DJing Pook-Style Part A - Patience

[Al Moh.]

I would like to ask you a question. Did you really read the DJ-Bible? You did? How often? One time, maybe two or some articles three times? And do you think you really understood it? Some sentences you have to read four or five times and really think about it until you can truly understand its meaning. As aspiring DJs, we try to take the easy path. We appreciate posts like pooks, because they sound so logical but then again we turn towards SS und NLP and canned openers and such because we want to know what EXACTLY to do. We want to have weapons in our minds that we can use while talking to this HB, because we just run out of words.
We want to do a and then b and then c and then know we are DJs and have all the women gravitate towards us. So tell me, what is a, what is b and what is c? And the PUA calls out:

“That’s an easy one, Al, you first use a good opener backed up with confidence, then you create comfort by mirroring her, you initiate kino and there it is!”

Well, I certainly thought so and it did give me some more success, but this is wrong. This is so wrong. It’s wrong because… But this post is about “pook’s school” so let’s hear what he has to say:

A Don Juan is a state of mind, not a list of methods and tricks.

I used to just pretty much overlook this sentence at the very beginning of “Kill that desperation” because it seemed to be just an introduction.

NO! This sentence is EVERYTHING! Let me repeat that, this sentence is EVERYTHING!

I've been here for 3-4 years. Looking at my past posts, I can see how A leads into B and then to C and so on. For example, the Kill That Desperation post (for me) slammed the door shut on 'tricks' and 'tactics'.

Exactly, because the focus must be on YOU! But what did he do then?

So what else was there to do? After that came "Be A Man" which seperated sexuality from intercourse. This slammed the door on me on all the 'lay reports' and all. We are in a habit nowadays of defining sexuality only to matters of sex when, in fact, it goes well beyond intercourse.

So what is our problem here?

It is that the man puts the woman on the pedestal rather then himself.

Imagine if a woman did all of the above to you. Imagine if a woman was OBSESSED with you, always calling you, always available, and always spending her free time FOR YOU. Any interest you had for this woman would soon evaporate. Why? Because in your own mind you are thinking two things: "No one else must want her," AND "If I can get her OBSESSED about me, I know I can get BETTER girls to be interested in me." Her desperation is turning you off. The same is true for women.

What does the PUA do? He puts her on a pedestal. Now I can hear all those people yelling at me: “No, that’s not true! I am in control, I am building the situation around her, it’s just a hobby!”

Is it? What is your goal? Your goal is the girl, your goal is sex, isn’t it? So she is the price that you are trying to get. She is in control, you are just trying to manipulate her by activating her erotic instincts and breaking down barriers.

You influence her as in taking down that sexual dam that keeps her energies contained. But I still don't think you're making her SEXUAL.

With men, we are not entirely sexual. We are only partly sexual. So when we do get aroused, it invades our thoughts as something foreign. When aroused, men's behavior erupts into something quite different.

Women are ENTIRELY sexual. This is why it is so hard to see if they are 'aroused' because they do not have that same eruptive nature as we do (of a foriegn influence).

The result is that Men are said to be the sexual ones because we SHOW IT more. It is more visible. But women do not show it as clearly since their consciousness and sexuality are both harmonized together. There is no conflict like there is in the male mind.

SS keeps saying that it is making the girls horny and sexual. I don't buy it. Women are not men. Women are already sexual and are usually in some state of horniness. What can be done is to tear down whatever walls that is keeping her in check.

This is what I see SS doing. As far as influencing her to have sex, I don't see that. She already wants to have sex.

My complaint has been with the SPIRIT of SS. Rather than being a man (keeping that transcendent spirit, letting the woman meld to you for you are the prize), you are responding to her sexuality that is 100% a part of her. You entering Dionysius, the feminine realm. You are AIMING at that.

So no tactics, the focus must be on you. One key is sexuality. But if you don’t aim at sex, what are you aiming at then?

From sex to the very first meeting, the focus must be on fun. You must get this ‘soul-mate’, ‘true-love’, and pedestal worship out of your head. Not that these things are necessarily bad, they poison everything AT FIRST.

Fun is a powerful key. It is so powerful that female friends may become interested in you just solely because YOU ARE FUN. On dates, focus not on what will go wrong, not on what will go right, not on the outcome but on the game. Even if the girl ends up being a loser, you still win because you were focusing on the fun and not on the girl. (And those that focus on the girl lose focus on the fun and, thus, lose the girl).

Note that fun doesn’t just mean funny. Humour is good but fun is a lot more, you have to enjoy yourself.

So tell me pook, once again, what are the keys to Don Juan?

Key One: Her sexuality and YOURS shall be embraced.

Become sexual!

Key Two: Fun shall be the focus.

Do you enjoy yourself? Learn how to date yourself and she’ll be along for the ride!

Key Three: You are the PRIZE to be won.

No more pedestals!

I am going to do extra posts on each of these three aspects in more detail, because this really is almost everything you have to know and apply.

But this post is about patience. Patience is your foundation to change.

I have observed guys that had it all (looks, confidence, experience, and even interest from the women). I was envious of these guys for they seemed to know what they were doing and knew how to do it well. I was in awe of how they could be so smooth with the ladies. Their abilities amazed me.

Where I worked at, there were a couple of women who all the guys wanted. These women had initial interest in the guys mentioned above (and as you can imagine, those guys had quite a bit of interest in them). So the guys moved in for the kill. They unleashed their charm, their wit, their humor to get the women they so desperately desired.

In the end, both women had ditched these guys and went out with me.

So what happened? How could guys with more experience, confidence, wit, and looks be shot down by the most in-demand women in the area? And how could someone like me (who lacks in these certain areas) succeed when such smooth ladies-men fail?

It all has to do with patience. These guys failed because they came on entirely too strong, too fast. After a couple of dates, they wanted to marry the person. Though they were smooth, they could not hold back their desire for a girlfriend. The women sensed this and recoiled from them instantly.

If you don’t have patience, you can’t destroy the AFC within you, period. After all, why aren’t we impatient? Because we want to have something NOW that we haven’t gotten yet. It’s us longing for a price. Yet, since we now are the price, the great catch, there is no reason to be impatient. We are on a road to DJ, what more is there to do? Relax and see how you change for the better and have more and more success.

“I will be patient and let the cards fall where they may.” Notice that this was NOT inaction or an abrupt slowness. He did not let the lovely ladies’ attention get the best of him nor the success or failures of his competition.

So what is patience?

Patience is the refined sense of confidence.

Patience is controlling your eagerness.

If you believe you are the Great Catch, you’ll have patience. Women are always going to come to you and your laid back approach is going to attract them even more.

 

[Al Moh.]

However, someone says: “But what if I don’t see results? There has to be something wrong if I fail, so I got to change my strategy, I got to be more persistent.”

Patience includes being able to make mistakes and learn out of them and having the patience to let yourself change slowly. You are not going to wake up tomorrow and be a Don Juan.

Do you allow yourself to fail? Or do you go search on posts on EXACTLY how you should act on a date? Do you try to push your comfort zones or do you read the pages of seduction material for the 435473th time?

Failure is a necessary component of growth. Let yourself fail.

Not all the time. You are not the Nice Guy who crashes and burns without a clue (and does it again and again and again). Don Juans are made by failing, not by succeeding.

When you fail, you have information sent back on things that can be worked on. Are you too scrawny? Do you not have fun dates? Is your personality the problem? Do you let yourself have fun? Are you scared of sex? What is it?

A failure can help you more than reading every damn post on this board. Failure will aid you much more than the whole of the DJ Bible.

Going into Don Juan is not a light switch. You do not stuff this information in your head and become a drone of the ideas here. You need to fail. You MUST fail. You will always learn more about failing because it won’t be hypothetical! You won’t be having fantasies of you, being a blazing Don Juan, and going from girl to girl. No, you will be OUT THERE (which is where you learn everything) and you WILL FAIL. This failure points out where you NEED to improve.

“But Pook! If I fail, I will lose the girl!”

For every love that dies, a new one is born. It is a law of Nature!

Keep the focus on YOU. So what if you lose the girl? Another girl will quickly take her place. If you WAIT on the first girl, you will be worse off when you meet that second girl. FAIL NOW.

Patience is confidence, patience is willpower, patience is endurance.

For nothing can overtake the power of Endurance!

Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent.

Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb.

Education will not; the world is full of educated failure.

Endurance alone is power ultimate. So endure.

We are the sum of our endurance. And we will not let others define us any longer.

Fear prevents us from being patient. We see this opportunity and fear to loose it, so we rush in because of our fear of being too late.

This board creates another fear: The fear of doing stuff that is “AFC”. Some people think if they fail after reading the DJ-Bible, they are doing something wrong so they come back and read more. They fail again and they read even more! At some point they almost read all day long and rarely apply because they are desperately trying to fix their errors. But maybe you aren’t doing anything wrong. Maybe you did the right thing but your delivery wasn’t confident enough, you just have to practice more. Or the girl was just in a bad mood. Or whatever. You shouldn’t think about stuff being AFC and DJ-like that often, read the bible, so it’ll be in the back of your mind and then experiment.

I think a great exercise for everyone is to go to some distant town, one where no one will know you, and do whatever the hell you want. That's right. Go up that beauty and be super aggressive! Or go up to her and say WHATEVER you want.

Relax! There will be no one from this board going, "Uh uh! You have gone 'against' the Don Juan way" (whatever that means). No rules. No regulations.

Anything you want.

Watch what happens. I bet you'll stunned at how successful you are.

The next morning, with that beautuous babe's arms and legs locked around you in bed, you will stare at the ceiling and wonder how this happen. "Maybe I was super confidant last night!" No, for that brief moment, when no one was watching and no one you knew could 'criticize' you, you united dream and day.

That is Don Juan!

But uniting dream and day is worth another post. So for now just remember:

There's no shame in failure, only shame in not trying. Even when you don't try, the fierce guilt that tears you up is a sign that you are changing for the better and killing that nice guy within you.

 

[mtnkng]

Can't tell you how much this post rings true for me right now.

Met an awesome woman. Went too fast, too soon. Was just putting her up on the pedestal when she bailed. The sad thing is...I knew not to do it. And she even gave me info not to do it.

So....the recovering AFC made a mistake. Good. Clearly demonstrated that patience is a requirement. IF you are over eager...eventually, you'll learn to slow down OR you'll end up in regret.

 

[dice]

Great idea I almost did this same type of thing with Pooks posts but you are definately doing him justice. To this day nothing can come close to pooks posts imo so looking deeper into them will be a great thing

 

[JAS760]

Thank you for breaking it down for me

 

[Jon55]

Do you enjoy yourself? Learn how to date yourself and she’ll be along for the ride!

Holy ****. I'm tattooing that on my arm so I will never forget it. Ok, not really, but wow. That's an awesome tip. Never thought of it that way, and what exactly to do on dates has been a hard question to answer.

 

[ItsOnNow]

This is what I needed to hear I think. The whole getting it instant/now thing, that's what's been fccvking with my head, I am a normally patient person, but I have always thought, "Gotta get a gf/sex,now,now,now." Although ironically, uh, haven't had much. Is not having dated much a red flag to chicks?

 

[Al Moh.]

Problem is, girl do tend to not respect you very much if you haven't dated much. But how do they know? They see it in your eyes, your eagerness and desperation is saying: I suck with girls, I need you!