So this is my take at the third key to Don Juan (yes, I am doing them backwards, do you mind?^^).
I remember when I went to this ball in February. A friend of mine invited 4 guys and 5 girls from our ballroom dancing class so we could show of a little and maybe make other people there dance as well.
My best friend was there too. He always asks me about every single girl in the room to check how I think she’s looking. So after a little while both of us spotted this HB8 waitress. If I say HB8, I really mean it, I think many people here meet a little too many HB8s and 9s, she was like the only 8 in the room and there were no 9s. In fact, I am still waiting for a day to see a 9, but maybe my expectations are just too high.
Back then I was stuffed with material from this website and eager to try everything out, yet I couldn’t quiet get myself to approach anyone. Fear was holding me back. I quickly realised that the waitress was too old for me and told my buddy that she would be all his (he is 3 years older than me). He couldn’t make a move, he just wondered all the time how old she was and if she wasn’t too old for him as well. At some point I lost my patience with him, walked over to her and just plain out asked her for her age and name.
I got both and a short conversation going that I wasn’t even looking for.
From then on the evening was great. My female friends started flirting with me like crazy and I got a stranger HB to buy me a drink which was a GREAT accomplishment back then for me
But let’s get a little more objective here. Why was I able to approach her, when I didn’t approach anyone else? Even though she looked much better than the other girls, I just talked to her without even thinking about it.
It should be kind of obvious right now. I thought she was too old for me so I didn’t consider anything. This knocked her right of her pedestal. By approaching her I was just helping my buddy out, I didn’t care about the outcome.
So as a matter of fact there are two ways of doing approaches: You either do as the PUAs do: Arm yourself with all kinds of weapons and try to ignore this fear of loosing her.
The other way is to destroy this fear completely. After all, if you are the price, what is there to fear?
Creativity demands Naturalness!
You either make her the price and unleash you arms at her… or you just go over and be yourself, be creative!
Okay, so this is about the pook-style, so let’s get back to him and back this one up.
It’s all about desperation, which makes us too careful, too holding back and thus, running out of words, which is the worst case.
What this is really about is being desireless, while having fun, while still being perceived as a sexual being, a man!
But more of this later, this post is just about the third key. Note that you aren’t supposed to become arrogant. You are not better than her. You are just more valuable to yourself, so she has to chase YOU! For you are the price to be won!
The focus must be on you. This brings me to the subject of self-improvement. The Great Catch is consistently updating himself. Pook?
So to all you aspiring DJs. Why are you here? Is it to obtain women? Or is it to become free? Do you want to make women want you? Or do you want to have them gravitate towards you while doing other stuff and bettering yourself as a person?
You can hunt them or you can let them hunt you. You can be the guy hitting on chicks or you can be the Great Catch. It really is your choice. But remember, you can only be the Great Catch, if you still improve yourself.
I remember when I went to this ball in February. A friend of mine invited 4 guys and 5 girls from our ballroom dancing class so we could show of a little and maybe make other people there dance as well.
My best friend was there too. He always asks me about every single girl in the room to check how I think she’s looking. So after a little while both of us spotted this HB8 waitress. If I say HB8, I really mean it, I think many people here meet a little too many HB8s and 9s, she was like the only 8 in the room and there were no 9s. In fact, I am still waiting for a day to see a 9, but maybe my expectations are just too high.
Back then I was stuffed with material from this website and eager to try everything out, yet I couldn’t quiet get myself to approach anyone. Fear was holding me back. I quickly realised that the waitress was too old for me and told my buddy that she would be all his (he is 3 years older than me). He couldn’t make a move, he just wondered all the time how old she was and if she wasn’t too old for him as well. At some point I lost my patience with him, walked over to her and just plain out asked her for her age and name.
I got both and a short conversation going that I wasn’t even looking for.
From then on the evening was great. My female friends started flirting with me like crazy and I got a stranger HB to buy me a drink which was a GREAT accomplishment back then for me
But let’s get a little more objective here. Why was I able to approach her, when I didn’t approach anyone else? Even though she looked much better than the other girls, I just talked to her without even thinking about it.
It should be kind of obvious right now. I thought she was too old for me so I didn’t consider anything. This knocked her right of her pedestal. By approaching her I was just helping my buddy out, I didn’t care about the outcome.
So as a matter of fact there are two ways of doing approaches: You either do as the PUAs do: Arm yourself with all kinds of weapons and try to ignore this fear of loosing her.
The other way is to destroy this fear completely. After all, if you are the price, what is there to fear?
Creativity demands Naturalness!
You either make her the price and unleash you arms at her… or you just go over and be yourself, be creative!
Okay, so this is about the pook-style, so let’s get back to him and back this one up.
It’s all about desperation, which makes us too careful, too holding back and thus, running out of words, which is the worst case.
So how do we kill this desperation?
No trick? I thought I could just memorize a bunch of techniques to get her!
Okay, but as a matter of fact, all AFCs coming her are not great catches, they do not have many women chasing them.
This way of thinking doesn’t just destroy the desperation traits within you, it also stops you from thinking and analysing too much.
So basically, this key of thinking you are the great catch stops this endless flow of thought through your mind. This is by the way why I am posting the third key first. I think pook got it backwards. His first key was sexuality, then fun, then killing desperation. For real, he did it the other way round (notice, how he first posted “Kill that desperation”, then talked about fun in the answers to “Kill that desperation” and then posted “Be a man” about sexuality.)
What this is really about is being desireless, while having fun, while still being perceived as a sexual being, a man!
But more of this later, this post is just about the third key. Note that you aren’t supposed to become arrogant. You are not better than her. You are just more valuable to yourself, so she has to chase YOU! For you are the price to be won!
The focus must be on you. This brings me to the subject of self-improvement. The Great Catch is consistently updating himself. Pook?
What desires, I thought we didn’t have desires… Or we were supposed to be desirelss!
Alright, so the difference is between needing and wanting a girl. SO let’s get back to focusing on ourselves.
Why be happy to have a little, when it could be the whole world?
So to all you aspiring DJs. Why are you here? Is it to obtain women? Or is it to become free? Do you want to make women want you? Or do you want to have them gravitate towards you while doing other stuff and bettering yourself as a person?
You can hunt them or you can let them hunt you. You can be the guy hitting on chicks or you can be the Great Catch. It really is your choice. But remember, you can only be the Great Catch, if you still improve yourself.