DJ lifestyle gets too hard?

[Bubs]

This is for the advanced DJ's because im getting lost with it all. I'm the kinda guy who girls come up and approach. Yeh i know, it's wierd, but im farting rainbows over it.

Anyway, since my whole understanding has improved - i keep getting numerous girls getting clingy and latching on to me. And i get into situations where i had one girl the previous week...then when i'm at a club, i invite some girl to sit on my knee; and the previous girl sees it and comes over later to me "so what are you doing with her? I thought you liked me?"

I'm not sure how to handle it. I know its great for social status, but does it give you a bad reputation?
And as for the clingy girls who ALWAYS want to know and ring up asking what you're doing, can you meet them etc etc.

Do u just stand your ground? I need some advice with numerous girls. I should be loving it, but it just gets too much.

I'm sure you know what i mean.

Thanks in advance

 

[insanity]

bubs. there's no such thing as a bad reputation with having many women flocking to you. it's like a girl who constantly gets hit on. there's great value to an individual, who people are seeking to be in their company. it makes something about them special.

if you didn't make her exclusive. then she should have no reason to say what she said. all the attention from girls will hardly make you unpopular. women are competitive against each other and she was probably trying to make you look bad, so she could have you all to herself.

learn to enjoy the attention your getting from these girls. i remember when i had 2 girls fighting over who was getting the next slow dance with me. it made me feel awesome. i picked wrong because the girl with the tears turned out to be a headcase. i should have picked the other.

 

[Freddy1]

"DJ lifestyle gets TOO HARD?"
Hey Buds you missed the pun in the title!

 

[Bubs]

lol! thanks freddy1! Im a comedian and i dont even realise it! N heres me focused on great hairstyles when i could jus laugh their knickers off!

to insanity:
i just thought because i APPEAR to be attractive, that girls automatically assume, "ugh, player" so i cnt be ****y cuz they think "arrogant". Or maybe its jus bad conditioning.
I do agreee with the exclusive bit though. She had no right to demand my attention! It does happen quite alot though and i dont know how to respond to comments like
"What are you doing with her? she's ugly!"
"I thought you liked me"
"You shouldn't be with her. You were with me"

Up until now i've just said, "We both knew it was fun. If i want you as more then i will tell you. Neither of us can argue with that."

N that line drives them crazy so they come for more. Argh!!

I hate being bigheaded n ****y more than ANYTHING, but its just me being natural. And im scared of it coming across like i want every girl in site.

So thankyou for the advice guys. I guess having alot of girls is the way to be. Let them ***** over each other!!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Two choices:

1. Stop sarging clingy women
2. Stop whatever you are doing that makes women feel that the two of you are exclusive

Personally, I try my best to do both.

 

[mrRuckus]

Do u just stand your ground? I need some advice with numerous girls. I should be loving it, but it just gets too much.

Uh who cares what any girl says or thinks if you can so easily have another?

 

[Le Parisien]

I don't think there's such thing as "DJ lifestyle" (do you realize how weird it sounds?), we are not a cult or gang or anything, it's an internet forum.

People give and take advice, people share their views and experiences, related to dating and women. Nothing less nothing more.

You take what you feel is useful for your daily social interactions with women, and with people in general. You are not "forced" to be a playa, you know, having this "they are just my b*tches attitude". Plus every girl you meet is different. Some might be the more "traditional" type (being exclusive, being girlfriend and boyfriend...), some others might be the more "liberated" type (you know, the "slvtty" kind).

Just know what kind of girls you are looking for and behave accordingly. Trying to have this pimp/playa like attitude with girls who believe in "normal" relationships is foolish, "showing your love" to slvts is just plain stupid.

Two choices:

[*]Stop sarging clingy women
[*]Stop whatever you are doing that makes women feel that the two of you are exclusive


Personally, I try my best to do both.

This is the way to go, especially the second one.

 

[Bubs]

Le Parisien:
Like i say, i get girls approaching me. Like at a club - some girl came up to me and said "i've seen another guy wearing that shirt"...and i ignored it and said "what? You're quiet. Are you shy or something? Sit down on my knee so i can hear you"

and she did, and another girl i had before saw it and began questioning me later about it.

I do seem quite natural with girls. I have always flirted, teased and been ****y (by default). and ever since i came here, it's led me to have sex with my "friends", even though they have boyfriends (double whammy) because i learned that my problem was i didn't advance.

Now that i advance, i get more than i bargained for, and i want to be neutral with it all.

I'm not being ****y
I'm not after loads of girls
I'm not on here as a cult

I help with other people as much as i can, and i disagree with techniques as much as possible because its much more than C+F, negs etc

I just want to know how to control the situation with getting the comments above ^^^^^^^^^^^^

Thanks for the reply though

 

[Le Parisien]

Le Parisien:
Like i say, i get girls approaching me. Like at a club - some girl came up to me and said "i've seen another guy wearing that shirt"...and i ignored it and said "what? You're quiet. Are you shy or something? Sit down on my knee so i can hear you"

and she did, and another girl i had before saw it and began questioning me later about it.

I do seem quite natural with girls. I have always flirted, teased and been ****y (by default). and ever since i came here, it's led me to have sex with my "friends", even though they have boyfriends (double whammy) because i learned that my problem was i didn't advance.

Now that i advance, i get more than i bargained for, and i want to be neutral with it all.

I'm not being ****y
I'm not after loads of girls
I'm not on here as a cult

I help with other people as much as i can, and i disagree with techniques as much as possible because its much more than C+F, negs etc

I just want to know how to control the situation with getting the comments above ^^^^^^^^^^^^

Thanks for the reply though

By reading what you just typed, I'd say that you have more leanings to the "player"/jerk side, not a lot though, but definitely a little more than me. Personally, I will never try to get with "friends" who have boyfriends...

In the club case, I would probably have done/said something playful and similar. If the firs girl didn't like it, then too bad, you are not meant to have anything to do with each other.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but it feels like you want to have the best of both worlds: being somewhat of a smooth player and getting more "open minded" chicks but still having options with more traditional chicks.

Being a player doesn't only offer advantages you know...

Personally I tend to believe that you can't be both, unless your targets are clearly confined to different social environments. In this precise case, the two chicks just crossed each other's path, too bad, your/her loss. It's just life I guess...

 

[afc_recovering]

I'm not sure how to handle it. I know its great for social status, but does it give you a bad reputation?

Sure does, girls will tell their friends (interested or not) that you're a player or a man wh*re. Bad right? Well then their friends will start wondering what sets you apart from everyone else and will do anything to find out. Wonder why getting girls seems easy all of a sudden? Well it's because when girls see you with another hot HB their interest level skyrockets. An HB9 sitting on your lap while you seem uninterested is the greatest social proof you can get.

And as for the clingy girls who ALWAYS want to know and ring up asking what you're doing, can you meet them etc etc.

"I'm busy. I'll call YOU when I'm ready to talk" Obviously not with those exact words but you get what I mean. Just seem distant, busy and disinterested. When you actually call her she'll think that you've regained your interest and will want to close the deal on you instantly. :rockon:

 

[Phyzzle]

"Baby, there's enough Bubs here for the both of you."

or

"I just love all women."

Better yet, when they get possessive, you can give them a time limit. "If you can stick around and be nice to me for 2 months, then you can call me your bf. Cool your jets, sweetheart, cause I don't work that fast."

Notice how, when you're a player, they bych. When you're too available and clingy, they don't bych, because they've already dissappeared.