Dj turned back to a AFC I need advice *help Please*

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Good Day Gentlemen Of Sosuave

This is a bit of a longer story but I'm going to cut it down to size and fill as much important detail as possible just need I tell you. This is my side of the story and I don't know how she would convey her side.

4 years go I was happy chap, Lived live freely and I had been a relationship for almost 8 years till the broad left me for someone else cause i wasn't cutting her standard anymore. I let go, that was hard. But not has hard as this one, I have I think its cause a friend of my introduced me to this site and I started gaming girls well. And seen"ng through there b.s 4 years later I met a broad she looked lovely i wasn't in the mood to ask her out but i decided aggh why not, the next day we hooked up the 2nd day I hit that,:rock: we spent a lot of time together, And my 8 year ex was trying to get back with me, I was open to it but as this girl came into the picture I shut down to the idea,2 weeks later I call her and ask her where she is and she tells me she on her way home, I tell her to call me she doesn't, I walk to the convenient store more like a complex with a lot of shops than bam! She there. I say to her she must wait for me outside she says ok, I turn around she gone I hurry outside and she like down the road, I chase after her and she on the phone with some dude they were flirting the whole walk home. it’s about 5 mins from the stores but to her house, Its about 10 mins, you can imagine what an idiot or looser, I felt like. So my instincts kick in and say ditch the girl, after she hangs up i say hey listen its over bye, And walk away she send me like 5-7 text massages explaining that she wasn't flirting she sorry etc. and etc. I ignore all the massages and she keeps trying to call I read a post on Sosuave that said once you dump a broad never go back she will mess with you so I kill the desperation to reply. Later I'm sitting in the lounge playing games on the my laptop and playing music via my satellite audio bouquet a voice in me say read your astrology sign I do and it says to me be-careful not to make the biggest mistake of your life I than begin to think if my break up with this broad is what it means? So I ignore it and she calling and calling at about 10; 30pm (south African) time this is starting to bother me I than think you know what to heck with Sosuave and its rules, I could be making a big mistake I call her and tell her I'm outside she come out she cries and says she wasn't flirting*just clicked now that day she pulled a fast one over my eyes* etc. etc. and she loves me etc. and etc. and she didn't mean to disrespect me. I forgive her than were back on track months go by and where good than somehow I start getting the feeling, she up to something, so I ask her she denys it one day speaking to her best-friend who I knew before I met her, she tell me how there this guy calling her and she questioned her and she said there just friends, I don't take it to heart. So I just keep quiet and I let it slide, One day I say to her. You must sneak me into your room and let me sleep over. I’ll leave like at 4:30am she does than while where chilling she give me some story about how her sister liking to call her, like in the early hours of the morning, and she doesn't want us to be disturbed. So she going to switch her cell phone off before she does, she goes to the bath room and her phone rings it’s an unsaved number, and I don't answer people’s phones. So I just let it ring. I memories the number then cancel the missed call, she come back and turns off her phone in the morning. I tell her I had a dream last night that a certain number was calling her I literally spoke all those numbers, that called her last night she like she never had a call from that number, I'm like this girl got to be kidding me, this number called her like 15 times, So I keep quiet and i spends some time away. she than starts asking me why I'm distancing myself I tell her I'm busy she than starts rocking up at my house and sending me text massages that she want to see me and she tired of all this distance etc. etc. I than start again being normal boyfriend but the fact that she lied is totally eating me inside so I start investigating find out the guys is her ex she explains no this guy is asking her out etc. etc. and etc. I'm like nope I'm done it starts raining I'm like walking way she starts crying and explain that she’ll stop talking to him blah blah and my emotions kick in with the empathy and I forgive her again. please note I keep forgiving her cause I have another girlfriend so in moral I'm like feeling like if she found out I expect her to forgive me she cool liked her but I'm like politically on the rule that I was dating this one 1st. Then I break up with my other girl when things are all good months later the dude she said she would stop talking to there now calling each other and the airtime is coming from me I confront this guy by calling him I get home and I break up with her again she cries and begs and pleads and I take her back (can you all see what an AFC I have become over this women),now I'm feed up of fixing things I start messing with married women the girl down her road, I mean I start cheating on her hectically than we get really serious for years over the years I start to always feeling like I can’t forgive her. So one day I decide I can’t do this no more, I tell her I'm sorry but this isn't a good relationship anymore it’s not healthy and I'm not happy and *drum roll please* she pulls the I'm pregnant card I ask her what she want to do and I tell her I'm not ready she says she will get rid of it but she need the money from me I give her 1500 to do the process and she calls me and tells me it’s not enough, I give her more money she calls me. And tells me it’s not enough I couldn't walk in to the women termination facility as those are the regulations, so time is going by and I can see this broad doesn't want to get rid of the baby. So I say you know let’s just have the baby time goes things start to change, I get a job that require me to move closer that I move far away from her I keep. asking her to visit she always has stories and basically the distance is getting between us. I start partying a lot cause of the loneliness of being away from her and my family. making a lot new friends and I keep having random 1 night stands she comes over one day and find a condom wrapper, I say that's not mine it’s a friends that was using my flat she doesn't quite buy it but she does I basically start cheating a lot I'm always away so I could and she was always hurting me with regard to these guys and now am having a baby with this girl so 2012 my world come tumbling down I lose my job I mean everything I move back to my mums house again and we still together but now all those girls I was having one night stand with start contacting me visiting. and she like suspicious why all these girls are always wanting to surround themselves with, me to get to the part where I need advice 3 month goes by and I can’t find a job things get more tense and we fighting all the time and all the girls calling and visiting isn't quite making things a happy home. ill be purely honest with all you I love this women a lot and God knows why couldn't forgive her after I found about this dude and her and when I decided to leave she fell pregnant back to the 3 months looking for a job.2013 was my the hardest year in my life I saw people fall out of my life faster than u can say douge bags: than she also left :You know the saying when they say when it rains it pours best believe me that saying is true in December 2012 in I meet this lets say 8 out of 10 but I didn't treat her like I worship her world or her beauty she treated me like a king and gave me respect we cool I call her here there, I know about being and alpha male and her chasing me and about how power of suggestion can trigger a women crazy about you it’s a great method though and remembering you’re the prize but when it came to this other women she had the power of me I kept like focusing on putting things together with the mother of my child even though she left I know what ur all going to say after I tell you all this (AFC):crackup: : I Begged and pleaded and cried:cry: , I mean I call everyday asking for us to be OK and that I love her and I didn't mean to be mean and I'm sorry for everything please take me back I even started apologizing when she was wrong I needed her to help me with quap(MONEY) To find a job as my mom was looking after my little brother who is studying but the mother of my couldn't help me much like I always felt at her mercy like I had to worship 1st and also to be honest she was taking care of our daughter alone I tried and tried and tried and all the desperation got me was more disrespect and things being said that I can’t even imagine i would tolerate from a women I tried and walked away but then I’m the one running back remember the 8 I told u about, she ended up paying for me just to breath I mean I would sneeze and I got it like she was a hot broad, and everywhere I went heads turned even women looked at me different yeah it kind of gave the mother of my child a run she started being the one trying to fix things just when I thought where going to be fine I dumped the 8 I never wanted to see my child grow up without both parents two days later the mother of my child left me again this morning I woke up feeling like I need to beg some more but I’m taking a stand I have come here for advice women aren't giving me advice how to get my balls back in this situation so if any of u can shed me some light how to fix this or what to do to cope with this women to get along with her since we have a child please help I meeting women i know how important it is to meet other girls so Don’t start getting bitter towards women and im sorry for turning this site a soap oprah ...
 

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A couple things to comment on your situation. First being, if you really want help from other Djs you have to make this post more ethical. Many superfluous details making this a post people would just click-on and hit the back button after seeing how long it was. Hell, I was about to do so halfway through reading but then I seen she tricked you into paying money for an abortion she was clearly not going to get.

You need to be responsible and retake the reigns of your life.

If you would've left this woman earlier when your gut told you so you'd be better.
This female is toxic and if you could totally cut her from your life I'd recommend it, but you have responsibility in a child. If I were you I'd get a paternity test, unless your 100% sure the kids yours. You mentioned she had been sleeping around, you can never be to sure.

Next depending on the results (if she struggles against the paternity test you may have to do so legally) You cut her from your life, goto court for visiting rights on your child (if it is indeed yours) and you move on and focus on YOU

Get you a job, get a house again, go out and date which shouldn't be a problem for you. Get YOUR life together and set yourself up. Be selfish, in the end the only one looking out for you, is you.

Don't go back
Don't plead
Don't ask why she left
Don't even acknowledge that ****

When you contact her it should be about seeing your daughter, strictly
no small talk
no "we need to talk"

You CANNOT I fvcking repeat CANNOT be in a relationship with this woman , don't fvcking try. Don't believe me ? Where has this relationship gotten you? Your at your moms house with a kid you need to support, you don't need to be worried on how to fix the relationship, you need to worry about how to be a good father.

You said you don't want your child to be raised with one parent, its inevitable. The harsh truth is you picked the wrong woman to have a child with and at the wrong time. Its not your fault though, so don't self pity. You want to "regain your balls" ?

Get your life together and maintain any dignity you have left
Do what you know you NEED to do
and remember this, the best quote a man can have : IiWiI
IiWiI= It is what it is
Whatever happens happens, life deals you the cards, you job is to play them.
A real Man's job is to play the best hand he possibly can

Move tf on, or this woman will plummet your life deeper into the ruins.
 

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I know This Is like Lucrative advice: and its I have been trying to me back in order :again
Sorry for the long paragraph, was at work and i was writing this and working and I wanted to put the emotions I feel behind it, I know deep within this seems like the only option i guess i was hoping to hear other wise to be honest really I never thought i could experience so much hurt from one person,I was also trying to mind answer to change my attitude and mental mind state I'm trying to snap out of this zone : SmooveMooves Great brotherly advice
 

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That's probably the longest paragraph I've ever seen...

Break it up man, I ain't reading that.
 

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you have written a massive nonsensical story about some stupid girl that i cant even bother reading

you have oneitis

gftow
 

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page101 said:
I know This Is like Lucrative advice: and its I have been trying to me back in order :again
Sorry for the long paragraph, was at work and i was writing this and working and I wanted to put the emotions I feel behind it, I know deep within this seems like the only option i guess i was hoping to hear other wise to be honest really I never thought i could experience so much hurt from one person,I was also trying to mind answer to change my attitude and mental mind state I'm trying to snap out of this zone : SmooveMooves Great brotherly advice
You can (and should) hit the "Edit" button & insert paragraphs.
 
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