I read this article on Divorce-making professions. It talked about professions such a doctors, lawyers, Top exec buisnessman usually end up in divorce court because of the demands on their time because of their jobs. Women typically file for divorce because they put anytime into the relationship and eventually it dies. My question is if you are in one of these divorce-making professions what can you do to lessen your odds of divorce. Is the only solution to find a woman who is in the same profession or someone who understand your job is going to be demanding? What should you do? Thanks - I'd appreciate any suggestions or comments....
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Francisco d'Anconia
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Was the article on the web? I couldn't find it. Would you post the link or post the magazine that printed the article.
this is coming from a female in one of the high-divorce job type things... i'll be graduating med school in one year.
i think that you need to do a couple of things to prevent a failed relationship:
- don't value your job more than your relationship. for example, try not to put in too much overtime- you're already very involved in your career, and you already make a lot of money, so jus tthink of the job as something you enjoy doing and it pays the bills, but its not your life force, so you don't need to go overboard with it.
- don't take work stress out on your wife. i do this. i get stressed, and i get busy, and i take it out on a boyfriend. big no-no, lots of regrets. you can talk to them about problems, but don't bottle them up and release them by being nasty at home.
- keep up all the things that brought you guys together in the first place. try to make time for movies, eating out, ect. continue appreciating her. if she is not in a high profession as well, or if she is a stay at home mom, still value her as a companion. don't treat her like she just the person who is supposed to keep the house clean, look pretty and raise the children.
in my opinion, i want to marry another doctor as well, because i understand what a time consuming career it is. i think its also nice to have someone who will understand what i am talking about when i come home and start yapping away abou tthis that and the other thing that went on in the hospital today. but i also want a family, so i know i am not going to be excessive about my career. i'd rather have a lighter load and make less money, and be able to devote more time to family.
i think that you need to do a couple of things to prevent a failed relationship:
- don't value your job more than your relationship. for example, try not to put in too much overtime- you're already very involved in your career, and you already make a lot of money, so jus tthink of the job as something you enjoy doing and it pays the bills, but its not your life force, so you don't need to go overboard with it.
- don't take work stress out on your wife. i do this. i get stressed, and i get busy, and i take it out on a boyfriend. big no-no, lots of regrets. you can talk to them about problems, but don't bottle them up and release them by being nasty at home.
- keep up all the things that brought you guys together in the first place. try to make time for movies, eating out, ect. continue appreciating her. if she is not in a high profession as well, or if she is a stay at home mom, still value her as a companion. don't treat her like she just the person who is supposed to keep the house clean, look pretty and raise the children.
in my opinion, i want to marry another doctor as well, because i understand what a time consuming career it is. i think its also nice to have someone who will understand what i am talking about when i come home and start yapping away abou tthis that and the other thing that went on in the hospital today. but i also want a family, so i know i am not going to be excessive about my career. i'd rather have a lighter load and make less money, and be able to devote more time to family.
Francisco d' Anconia,
I actually read the article a few months ago on the web. It was primarily about the high divorce rate and depression among laywers but they also said other high demanding professions like doctors and buisnessmen who work crazy hours experience similar fates. I've been googling, if find it - I'll post it up for you.
and to Haley79 I agree with you - It's really important that you remain light and funny and don't bring your stress home. I think women in high demanding professions understand this better than guys. I have a friend who is buisness person who works all type of crazy hours and travels and makes a lot of money. His wife wants a divorce. He couldn't understand because he was bringing in all this money. I think he's like a lot of men who think if there bringing in the money then they have done their job in the relationship. You have to put that quality time in. Same thing w/ Medical School, Law School - Alot of relationships, marriages don't make it if one partner is in Med or Law school because of the time demands.
I actually read the article a few months ago on the web. It was primarily about the high divorce rate and depression among laywers but they also said other high demanding professions like doctors and buisnessmen who work crazy hours experience similar fates. I've been googling, if find it - I'll post it up for you.
and to Haley79 I agree with you - It's really important that you remain light and funny and don't bring your stress home. I think women in high demanding professions understand this better than guys. I have a friend who is buisness person who works all type of crazy hours and travels and makes a lot of money. His wife wants a divorce. He couldn't understand because he was bringing in all this money. I think he's like a lot of men who think if there bringing in the money then they have done their job in the relationship. You have to put that quality time in. Same thing w/ Medical School, Law School - Alot of relationships, marriages don't make it if one partner is in Med or Law school because of the time demands.
TooColdUlrick
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marriage counselors = high divorce rate
penkitten
Master Don Juan
leave your work at work is another good one.
your spouse doesnt need to hear every single comment every single person in passing makes to you.
the frustrations of work should be left there also.
your spouse doesnt need to hear every single comment every single person in passing makes to you.
the frustrations of work should be left there also.