Do chicks seriously find SMS, AIM, E-Mail cowardly?

[Babnik]

Or just some chicks?

Some chicks say that they are sorry for cowardly messages (instead of calling) so maybe they think its cowardly for a guy to use them too?


See, it COULD be the case or you could just see it as a way of progressive communication. Just because you SMS, doesn't mean you don't have guts to call...


But the questions remains the same - do chicks find it cowardly?

 

[danielzxc]

Maybe older chicks do, but I don't think the younger generations really care that much. Well, maybe with AIM and email, that's a bit too "computer geeky", like you ASK for their AIM when you meet them in real life. If you meet them of myspace or soemthing, it should be okay. SMS I think is fine no matter what.

Nevertheless, having good phone speaking skills really helps, 'cos there are some things you can convey with your voice that you can't really do with SMS. Like if you've got a good 'bedroom' voice, it's way better to use that over the phone, especially if you're talking sexual stuff with her, than to do it through sms. (Then again, for somethings, I think sms is better.)

I use to think sms was "cowardly", but now i think it's pretty good. I really don't think chicks would care, and if they do, I doubt they care THAT much.

 

[Robert Jones]

There is nothing that you could write using any of those methods that wouldnt be communicated better over the phone, besides asking her out to meet again there is nothing that you could say over the phone that wouldn't be communicated better in person.

For those of you who still dont understand, communicating with women in person is the only way to display your power

The phone is the least cowardly way to communicate to a woman and online is always the most cowardly way to communicat with women.

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

I don't know I got this HB9's number the other day and since she was starting an internship in toronto after the weekend, it was her idea to stay in contact through facebook and email. Thing is though I didn't call her on the weekend and my freind request is still pending so I think she wants me to call her. Chicks always play hard to get with me its ****ng annoying.

 

[Jariel]

No. It's just a myth designed to increase male confidence and persistence when dealing with women.

I've done most of my communicating via texts and my girlfriend or non of my exes ever objected. Besides, texting is easier and cheaper for me.

Actually when I first met my girlfriend, I asked for her MSN details rather than her number. We got chatting on MSN and we've been together for 15 months!

Not the first time either. Another girl asked me for my MSN address, I added her, got chatting, asked her out and we were dating for a while. She still emails me.

 

[LionOne]

For those of you who still dont understand, communicating with women in person is the only way to display your power

While it's true that communicating face to face is the best way, you can still DHV in AIMor with SMS, but you have to know how. C&F works very well in both AIM/SMS. Also show them some cool pics about you etc.

Online gaming IS powerful but requires good verbal skills and gaming.

The road from online to real life meeting is: Instant messaging (AIM/MSN etc)->SMS messaging->Phone calling->Meeting face to face.

They will sense your power but the communication must remain congruent all the time and that online persona must also carry to real life.

In each stage the game kind of restarts and you build the attraction all over. This reassumes her that you indeed ARE congruent with the persona that you present her. It doesn't matter if you have built years of rapport with her in AIM but once you meet her the first time you go back to attraction phase.

And to answer your question: no they won't find that cowerdly, as long as you escalate with your communications and keep it congruent. But if you meet her first in real life then you won't go back to instant messaging, that's too nerdish. You do few SMS and call her soon to arrange meeting. In phone it's good to arrange meetings but SMSs are THE way to keep up the communication while you are not with her. Also if there is some reason you can't meet her face to face soon enough for the first time (she lives far or you have some business trip/vacation), then use SMS to keep up the communication. When you get in to phone with her, remember to build some attraction all over. And having sexy voice helps you a lot :] You don't have to do the attraction phase more then minute or two but do it for the sake of congruence.

The chicks who find SMS cowardly do that for reason. The SMSs are then misconstrued and subcommunicate lack of value. It's bad gaming. For example, asking directly for meeting in SMS will kill your game. That's something that should be done in phone (don't really ask but just arrange that meeting). But if you do few messages to build attraction and say that you will call her later, when you have time, then it's ok.

 

[Robert Jones]

I don't know I got this HB9's number the other day and since she was starting an internship in toronto after the weekend, it was her idea to stay in contact through facebook and email. Thing is though I didn't call her on the weekend and my freind request is still pending so I think she wants me to call her. Chicks always play hard to get with me its ****ng annoying.

Perhaps they play hard to get because you dont call them.
This is a prime example of what I am tlking about, a woman is getting ready to leave for a internship for I imagine 3 months at least and suggests that the two of you keep in touch via the internet when she is on her internship. So while she is still in town instead of calling her you put in a friend request.
She is still in town the two of you can see each other right then or at least make an attempt at it, instead you take the cowardly way out and then wonder why chicks play hard to get.

 

[djSlvt]

It takes two baby. If you questioning if you're a coward, then you need to reevaluate your morals, or something very similar. Because if she considers you a coward, then who is she? Perhaps she doesn't even think that way, perhaps it is you who considers yourself a coward. Either way, you over thinking things, some where you are insecure, and that is an area you should work on...


An area that you should consider, however, is whether you're paying too much value to that window on your screen. Because it's just a window, and if you make it your life, then she knows you're a looser.

 

[muscleman]

SMS > phone.

-less time invested
-much lower chance of saying something retarded
-you dont hear her life story
-you can respond whenever
-less pressured overall

And at least for the newer generation, it's the thing to do. Every girl in now in her 20s and earlier uses SMS, and over half of them have myspace/facebook. Don't fight the digital age - adapt.

No, it's not cowardly. It's only cowardly if you break up with them over text vs. phone or something equally dramatic.

 

[djSlvt]

Nah, phone is more, because you communicate more to her:

Message
Tonation
Your mood
How cool you are
How you want her

etc, etc... There is more than one dimension to saying a word than to typing it.


If I meet chick online I talk to her on IM first, then get her number, or else, and that's a short cut, is talk to her on skype, you get voice + video, and that's better than just voice.

 

[Babnik]

I see guys make fun of other guys when they ask for girl's e-mail instead of her number.

These are HB high though, not into PCs, more into pop-culture, princess-types.


I also had a girl flake on me because she felt that I SMSed her because I couldn't hold a proper convo over the phone.

 

[muscleman]

That's probably in your head. Did she TELL you that?

Ultimately it doesn't matter what you use. It's all just a means to an end. I can't attribute my success to use of email/IM/SMS/ or phone - I've had as many victories as I've had flops using all of these.

I will advise this though - if you use AIM/IM, use it VERY sparingly. Scarcity breeds attraction/respect and if you're online all the time girls will think you're a loser with no life. Don't even bother with away messages. I used to be on IM 1-2hrs/night and it was a complete waste of time with no benefits whatsoever. Now I get on maybe 3-4x/week, mainly to get a hold of classmates for something school related, and my AIM explodes with girls I otherwise see in person.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I don't do that sh1t.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Nah, phone is more, because you communicate more to her:

Message
Tonation
Your mood
How cool you are
How you want her

etc, etc... There is more than one dimension to saying a word than to typing it...

True, but most guys aren't comfortable with having conversations with women without worrying about saying the wrong thing and lower her interest level. Technology efficiency allows people to stay disengaged.

 

[afrojiggles]

mmm...i do all the shyt styles, sms, fon and e-busting,lol

 

[Rudra]

Talking on the phone is good in two ways - it gives us exclusivity, for the other person HAS to listen to us and to nobody else, and it is communication without physical presence, without the social environment watching you interact. So everybody knows those chicks that would for hours talk to you on the phone and tell you everything and more, but that in "real life" would not give you the time of day. She doesn´t like to be seen around you, she doesnt like you physicality whatever.

You can make this work in the beginning, if you have not yet been shytcanned and some rapport is there. You can use this to gain information on the chick to find out which buttons you should push and from which side to attack her. It is good for making up your strategy. But you have to be extra careful not to overdo it and land in rapport heaven, aka friendzone. I know, everybody says - keep it short, 10 min maximum. That is right, YOU should keep it short, she should do the talking, then you can have her talk for hours, if you can take it)) If you can´t pry her open even on the phone, then do make it short.

BTW - For asking chicks out, I always call from the cell phone when out on the street somewhere. So you always show that you are busy running around somewhere and have a life going and it is much easier to be extra short.

 

[rakishness]

If the girl actually LIKED the guy who was IMing her...IT DOESN'T MATTER.
You'll still get LAID. Coward...brave.....who gives a sh!t!!!! It's all about VALUE. Stop over analyzing. It doesn't matter.

 

[MrS]

There's some **** you just can't send in an empty message.

 

[comic_relief]

I agree with Jariel.

I still say that amateurs or newbies should stick with the rule as a rule of thumb, but for more mature DJ's it shouldn't matter.

if you have the social skills to play the game, than you should be able to get away with anything.

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