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Cheating is 1 person's reality. It isn't a TOTAL VIEW of reality.
Let's say the world is made up of tons of different realities and perspectives. And with all the variations in people, there's billions of outcomes. There's a "market" of women who will inevitably cheat under CERTAIN circumstances.
And it isn't ALL women, it's a CHARACTER flaw, like that of Shakespeare's "tragic hero" who encompassed a tragic flaw, almost genetic in nature, that brought about his downfall. There are women like this.
It isn't a science though. As much as you can say "if she comes from a bad family, she'll cheat", I know women who come from good families and cheat, too.
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Case in point, my buddy, who was dating a 10 for 6 years, cheated twice in some capacity. Both times with his cousin. They were slated to be married. It's a very messy situation but some keypoints are:
-she's very selfish and manipulative, she's use highly dramatic incidents to create emotion so they can "come together," such as when she cheats, they feel "bad", like a crisis happened and should get together to work it out.
-she has integrity to emotion, and when she 'feels' he's not meeting it, he's in trouble. Most times though, her emotions are manipulative.
-When she cheated, it was to get 'back' at him and inflict the same emotional pain she felt by his lack of giving.
Now I'll say this, she's a straight up bytch. If any guy ever ran into this 5' ecuadorian ho, with fake tits, DSLS lips, and a tan like caramel, RUN! She's only into money; he gave her everything. Women like this are EASY to find.
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Diminish your Risk.
We all know women are emotional, but the only integrity and belief they have IS emotion. Ever gotten into a disagreement with them?
Bad emotion/feeling bad because of you = you ARE WRONG
Good emotion/feeling good because = you ARE RIGHT
It's like red light green light. But don't fall into this trap. To her, it isn't so much a grey world as it is a black and white world. It's cut and dry. But she muddies it up good with her emotions.
JUST because a woman feels bad or has expectations DOES NOT MAKE HER right. If a guy was right everytime he felt bad, and the girl was wrong everytime he felt bad, she'd ALWAYS be wrong. Relationships don't run well on that sort of fuel, but it's how women are, and if guys don't wise up to it, they become pawns and AFC's to their whims.
Her emotions ARE her decision. That's the code she lives by, and if she feels you should have done something a certain way, in alot of cases, it won't matter, because it's how she feels, NOT THINKS.
Doing things that feel good, doesn't always lead to success or good results.
Being drunk feels good, for awhile.
Doing some drugs can feel good, for awhile.
So does eating bad, but the long-range results are far worse in all the above cases.
So does blowing LOADS of dough on pointless and useless things.
See, if you can get her to FEEL good about doing certain things, then you change the linkage and the outcome. I have a buddy who's a master at getting women who didn't previously enjoy giving head, WANT and LOVE to give it. He calls them "*** vampires."
It's done much Pavlov's dogs. Over time, the association with certain feelings is linked to giving head, so she comes to want it more. It's the same thing in her head. If cheating is a means or source of good emotion, whereas you've become a source of bad emotion, she WILL cheat.
I remember going to a bar down the road from my place. The first time I went there with my girl, I got shytty drunk somehow and we had a fight. Now, whenever we drive by, she refuses to ever go back. There's a few other places like that which remind her of bad circumstances so she won't go.
Conversely, she loves certain places for the memories they hold and will instantly change her into someone different, excite her, turn her on, or make her happy. Women are like that. It isn't so much about NLP, as it is understanding that the mind makes associations and meanings on its own. Each person does that. To some guys, PUA is awesome, wonderful, and inspiring. To others, its awful, useless, and just not your personality. It's the association through the belief that leads you there.
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I just don't see women ALL cheating. And I think, in some regard, you can tell. You can tell by what you get back from her. What she gives to you. How the relationship is. But most guys' are asleep and don't pay attention. I put the blame there, to begin with.
It's like saying "you can't be rich." The belief is reinforcing. If you EVER want to be involved with women, you must accept it as part of the RISK involved, but the risk.
There's PAIN AVOIDANCE or RISK ACCEPTANCE (i.e. Going for the GAIN). You guys are speaking of PAIN AVOIDANCE, which means avoiding women altogether. Notice it's there, just like owning a dog. It can shyt on your rug, possibly mawl your kids, chew your leather, but there's MORE joy in my reality to owning one, than the expense related to it and risk of having 1. I've had 5+ dogs with my parents, and owned 1 of my own. Never had a personal problem, though they are messy. BECAUSE THEY ARE DOGS.
Women are women. They are not men, so do not bemoan their lack of MANLY skills. Can you? How can you? Cheating is a fact of opportunity FOR ALL people. The more desirable woman you seek, the MORE risk you will encounter. She will have MORE opportunities to cheat, but it's her CHARACTER that will separate her from all the others. And if you married a 10 of 10's, and did so now, at the age of 25, you have a LIFETIME of risk of ahead of you. What will you do?
Will you avoid women totally?
Go for a fatter woman, someone less desirable?
You bemoan yesterday's ills, but accept them like you would accept strikes in baseball. Or missed completions in football. Or bogies in golf. Or rejections in approaching. It's a NUMBERS game. Not just GETTING numbers, but odds. Ratios. Stats. %. It's not definative, which I think some of you "logics" want, is a sure-fire, 100% return. To have no risk.
Would this be the human experience if we didn't have PAIN and PLEASURE and learned how to get more of 1 and less of the other?
A-Unit
