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I mean get a good lawyer but you are behind the 8 ball with the court right off the bat.Okay,
What's the solution in this case? I'm ****ed and that's it?!
I mean get a good lawyer but you are behind the 8 ball with the court right off the bat.Okay,
What's the solution in this case? I'm ****ed and that's it?!
If you go to any lawyers site who specializes in male divorces(yes there are such attorneys), they will unequivocally tell you the worst thing you could possibly do is to leave the house because she tells you to, because you think you have to or of your own volition. You effectively give up rights you would otherwise have.I can tell you that seeking legal advice in an online forum is not the best approach. If there is a lawyer present, and furthermore a lawyer that specializes in family cases and your country, I'd be astonished. A small group of members here can only speak from experience which is what will benefit the most in the end. Most men here are not the best resources for such advice, me included. I don't have kids, nor gone through that. I don't live in Europe nor am I a lawyer.
So with that in mind, make sure you listen to the advice with a grain of salt.
From what I understand in these cases, the children often go to the mother by default. It is simply how society works. Children -> Women -> Men in that order. Meaning, that for you to have any chance at seeing or having custody of your children you MUST prove that are financially and emotionally stable and that your children will be more than provided for under your care. I wouldn't attempt going to court if you don't have that.
What really matters here is advice from a legal professional with experience in the field/subject. If or once you have your life together, hire a great lawyer (will not be cheap but worth every penny in the end) and then fight for your children. As I commented on another/similar post, the best image you can give your children right now is of a fighting man that stands his ground and puts up a fight until the end. A loving father that does not give up on them.
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Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.
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I will swim against the tide and say it's not going to affect your child as much as you think it will. They are either destined to do great things or just smoke pott all day. The question is what type of person are you and what type of person is your ex?My question was if this is going to affect my children. The only thing I want is their well-being and for them to know that I never for a
I learned from you and Glassguy the most here, for that, I thank you sir.Divorce is tough when you can't pay for a good lawyer. I was lucky I guess, my ex didn't want the kids so they lived with me. If I had to go though that knowing my kids were with a crazy woman, I'd be stressed out like you. Hang in there... feel free to vent here, many of us have been though this cr@p too. It does get better. My kids head off to college next month with full ride scholarships to LSU, one will be going the Med school, wants to be a phycologist... likely to help her mom. The other wants to study Entomology, and be an insect biologist.
Things will get better. Good luck.
Don't forget to find meaning in your life. Spinning plates only take you so far. Obviously, if you are like a lot of men, your kids will give you a sense of meaning, but you will need to supplement it. Even if you were in a loving relationship w/your ex, to be truly happy, you must enjoy life and that usually means having a goal or a meaning. My friend has a daughter. He was divorced and he fought with his ex. The daughter is now 12 and while she is still important to him, he found out he also needs to find other things that give him meaning. In 6 years, she will go to college and will be "independent"... and in a way, she is independent now as a 12 year old.I learned from you and Glassguy the most here, for that, I thank you sir.
I did get a divorce and get to see my kids twice a week.
The second day after divorce I hooked up with a girl and my goal is to spin plates like my life depends on it, until i reach the abundance state.
Throughout the divorce process I wasn't stressed because in all honestly i never loved her, i was there for my kids.
I did learn I wasn't a challenge, when that changed, I'm feeling her trying to get closer though we've just divorced! She may come around or not, couldn't care less, I know I can do better, just did few days ago
My conscious is clear, FYI the mom is 45 and I'm 35... one of 100 reasons why I feel more at peace than anything else.
the idea is to save some money for the kids, when they grow up, I'll explain everything and help them shape their future.
For now, it's time to explore women like I'm destined to do