bad and take the rejection with a grain of salt. Not deleting numbers is a good idea. I keep this in the back of my mind when i get rejected by a girl and it seems to soften the blow a little bit. Also if they do come crawling back, and you wanna start talking again it is on YOUR terms which is good.
 

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Waste of time with someone who you didn't even go out or had sex with. It could work I you have upgraded yourself, especially getting in better shape, etc.
 
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