DJ Bootcamp

[Credos]

You go man, good job so far by the way... I know I opened a new plate spinning journal but have been super busy myself because I got exams till the 10th. It's gonna be INSANE once we hit 14 feb though, then I'll start posting some reports aswell.

Good job by not falling into the relationship trap (I've been pulled into that one WAY to many times...)

 

[rushing dude 123]

NDJ: Thanks bro I appreciate the comment

Credos: Yeah i noticed, the exams have really messed my plate spinning and I lost a lot because some got pissed for me pushing the meeting dates so far. I am out of my exam period now, so I can finish this camp off finally. To be honest though man it's not really worth messing with your studies so good stuff on pushing it back till u finish. As for the relationship trap, I have it pulled on me way too many times and as much as sometimes it kills me I always try my best to avoid it haha....

So yeah let me update I supposably had another two dates today, I am not too happy with the result of both them.

The first one was more of a very old friend that i asked to watch a movie at my house, She was getting very close to me whilst we were watching it in my room, but I didn't want to hurt her because I know I can't give her a relationship. She said don't worry you won't hurt me and it's ok and i kind of ended up giving in. However I don't know i kind of felt bad afterwards because I can get a vibe shes going to be attached me now and I have a feeling she is going to try and make something out of this.

The next one DIDN'T even show...jeez every 1/10 girls that i go out with are a no show and it just annoys me at times. She sent me a text at the time "Sorry i forgot, I am at work"....I sent her a reminder text on day before and she said "OK" and she forgets. What a stupid girl to waste my time. I sent her a reply "Don't call or contact me again".

I am going to go with a new method to try and stop this type of flakiness and lateness. The funny thing is as soon as u get there you kind of know whos going to be late and whos not, along with whos going to show up and not. So i think with the good chicks i am just going to keep it simple, but with the gaming chicks, i am just going to send a text saying "See you tommorow. Make sure to be on time!" I think this will save me a lot of time, it may piss some of those girls off, but I think i am just going to set the ground rules with these chicks from Point A.

^ Tell me what u guys think of that, because I havn't fully mastered on stopping some girls playing stupid games, so anyone elses views on how to handle this would be helpful.

I got another number yesterday from this chick, she looked really cute and had a kind of demi moore look haircut from ghosts. I however need to get more numbers. I have also got problems with my feelings for my ex who had to go back to southern america that i havn't seen for 6 months. I am going to see her this june for a month, but for some reason its stopping me from getting close to any other girl, because i don't want to be in a relationship when I see her again because i don't cheat and i promised my ex I would see her again.

The only thing i am happy with is the chick i am meeting up with on sunday she seems like quite a decent chick. I have quite a good feeling about her, but i could be wrong.

 

[Credos]

You clearly aren't over your ex yet. Which is understandable, just try to realize it yourself man. You shouldn't see her in june, even if you promised. She's a bad influence, why else is she still mindfvcking you after six months of no contact. You aren't over her yet and she's influencing you in a bad way. Avoid her at all costs, even if you want to be friends with her, don't be. Be the @sshole, be selfish... It's your life and not hers. You'll find other girls so one less shouldn't be a problem. Trow her out off your life cause clearly she ain't good for you...

About the flakiness, if you gonna keep on asking the girls you expect to flake about the date, you will come off as desperate and just increase the number of flakers... Don't do it... Accept that some women are b*tches. If she doubts on the phone about the date, ask her if she wants to go or not, cause if she doesn't you got other stuff to do aswell... Better still, you can even just say: "You clearly don't want to go, so lets cancel it, I got better stuff to do, bye *click*". Sure you'll miss out on a few that wouldn't have flaked, but then again, you also cut out the lot who would flake. This is stuff you can find in anti-dump @ the bible I think...


About the story with the girl you know from way back: I had the exact same thing last month. Was out with this girl I knew from way back, she's probebly an HB8. She's funny, smart but kinda nerdy... I don't know why but I just don't want to close her... I even had her sleeping in my bed. We started talking etc etc... When a chick is in my bed I alwayse close... So it was a first time EVER that I didn't... I don't know why... I just know I wouldn't fall for her and it's the second time I did this with her. Last time I kissed her and then never called her again for 6 months or more, without any reason actually.
I guess some girl just don't attract you as much as others do, even if they are hot... A small few of them hot ones are a no go even if it was a ONS. Seduction really is a two player game... :crazy:

Damn I can't wait till the 14th haha... I got a few new tricks up my sleeve that I'm sure are going to work (cause I already kinda field tested it in the past )!

 

[rushing dude 123]

Credos: Yeah man I hate that I am like that to a certain extent, she makes me feel weak, but at the end of the day I am only human and I can't help feeling that way for her. The worst thing is I am starting to get closer to other people now, so if I do end up getting in a relationship then I am going have to make the obvious choice, which I would really prefer not to make. I will just do what feels right for my gutt at the time and at the moment it is just telling me to keep things kool.

I was trying to find the Anti flake stuff from anti-dumps post, but i wasn't able to, if you see it again let me know what thread I think I will find it enlightning. I have actually found there is hardly any specific hardcore advice on here how to reduce flaking and I couldn't find any on the web either....I will try out new things see how it goes. it's not easy to experiement on dates though because u can only got out on so many a week lol.

Haha yeah it's always the nice girls that end up not getting that deep attraction as well, so just guess it shows u it works on there side as well.

ps: You will be free on valentines day btw haha Sounds like a nice day to hit on a lonely HB

 

[rushing dude 123]

WEEK 6 COMPLETED

It wasn't easy, I tried to get a whole new deck of cards to play with this week although I am still dating some past HB's. I wanted to get a new 10 this week, so that ment I had to get 8 numbers from yesterday>today, which wasn't an easy task seeing I had a date and some other obligations with friends on those days.

Ok let me put the new hbs info on, seeing I will forget if I don't, this way I can call up and build rapport easier.


Hb1: Met her in club yesterday with her friend, we talked and danced for 2 hours....apparently shes engaged (but her friend said she was lying and she was trying to figure me out) I got her number anyway and she and her friend was quite annoyed when i left them to get more numbers. She also wanted to go out with me and my friends to rollerdisco today, but she said she couldn't because her friend didn't have the money?. (This wasn't a rejection really i just gave her an invite to a social event) , but she wants to go out with me some other time. She called me 5 times though and seemed to have quite high interest on phone.

HB2: Spoke to some hot blonde chick whilst I headed home, she moved down with her boyfriend, but he left her so now she just lives in london now. Shes an estate agent and she went to some electric club she didn't really enjoy. She also said she dosn't know anyone round here, so i swooped in took her number and said i'll take her out sometime.

Ok today I got 6 numbers and I had to do this all before my date at 5pm

HB3: Shes a commercial dancer (she had some seriously juicy butt) and was meeting with a friend for coffee, spoke to her and she said shes got a boyfriend, but got past her defences and took her number.

HB4: One of my favourites of the day she worked in some little coffee shop giving free tirasmu to people. We were joking about her recieving constructive critism and how it can be quite tough. Shes at her third year of uni and has been working in the shop for two months. Her manager didn't like me getting her number seeing he kept coming outside, but i got it anyway.


Hb5: Really nice spanish chick she was looking for top shop and was crunching on an apple seductively. Approached her talked to her got her number, I think shes here for 8 months.

HB6: She works in like managment and i think she has something to do with law. She is fillipino/ spanish/Jamacian (from the looks of her Butt, pouty lips and face i gotta say she got the best of everything haha) and looks pretty dam hot...I made up some lie saying i got to head off quickly because my friend wanted me to get him to look at a HTC desire...she asked where i was going...I said "Apple store" what an idiot. The rest of the approach was good so it saved me, she goes to church a lot and they apparently watch a lot of films after and stuff.



HB7: Another one i really liked, she suprised me she was 17..., shes studying philosphy and is italian lives round my area and seemed quite cute and down to earth.

HB8: She had a reindeer cardigan, I approached her commenting on it. She was running an hour late to meet some old school friend and she said shes always late (is this a red light credos for a bad date haha) She works in fashion and is quite a relaxed.


I also had a great date, I think its been about half a year since i had one like this. I took out the girl i met from the club and me and her just have this great vibe. I think she needs to relax a bit more and we need to connect just a bit more. This girl is a good though and shes quite funny and I can see potential. We played pool, then a game of bowling and then after I took her to the lake and we watched the Moon reflect on the lake and sat down in this little spot i know where u get a nice view, I tilted her head and we started kissing. I told her to keep her wednesday free too, so she can come over mine and I will cook her some food and watch a movie. She just gave me a text now hoping that I had a good time too.

 

[Credos]

I can't really tell you what to do or so... But I can advice you this: don't go back to your ex. It's ended so it over, for alwayse... Even if by some miracle you restart the relationship, it's gonna die out just the same with it did the last time but even harder. Sometimes it's hard to realise, but if you listen to your gut it will tell you it's true. If you read this and you feel inside yourself it's true, then don't contact your ex again, she'll only pull you down...

I'm looking for that anti dump stuff, I'll edit once I find it

 

[rushing dude 123]

Week 7

Hmm i got 3 weeks to do this, but I will try to complete as soon as possible seeing I have a feeling one of this chicks I might get quite close to quite quickly.

Tasks

1. Go out on Third Dates
2. Maintain 10 plates

Credos: Thanks for that, Yeah i know what ur saying and I would be giving the same advice to someone if I saw them write this, but I don't know something in my gutt is just telling me to keep this kool for now and I will know the moment when I have to make a decision or not.

 

[Credos]

Well you got alot of time to make up your mind ... Just don't let it hold you back now mate. Live your life now and when the time comes you do what you gotta do.

Anti-dump stuff i meant
Check out the third quote by bondjamesbond

about HB8: meetup the first time, if she's late, set the second date about the amount of time she was late earlier. Then be late for the exact time she was late... Three things might happen:
1) she's late again and doesn't notice
2) you make her wait, she's pissed but realises that she shouldn't make you wait because it's annoying
3) she goes psycho on you and tells you you're a jerk for being late -> instaNEXT

If she keeps on being late next her
Ow and never wait longer than 15 minutes. If it goes over 15 minutes, I'd end all contact right there.

That's what I would do at least, I had one of those, she was the biggest case of AW I've ever met.

 

[rushing dude 123]

Thanks Credos btw for that thread I read it and applyed it, I guess i was just letting some of the flaking get to me and I was losing my kool. I also talked to my ex girlfriend although I have feelings for her and she does for me we kind of both put some distance on the whole thing and said that there is a possibility we can meet other people and if that happens then we both have to accept it and not let ourselves get in the way of one and another.


This is coming to an end and I am happy that I am seeing the light at the end of the tunnel for this camp, but it's not over yet. This is my last loose end I had to end up tying with sosuave and I will make sure it gets done this time.

Ok so my week has been pretty good and I have gone on a lot of dates and I had 4 dates this weekend alone and I got two numbers from some nice chicks who could have potential as well. I have not got my third date yet due to me letting some girls go and the girl i really like I should be going out on a third date this week, but I am sure she has sense the whole I am dating other girls vibe.

My diary is literally full of dates and appointments for other things and she is noticing that I am always very busy meeting...friends...and her high interest is starting to drop from what I have noticed. Patience is good, but sometimes it's good to do things quick and not let girls time between dates drag too long. I have realised this and started to show AFC behaviour and started calling her more, which caused a further decline haha. Dam the quality of my plate spinning has really decreased due to me trying to spin so many.

The biggest problem is I can see is quite a few of these girls having potential and it is going to be very tough when I have to start cutting them lose. I even felt one of my dates whos pretty cute went badly so I friend zoned (I thought I would experiment) her haha and she didn't like that and now she wants to meet me again because she actually really likes me and now wants to see if we can be more than friends.

I am never going to date these many girls ever again after this bootcamp is over, it is too stressful and time consuming. I wake up go on a date....make my way to next date get a number whilst travelling...meet next date...Go home sleep....Wake up and go to my next date....etc This is how repetitive it has got and I can't get that connection I use to on dates because it has become such a task to do it. I was looking at a girl I was laying in bed with and I turnt my head to her and I looked at her and I thought if this was the old me I would have my heart rushing and I would be feeling like some love sick puppy right now, but I can't feel nothing anymore.

Idk I might not of got much compared to now with the old me, but I would rather feel something one time than do this 100 times and feel nothing at all. I don't want to lose heart.

 

[rushing dude 123]

Thanks Credos btw for that thread I read it and applyed it, I guess i was just letting some of the flaking get to me and I was losing my kool. I also talked to my ex girlfriend although I have feelings for her and she does for me we kind of both put some distance on the whole thing and said that there is a possibility we can meet other people and if that happens then we both have to accept it and not let ourselves get in the way of one and another.


This is coming to an end and I am happy that I am seeing the light at the end of the tunnel for this camp, but it's not over yet. This is my last loose end I had to end up tying with sosuave and I will make sure it gets done this time.

Ok so my week has been pretty good and I have gone on a lot of dates and I had 4 dates this weekend alone and I got two numbers from some nice chicks who could have potential as well. I have not got my third date yet due to me letting some girls go and the girl i really like I should be going out on a third date this week, but I am sure she has sensed the whole I am dating other girls vibe.

My diary is literally full of dates and appointments for other things and she is noticing that I am always very busy meeting...friends...and her high interest is starting to drop from what I have noticed. Patience is good, but sometimes it's good to do things quick and not let girls time between dates drag too long. I have realised this and started to show AFC behaviour and started calling her more, which caused a further decline haha. Dam the quality of my plate spinning has really decreased due to me trying to spin so many.

The biggest problem is I can see is quite a few of these girls having potential and it is going to be very tough when I have to start cutting them lose. I even felt one of my dates with a cute HB went badly, so I friend zoned (I thought I would experiment) her haha and she didn't like that and now she wants to meet me again because she actually really likes me and now wants to see if we can be more than friends.

I am never going to date this many girls ever again after this bootcamp is over, it is too stressful and time consuming. I wake up go on a date....make my way to next date get a number whilst travelling...meet next date...Go home sleep....Wake up and go to my next date....etc This is how repetitive it has got and I can't get that connection I use to on dates because it has become such a task to do it. I was looking at a girl I was laying in bed with and I turnt my head to her and I looked at her and I thought if this was the old me I would have my heart rushing and I would be feeling like some love sick puppy right now, but I can't feel nothing anymore.

Idk I might not of got much compared to now with the old me, but I would rather feel something one time than doing this 100 times and feeling nothing. I don't want to lose heart.

 

[rushing dude 123]

Week 7 Update

Ok I will keep this quick, my life is getting super busy and it's very hard to keep up with everything and going out on dates and getting more numbers can be quite time consuming. I have had somewhat of a great, but bad week.

I had to cut some plates loose and I havn't really spent too much time to get more, so at the moment I have 7 plates meaning I need to get 3 more numbers tommorow to complete the week. I need to do this early because I got an assignment that I need to complete along with some application forms, so I'll try and finish that in the afternoon.

I also went on my third date with a girl who is quite nice, but she is very very reserved in nature and i think quite frigid and I don't see her ever really opening up to me, so I will give her one more chance next week and if she is still like that I am going to cut her loose as well. However one of the girls I dated this week one of the new ones, I really got on really well with and I actually learnt a lot from her and I can actually feel a connection with her, so I will see how it goes.

I feel I have made a lot of failures this week, but to be honest it has been a very long time since I have learnt some very meaninful lessons and now I can see how to do things the right way.

I learnt:

1. That dating mutiple girls (4+) is not very effective, because there is no drive to the dates and it gets boring and the girl can see it as well. So dating 2-3 girls Very well would probably be more effective

2. Sometimes Texting after u got a number can provide very useful, like just a little inside joke she dosn't have to reply to. This just makes it easier on the call because u got more rapport and it also stops the whole "Whos this" thing.

3. After i learnt lesson 2, I learnt another thing. Sometimes some techniques don't work on all girls. U should always have a gutt feeling of whens the right time to call, what to say and how to do it. However ur heart and brain mislead u sometimes. As long as u trust ur gutt, U understand how the whole overall dating system works and understand every girl is different. You will pretty much always be succesful with ur approach. Rather than thinking hey it worked the last time i tried it, it will work again. Every situation needs to be handled different and I have done this for way to long so i know what to do to handle it if i listen to my gutt.

4. Girls are just a small part of life, Everything else like ur passion dreams and desires, Will play a much bigger part in attracting a girl than any technique or trick will ever do.

5. Don't over Kino and be more gentle to start off with (depends on the girl) and then when u do kino make sure its effective

So i am 3 numbers away from week 8 huh and then I would be able to finally finish this thing once and for all. I will probably have a few days off on monday and tuesday though because of work and uni, just so i can sort my life out a bit before i complete week 8.

 

[rushing dude 123]

So my plan for week 8 will probably be hit a club somewhere in london I have never been before on Thursday and get my group numbers and then I will just be searching for HB9's the whole 2 weeks till i land one of their numbers. I am hoping I can get this finished by Friday. That way I can drop all my plates and just spin the 2-3 which i like the best and I already have a somewhat feeling who they will be.

 

[rushing dude 123]

Week 7 Completed

Wow guys I havn't felt this type of great for a very long time, it was a very tough day. I got one number from some portuguese mom, which i managed to do quite well on even though she wasn't receptive. Then after this I got so many rejections, jeez i think i hit 8 really harsh rejections in a ROW!. Dam things were not looking good and I only had 1 hour and a half to get two more numbers. I was thinking of quitting, but i said to myself NO, this is the exact spot i left the bootcamp a few years ago. My only option was to go central london to the clubs, but as i was getting to the tube i was a bit lost and i saw this thai girl very pretty. I walked next to her and she looked at me and i just said "hi" and she smiled back. After this i turned my head and looked at the tube map for like 2 minutes. I looked at her again and said to her

RD: U know what this is not the train i am getting but i just wanted to meet u, so let me start this off by asking ur name
(she was pretty kool she we talked a bit)
HB: O well i am going xxx to actually dump my boyfriend
RD: o is that so, i guess in that case give me ur number and i will call u tommorow
(Got her number and talked bit more and then left it)


When i left that approach it just felt completly natural for some reason and it was not forced at all. I didn't care if i failed or succeeded all i cared about was just saying what i want to say. I get to my platform and i see this cute petite colombian girl, she was so cute i just wanted to hug her haha.

She walked past me and then i turned back and said to her

RD: U know what i really can't help it, U r just really to dam cute i have to speak to u (she smiled)

And we got on great we sat on the train talking and she started asking me about myself, i got her number and got off. I got all my numbers so i thought i would just head home instead. I no longer had obligation to get anymore numbers no more deadlines to get a certain amount. I just sat on a chair and this super hot girl with a big bag just sat next to me. I looked at her and i just said straight what was on my mind no thought of success or failure i didn't care.

RD: Wow how do u carry that massive bag around

(She smiled and we got on great talked for a while, i even missed one of my trains to talk to her a bit longer) I knew i could get this girls number and i was getting my phone out but it wasn't working it was touch screen and my train was arriving. I luckily wrote my number in my wallet on a post it note for this kind of situation and handed it to her saying "Hmm i don't think my phone wants me to take ur number, but heres mine" she just said "thank i will give u call". I got on my train

Next I am getting off, but i noticed a girl smiled at me on the train as i was next to her and i smiled back. We got on the escalator together and i looked back at her and she was looking a bit sad and i just said "wow cheer up life isn't that bad". We started talking, she wasn't my type but we got on very well and i said good bye to her as we got upstairs even though i could of got her number. I walked away and thought to myself u know what that girl was actually really nice why didn't i ask for it. I guess when in doubt ask for the number.

I started walking home after this and i was feeling great, i felt alive and I don't know i felt like instead of having to force myself, i didn't have to anymore i just felt it has become a part of me and i was the DJ. My first thoughts was wow i am going demonstrate these skills uni and show my friends. Then i just thought to myself no it dosn't matter, who am i trying to impress. I looked back and I just saw myself has being very insecure i was constantly trying to prove myself to everyone, hell even including everyone on this board. I knew why i didn't need to prove myself, because when u are successful and have everything u want, why do u need anyone else to give u anything.

I could see why those girls became attracted to me, hell i could even feel the energy myself, I was no longer trying to prove myself to anybody. IDk guys I am just seeing everything more better now and I have got some really good plates as well to find out if they have any potential as well.

 

[rushing dude 123]

Week 8

The last week and my final lesson before i leave this website, I think the last lesson i learned was 100% neccesairy before i complete this week.

Tasks

1. Get a HB 9's number

2. Go out to a social venue I have never been before and get a girls number who's in a group 3+ as well as become the life of the part in the social venue.

Dam I feel like these last 2 weeks are going to change the rest of my life and the person i am.

 

[rushing dude 123]

No progress this week at the moment, I saw one HB 9 on bus stop whilst i was getting my lil cousin from her school, but i made a stupid excuse that i will be late. I should of just asked her straight for it and then went on my way.

I was also going to do the other task last night but decided to stay over at a friends seeing i was tired. So i will do it this night, i already have the club in mind which i hear good things about.

This is not good I only have 9 days to complete it now and I have come this far I can not fail. So I will get my first task done today and the next 8 days I will look for that Hb 9. It has been quite difficult though because I have been going out on a lot of dates still.

I had 10 Hb's, but I managed to cut them down to 5 now which i am still dating currently. 5 is still too many so i am going have to outweigh the pros and cons and drop some of them.

HB1: Colombian chick dated two times, really like her and she probably has the most potential. However like my ex colombian gf she is leaving in 6 months after her studies. So it could just be a repeat and I am honestly kind of falling for the girl and I don't usually get vulnerable like that and i made a few mistakes, but not big mistakes. I will keep this one and not pedestal this chick.

Hb2: American chick we have known eachother for 3 years and talked online, she came here and she is really nice. However its not right for me to keep her on the side just for fun as i have a feeling shes starting to develop feelings. So i am going to have to tell her tommorow we should just be friends.

HB3: Portuguese chick: Shes really kool and we were kissing with-in 15 mins of our first date and i have a feeling me and her could have a lot of fun, but that looks like all it would be at the moment, so i will keep her.

HB4: 4 dates, no kiss. Yes i know what ur thinking guys i broke the rules. She was very reserved and really kool, but didn't like to let anyone in emotionally. I could feel that the first 3 times we ended the date it would of been bad to kiss her seeing she didn't want to let me in. The 4th time she was different and more emotionally there, she stopped and i think she wanted me to kiss her, but i didn't because i had a feeling if i did it would of set me in a relationship mode with her. I got a text next morning telling me that she really liked me, but i called her up and told her how i felt and that we should just see how it goes, because i don't really know her and now shes expecting me to jump in the pool without even putting my foot in first. Then basically saying i didn't want to lead her on, so its up to her. So I will keep this one but be careful.

HB5: Thai chick shes pretty laidback and sexy, but she dosn't sound very trustworthy relationship wise considering shes still with her boyfriend, so i am guessing just some fun as well. We are going to be going out wednesday though on her day off. I will just go out with her and see how it goes.

By the end of the week i should have only 3 left, then i will decide which one to keep if any. Because having feelings for all these girls really messes up my head.

 

[rushing dude 123]

Dam guys i didn't own any club, the club practically owned me. I had so many opportunities but i let the going alone thing get to me. If i would of just acted as soon as i got in the club i would of been more than fine. I waited...and waited...then i approached and it just came across creepy because i waited so long. How ironic inaction is more creepy than action.

I also saw a hb 9 on the bus and went to talk to her got rejected. There was a guy next to her initially i should of done it with him there, i waited...and waited and again came off creepy. I was also too serious in the approach.


This night really hurt me, I feel as if i didn't learn that lesson i was taught last week. Next time (tommorow maybe) I am just going to go all guns blazing, no fear of failure i will do it how i want to do it and if it works it works if not kool. 8 more days i have to complete my task, so i will also look at some FR's like Jon's or Snow's they usually show me what the full capabilities of a DJ is in convo. I need to enter the club get talking straight away and then leave and make new friends.

 

[IamJosan]

Man I just read your entire journal and it is amazing! You have inspired me to become a better DJ. I think I'm gonna give your bootcamp a shot! Wish me luck!

 

[rushing dude 123]

Thanks IamJohnson, i hope you learn from the bootcamp as much as i have learned. However i still got one more lesson to complete.

I got the HB9's number as she was rushing to work and afterwards i saw another HB9 and i did good but she had a boyfriend and wanted my number, she needed to get on her bus so i just gave it to her.

My last task to complete this camp is to go out and own the club and get some numbers from girls in groups 3+. I am going to go out again tonight and see if i can complete it, i would ask u guys to wish me luck, but if i relied on luck i wouldn't be a DJ. So i will tell u how it goes.

I am so close to the light at the end of the tunnel i can see it.

 

[rushing dude 123]

Week 8 and Bootcamp Completed

So yeah it was an interesting night and i learned a lot, I will write what i learned a bit later seeing it will help to remind me and something that you lot might find useful as well. I went to a club today and i got ripped off money wise badely, but i just wanted to complete this thing once and for all. I got in and i was still thinking and letting fear get to me, i remembered what the holy grail post said, what is not needed disgard it. I looked at myself and i said "do i need to feel this fear, does it serve any purpose...no...will it make my night the same or more likely worst...yes." I disgarded it and started approaching.

I found this nice group of international students who were only staying england for one month and i got on quite well with the group and the main chick kind of liked me, but got kind of annoyed when i left the group to find other chicks.

I then saw this group of brazillian chicks and a colombian girl, who all had really nice assests, I approached the one with the biggest assests haha and i got her number and we got on pretty well.

I did some other sets then visited the first group again and i just thought to myself everything is going great, but enough is enough i have done what i came here to do. I got my coat and the girl from the group came to me and asked why i was going, i just told her i got a busy day tommorow and gave her kiss on cheek and said bye. I could of number closed her but thought there was a no point seeing shes leaving in a week and i got enough on my plate already, but she was a HB 8 and looked like a younger version of the waynes world asian chick haha.

I lost my anxiety of approaching groups and I didn't care about being by myself in the end seeing i can just meet new people and who cares if anyone sees u by urself...so what it dosn't matter what they think anyway.

Lessons

1. If you're going to approach the group approach the group first with maybe something a bit humourous and share urself out then close on ur target later.

2. Or you can go in and talk to the one chick, but make sure to introduce urself to her friends it's polite. Also if one chick in group dosn't like u, who cares just work with what u got and don't let it phase u, some girls are just going to get jealous.

3. Groups are a goldmine, they are the most likely single girls in the club and they don't get approached often and also if u win a girl from the group she will help u out and hell may even handfeed u ur targets number.

4. Forget about what every one else thinks, there is no need to impress anyone, the only person u need to impress is urself. If you fall under constraints of everyone elses expectations u can never improve.

5. Success or Failure it dosn't matter, As long as u did what u had to do to the best of your ability and learned from your experience. That is the one true thing you can take from an approach, girls can most of the time come and go, however experience will always be there.

6. Being C+f/ teasing whilst in an approach can change a very boring and creepy approach into a super awesome and ultra kool approach haha.

7. Don't think about problems only think of solutions and actions.

8. The most important thing in a approach is how u see urself and ur life. If you have those two sorted then that is the most ultimate weapon u will have and nothing else would even compare.

9. Be a gentleman when arranging and calling girls, don't leave them waiting 5+days, u know when the right time is to kool by now. Also leaving a text after u just met them with a few c+f comments can go a long way and makes the call a lot easier. Girls don't like having games played on them as much as we don't, so as soon as u start they will start.

10. Always lead, always go ur own way that is the only way u can lead ur life to what u want it to be, if some people decide to follow u on the way so be it. Don't let other peoples actions or pereceptions stop u from living, be proud and stick to your way of living and no one elses, thats the only way to be free.


Thats it then no more targerts to complete I actually feel free now, there is no more expectation of myself to do anything, but just carry on my life and if i see a nice girl i want to talk to just talk to her. I will keep myself social though and practice that and get my old fun energy back and just become more natural with it. I will read the "Holy Grail" post one more time because i felt i learnt a lot from that and the last missing piece of my life fitted in with it.

I hope that u guys learn as much as i have from this place. All the best.

 

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