Divorce women who are disgruntle

[Luis_Rancagua]

I really need your help and your advice as an older brother. Right now I'm in deep pain. I have a serious question to ask you and I need a serious response to my problem.

Why is it that certain women who have experienced some sort of traumatic experience use sex as means for masking deep emotional pain??? And like any psychotherapist would declare, these women likely suffered abuse.

The reason why I’m asking you this deep profound question (and I hope that I’m not being too impertinent) is because I’ve been involved with this woman at work who has recently came out of a nasty divorce from her ex-husband. It appears that her ex-husband left her for another woman. As he left her, he told her that she was no longer sexually desirable and that he was leaving her for a much younger woman. This whole experience has totally devastated her. As a result, she no longer trusts man. She thinks that all men are bastards and that they can not be trusted. On another note, there's the probability that this woman married this jerk-off at early age (when she was 25). Perhaps this guy was the first man that she lost her virginity to. Anyway, she bare 2 kids with this assbag. They've been married for 15-years.

Nevertheless, it now appears that she has gone-off into this promiscuous rampage of having sex with other man. She dump me 1 months ago. It now appears she’s having a secret affair with a married man who himself is going through matrimonial problems with his wife.

Furthermore, 7-months after she dumped me, she had the nerves to return back to me and ask me out on another date. I said NO for reasons that I have no trust in her anymore, and that I will not be her cute little puppy fetching the stick.

Please help me out here. I need to have answers as to what all this suppose to mean. Why is this woman acting this way? What is the meaning of her promiscuity? Why did she dump me and why is she coming back to me? Is she in the pursuit of some sort of vengeance of trying get back at her ex husband or is she trying to have her ego validated after it has been crushed by ex-husband?

 

[tick37]

Because they are insecure. They want to be validated, and it makes them feel good to know that you want them sexually. They don't have self worth. If they give it up on the first date or first night we've met, it's a red flag for me.

 

[MooseGod]

It's because everybody is bat-**** crazy in one way or another. Not just women, not men, EVERYBODY. You're trying to make sense out of something senseless.

If you really want to know, get a Doctorate in psychology. Otherwise, just write it off under the "**** happens" category.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Holy crap I feel like I'm reading my own story. Someone link this guy my 30 page thread about the crazy divorcee.

 

[tick37]

Holy crap I feel like I'm reading my own story. Someone link this guy my 30 page thread about the crazy divorcee.

To show him what not to do, right?

 

[My Name is Nobody]

To show him what not to do, right?

yeah whatever, it just seems like I'm reading about the same woman, minus the 2 kids.

 

[j0n024]

....I agree validation is the answer here....the guy said he left her cause she " was no longer sexually desirable and that he was leaving her for a much younger woman. " I think she needs validation and the way she gets it is if she still gets c0ck from men, I like how you told her straight up that you dont like her anymore....now on the other hand I dont like how you call the guy that left her an "Assbag," I dont think you know the guy so you have no right to judge the guy...hell for all you know this b1tch was cheating on him he just pulled the trigger first and whats funny is she is doing the same thing as the guy by cheating with a married husband ...hypocrite.

But it's really just validation that is the key here...validation that someone still cares and tries to at least put in the effort for whats between her legs..cause if noone tried to have sex with her then she probably go into a downward spiral....for which there is no return.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

oops wrong thread

 

[Cretin]

Bud....the other thing you need to hear right now is this:
Who cares why she is the way she is? She has head problems.....whatever. It's not for you to figure her out.....your energy could be better well spent by trying to find yourself a higher quality....less damaged woman.
A woman like this will tear your heart out and stomp on it if you aren't careful.
Move on and find someone better than her......she's bad news bro. Bad news.

 

[Luis_Rancagua]

Holy crap I feel like I'm reading my own story. Someone link this guy my 30 page thread about the crazy divorcee.

Well big guy, tell me your story, and perhaps we may have a lot in common.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Well big guy, tell me your story, and perhaps we may have a lot in common.

Here is the story.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136749


She is a crazy divorcee just like the one you described in your post except she had no kids. I still see her at work sometimes and it sucks bad. I had to send her an email (work related) the other day.

Shoot me.

 

[00Kevin]

ok I will give you some sound advice but you might not understand if your head is in the gutter like most of the AFCs here.

This woman is making choices that are based on fear and not hope. Rather then dealing with her emotional problems and upholding her moral integrity she has made a choice to live without hope and faith.

The fact is she is also guilty for the marriage breakup. I'm sure that her physical appearance was not the only reason he left her. I'll bet she engineered the entire situation subconsciously so he would leave her. What she has now is infact what she wants. Now as the victem, in her mind she is not guilty of anything she does. She can now justify her who-ring with a mantle of victemhood.

Her first mistake was getting married to this man in the first place. I'll bet the relationship was based on physical attraction and sex to begin with.

The first mistake you made is dating this woman and because of that you got burned a second time.

You have only made things worse for this woman and yourself. You let yourself be used as tool to validate her fear and lack of hope in men. What you should of done is set her right and gave her a firm warning about the path that she is on.

The very fact that you agree that he was a jerk-off tells me that you validated everything she told you about him. She used you as an emotional tampon and you just went along for the ride.

 

[00Kevin]

Divorced women are at least 50% to blame for the divorce.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I wonder if the divorcee is even more disgruntled when they don't have any kids from the marriage.

Who would have a kid with these damaged women if their ex husband wouldn't? They are going to end up old and alone with 20 cats in a small apartment because by the time they get their emotions in order it will be too late.

 

[DonGorgon]

Why is it that certain women who have experienced some sort of traumatic experience use sex as means for masking deep emotional pain??? And like any psychotherapist would declare, these women likely suffered abuse.?

Cause sex is like a drug, it provides the body with a temporary state of euphoria which can be addictive and leave the person in desperate search of that next high to mask the pain of their tragic existence.

 

[Luis_Rancagua]

Guys,

Thanx for the advice from everyone here on this message board. One thing is certain that I have learned from everyone here is that this woman just got out of a nasty divorce. Chances are there are a few lingering bits of anger, esteem issues, pain and suffering involved. That's a prime example of "emotional baggage".

she sees sex as a desire thing, she is proving to herself she can still pull and be the attention of someone.......but she sees me as her rock of stability and she is probably letting off some anger at the same time. Anyway, this woman is screw in the head.