Currently have 1 FB in town and 2 out of town. Met a guy online and was hoping to have 2nd FB. We met at a coffee shop and then went back to my place. The sex was awkward, but I usually give guys a second chance because it changes. Saw him a couple days later and sex was a 8.5. Then I saw him a few days later and the sex remained an 8.5, which I am fine with.
With my other in-town FB, we don't cuddle and I'm not too into his kissing so I don't get attached. For you playas out there, the way to get a woman attached is to cuddle afterwards. I would try to kick him out nicely and he would say that he would leave in a half hour and cuddle. The first night he said I was really mean and I had to hand him his clothes. I tried to keep detached, but because of the fact that he stayed, cuddled and opened up, I felt drawn in.
After 3 times, he did not contact me for like 4 days and remained invisible online on purpose (in the past, he was online most nights because we talked online a lot before we met) I played too by also remaining invisible I hate to admit. Finally I broke down and showed myself as visible. He then showed himself as visible and contacted me to see if I wanted to hang out the next day. I told him that I wasn't sure because I expect a guy to contact me the next day to say they had a good time (unless it's a ONS) and then he said that he wouldn't beg so I said okay, I had fun, goodbye.
Then a few minutes later he IM'ed me and apologized, etc, and so I hung out with him again. Things were fine and we also hung out again a few days later. Then, instead of just leaving, he stayed over and I felt really awkward due to attachment issues. Then he ended up leaving in the middle of the night without turning the light on, which confirmed my opinion that I should ask the guy to leave before the light turns off.
Then, the next day we had discussed seeing a movie in the afternoon, but I had plans later in the evening. He Im'ed me in the evening wondering if we were going to see the movie so I Im'ed him later when I came back. He totally ignored my IM and remained invisible for a couple of days. I called his cell left a message saying hello to see what was up. The next day he Im's me to tell me he will see the movie whenever I want to and that he'll be online later that night. So, I go on later that night and he never shows up.
At this point, I felt frustrated with all these games and told him that I didn't think things were working out. His only reply to that (1 day later) was that if it's not working out, to return his movie. I did.
So he remained invisible a week then started to show himself. After we broke up, I decided to move on and remained visible when I felt like it.
I felt really bothered that he didn't IM or call me to want to get back with me. I wrote to him to ask about something light and kept it cool so that it wouldn't be awkward if I ever saw him.
He told me about an upcoming show and then on the day it was occuring, I called and left a message to see if he wanted to see it since none of my friends were interested in going. Of course, he totally didn't call me back and then Im'ed me the next day to say that he would like to hang out later in the week.
The next day he drunk dialed me to hang out but I was too tired. (Wow, I actually received a phone call) I had worked a 12 hour shift, including commuting time. So I suggested hanging out the next day. He agreed and then the next day, he called 10 minutes late to tell me his car is dead.
WTF. I don't believe him so I call him on it and then he tells me that he's not into playing mind games. He just doesn't think about things. I told him not to call again and have had NC.
I don't want him back, but I want to know what sort of game this guy was playing. Also, what did I do wrong?
Please feel free to be honest with me. I can take criticism. I want to have FB's who are fun without all the drama. I prefer in-town FB's that last 3+ months. This guy is 10 years younger than me, could that be the problem? My other FB is 10 years older and the out of town ones are close to my age. If I want a younger FB, is the game played differently?
With my other in-town FB, we don't cuddle and I'm not too into his kissing so I don't get attached. For you playas out there, the way to get a woman attached is to cuddle afterwards. I would try to kick him out nicely and he would say that he would leave in a half hour and cuddle. The first night he said I was really mean and I had to hand him his clothes. I tried to keep detached, but because of the fact that he stayed, cuddled and opened up, I felt drawn in.
After 3 times, he did not contact me for like 4 days and remained invisible online on purpose (in the past, he was online most nights because we talked online a lot before we met) I played too by also remaining invisible I hate to admit. Finally I broke down and showed myself as visible. He then showed himself as visible and contacted me to see if I wanted to hang out the next day. I told him that I wasn't sure because I expect a guy to contact me the next day to say they had a good time (unless it's a ONS) and then he said that he wouldn't beg so I said okay, I had fun, goodbye.
Then a few minutes later he IM'ed me and apologized, etc, and so I hung out with him again. Things were fine and we also hung out again a few days later. Then, instead of just leaving, he stayed over and I felt really awkward due to attachment issues. Then he ended up leaving in the middle of the night without turning the light on, which confirmed my opinion that I should ask the guy to leave before the light turns off.
Then, the next day we had discussed seeing a movie in the afternoon, but I had plans later in the evening. He Im'ed me in the evening wondering if we were going to see the movie so I Im'ed him later when I came back. He totally ignored my IM and remained invisible for a couple of days. I called his cell left a message saying hello to see what was up. The next day he Im's me to tell me he will see the movie whenever I want to and that he'll be online later that night. So, I go on later that night and he never shows up.
At this point, I felt frustrated with all these games and told him that I didn't think things were working out. His only reply to that (1 day later) was that if it's not working out, to return his movie. I did.
So he remained invisible a week then started to show himself. After we broke up, I decided to move on and remained visible when I felt like it.
I felt really bothered that he didn't IM or call me to want to get back with me. I wrote to him to ask about something light and kept it cool so that it wouldn't be awkward if I ever saw him.
He told me about an upcoming show and then on the day it was occuring, I called and left a message to see if he wanted to see it since none of my friends were interested in going. Of course, he totally didn't call me back and then Im'ed me the next day to say that he would like to hang out later in the week.
The next day he drunk dialed me to hang out but I was too tired. (Wow, I actually received a phone call) I had worked a 12 hour shift, including commuting time. So I suggested hanging out the next day. He agreed and then the next day, he called 10 minutes late to tell me his car is dead.
WTF. I don't believe him so I call him on it and then he tells me that he's not into playing mind games. He just doesn't think about things. I told him not to call again and have had NC.
I don't want him back, but I want to know what sort of game this guy was playing. Also, what did I do wrong?
Please feel free to be honest with me. I can take criticism. I want to have FB's who are fun without all the drama. I prefer in-town FB's that last 3+ months. This guy is 10 years younger than me, could that be the problem? My other FB is 10 years older and the out of town ones are close to my age. If I want a younger FB, is the game played differently?
