Divorced woman: good or bad

[JUAN the Great]

Keep your heart detached from the situation. Ask her questions about what she did from the marriage to end. If she can not honestly say that she had a part in it ending; next her. Too many times men get a bad rap and women have this distorted view and they believe that they are innocent. Ask her is she bitter and listen to what she says overall;women love to talk. by her telling about the situation; you can find out whether to continue or not. MY PERSONAL VIEW POINT IS THAT I DO NOT TALK TO WOMEN WITH KIDS OR HAS HAD FAILED MARRIAGE; BECAUSE THERE IS TOO MUCH DRAMA AND THERE IS A FEMINIST BACKLASH FROM HER. They feel like they should be treated as royalty.

 

[JUAN the Great]

Fellow Donjuans, Copy And Paste What Latinoman Said. This Is The Ultimate Way For You To Maintain Control Of Who Comes Into Your Life And You Will Alleviate Drama.

 

[STR8UP]

Whats the big deal? A divorce isn't much more than a breakup these days. She could have changed....he could have changed....you never know what happened.

All of these "rules" simply serve to limit your dating pool even more than it already is.

Would I get involved with a divorcee? The last chick I was seeing for any length of time was divorced. Big deal.

Now if she starts talking smack about her ex.....THAT'S a red flag. But to categorically deny yourself of getting to know a woman because she's divorced? I don't see how that benefits you.

And I have to laugh every time Latinoman posts his list, cause half of the stuff on there you would never even know about a woman if it were true. Like a woman is going to TELL you about the time she let two dudes plug her at the same time.....

You should be judging each woman based upon how she acts around you, how she treats you, and your gut feeling about her in general, not how many sex partners you THINK she's had or whether or not she been divorced or any of the other silly criteria some men have.

"Lists" are for women.

 

[Night Owl]

Divorce Women - simple; run like hell !!

A big no-no. Too much baggage, a pain in the butt ex, un-paid lawyers bills, teenage kids or worse a couple of babies to name a few. All they want is another cash cow to milk at the end of each month to pay the mortgage and bills in exchange for use of her Pu ss Y and a good dose of verbal abuse from her kids.

Run - don't look back it's not worth the hassle. Would you get an old banger when you can afford a new car - No.

Let somebody else have the problems, there are plenty of better cars on the lot !!

 

[jophil28]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=140254

2. If I’m already involved with her…(e.g. committed relationship)

a) If she cheats on me, it is OVER.
b) If she disrespects me in a very serious way, it is OVER.
c) If she gets involved with crime, illegal drugs, or any addiction to drugs, it is OVER.
d) If she has a very low sexual drive, it is OVER (as it is an indication that we are not compatible).

I found out the hrad way that NOT having high enough standards and not ENFORCING the ones that you do have will allow drama into your life.
Women resemble children in their behavior,. THey will push and test the limits of your tolerance daily.

I have a question for Latino ragarding C) above .
Say that you are in an LTR for 6 months and you break up for three weeks.
She calls you and initiates reconciliation talk .When you get back together,she confesses that she went to a "dinner party" at the invitation of one of her G/fs who also fixed her up with some guy. THis happened when you were broken up .
Your G/f says that she got hanmmered after dinner and they smoked dope and she a woke up with this guy BUT they did not have sex ?

What do you say to her ? What to do ?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Jophil,
Lot of wisdom in your post,I suspect your question is not merely hypothetical.....a three week break after six months... you don't really want to go back?...it rarely works...someone who does dope will always be bad news....I had a relationship with such a girl,and time after time she would go back to the weed....The actual narcotic is not as much the problem as the associations that go with it...Someone here suggested that rekindling an old flame was rather like a dog going back to its vomit...charming thought...an interesting aside is an old mate who three years ago went back to a lady he divorced eleven years ago,the pull was intellectual the original problem her infidelity,time has erased one aspect ,but her mind is still sharp and they play a mean hand at bridge which is the essential glue...On a similar line Jophill,giving up a sexual partner is easy,but giving up a compatible dancing partner?...Hmmm...