Ive been dealing with a lot of disrespect from some guy. I mean i have been taking a lot of **** from him! Now i seriously want to front him but im thinking to myself, like everyone will then be thinking 'wow this guys switched, this is just a fake act' so i just get the feeling i will then be more prone to being disrespected more. I usually dont stand up for myself and take quite a lot of **** from people but ive seriously had enough. Im feeling a change in myself but what im saying is that people will just think im putting a fake act and i will be attacked even harder when attacking back myself. Does anyone get what i mean here? Any help?
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Yea man, I know how you feel, not exactly...but somewhat cuz I've had to deal with it. Most of the time, I have so many friends that they are like, "uh oh!! AFK is standing up for himself!! Watch out!! Go AFK!!"
Then that gets the other guy going and saying stuff about how I'm faking it and how I really can't do anything.
Don't worry. I stopped giving a damn about what they say, and usually just laugh it off. Sometimes I shoot back a smartass comment. Trust me, I've been insulted so much I've gotta real good at C&F cuz it forces you to think on the spot. It used to be all lame like this:
bully: hey look it's nub ****.
me: that's not what your mom said last night.
Hmm...kidna immature, but I had to do SOMETHING. Plus, in high school kids are like that lol. Now I've gotten good and say crap that's more aggresive at least to me.
bully: hey look it's nub ****.
me: you think you're funny? I got a riddle. How many fingers am I holding up?
t('-'t) *gives him the finger*
Sometimes I gotta run away. Other times the assh0le crumbles. Learn from this experience like I have. Any other suggestions from DJs? I'd like more feedback on this insult/comeback issue and standing up for yourself. Seriously my friend, you're trying to fight a two front war. 1 vs the bully. another one vs what your peer may think. And we all know you can't win. So just forget them and move on.
Then that gets the other guy going and saying stuff about how I'm faking it and how I really can't do anything.
Don't worry. I stopped giving a damn about what they say, and usually just laugh it off. Sometimes I shoot back a smartass comment. Trust me, I've been insulted so much I've gotta real good at C&F cuz it forces you to think on the spot. It used to be all lame like this:
bully: hey look it's nub ****.
me: that's not what your mom said last night.
Hmm...kidna immature, but I had to do SOMETHING. Plus, in high school kids are like that lol. Now I've gotten good and say crap that's more aggresive at least to me.
bully: hey look it's nub ****.
me: you think you're funny? I got a riddle. How many fingers am I holding up?
t('-'t) *gives him the finger*
Sometimes I gotta run away. Other times the assh0le crumbles. Learn from this experience like I have. Any other suggestions from DJs? I'd like more feedback on this insult/comeback issue and standing up for yourself. Seriously my friend, you're trying to fight a two front war. 1 vs the bully. another one vs what your peer may think. And we all know you can't win. So just forget them and move on.
Yeh exactly you got it in one, im in the exact same position as you. So how did you front him at the start? What exactly did you say?
Anyone else got any suggestions? Shall i just straight out stand up for myself and act all hard, i just feel its better than being ****y and funny because he then will get the message that he aint ****. edit - But then will i come out as too fake?
Anyone else got any suggestions? Shall i just straight out stand up for myself and act all hard, i just feel its better than being ****y and funny because he then will get the message that he aint ****. edit - But then will i come out as too fake?
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I always find that insults get petty and you look worse off. If you lose your temper it's undignified and looks like you've lost it. What works best in my experience and what intimidates people like this most of all is speaking to them in a civil (i.e. unmoved), but direct and serious manner.
Look him in the eyes and tell him straight that his behaviour is p*ssing you off. No doubt he'll act immature about it, throw insults etc, but this is because he's trying to deflect the tension he feels. When you see this, you know you have the upper hand, so call him on it. Point out that he's having trouble giving you a straight answer or that he's looking uncomfortable.
You could build the pressure by asking him why he does it and whenever he avoids giving an answer, repeat the question in an even tone until he does.
As long as you can keep your composure, you will be in complete control of the situation and make him feel like a kid.
Look him in the eyes and tell him straight that his behaviour is p*ssing you off. No doubt he'll act immature about it, throw insults etc, but this is because he's trying to deflect the tension he feels. When you see this, you know you have the upper hand, so call him on it. Point out that he's having trouble giving you a straight answer or that he's looking uncomfortable.
You could build the pressure by asking him why he does it and whenever he avoids giving an answer, repeat the question in an even tone until he does.
As long as you can keep your composure, you will be in complete control of the situation and make him feel like a kid.
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Good advice Dirheart.
What do you guys think about just ignoring the person? Does this work? Does it make you look weak or strong because you don't care?
What do you guys think about just ignoring the person? Does this work? Does it make you look weak or strong because you don't care?
it may not be a good thing to show them that they're succeeding in pissing you off. isnt that what insults are meant to do?
usually when some AFC guys i know crack jokes or try to put me down, i just laugh it off with them. cause their words mean jack to me, and i know they're pussies. it doesnt bug me at all cause they repeat the same stuff every time. of course i do know for a fact he's pissed @ life and hates his life...so yep.
*ONLY insecure ppl or ppl with problems will crack jokes or insult you to make themselves feel better* they will feel better if they know they've succeed in pissng you off. there are times where you cant laugh it off and will have to show you can protect yourself verbally or physically.
I havent cracked jokes or insulted anyone verbally to this date if i recall. i mean making a friend is always better than making any enemy right?
but i find that making enemies in life will always be inevitable. there'll always be someone wanting to see your downfall...especially if you're more successful than they.
did anyone ever read that article @ yahoo about fat kids are more prone to being bullies/being bullied. they take their anger out on ppl which is the only way to make themselves feel special and better. yea they did a study on it, the read was interesting.
usually when some AFC guys i know crack jokes or try to put me down, i just laugh it off with them. cause their words mean jack to me, and i know they're pussies. it doesnt bug me at all cause they repeat the same stuff every time. of course i do know for a fact he's pissed @ life and hates his life...so yep.
*ONLY insecure ppl or ppl with problems will crack jokes or insult you to make themselves feel better* they will feel better if they know they've succeed in pissng you off. there are times where you cant laugh it off and will have to show you can protect yourself verbally or physically.
I havent cracked jokes or insulted anyone verbally to this date if i recall. i mean making a friend is always better than making any enemy right?
but i find that making enemies in life will always be inevitable. there'll always be someone wanting to see your downfall...especially if you're more successful than they.
did anyone ever read that article @ yahoo about fat kids are more prone to being bullies/being bullied. they take their anger out on ppl which is the only way to make themselves feel special and better. yea they did a study on it, the read was interesting.
comic_relief
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hey Diehard,
I got a question, what do you do if you ask him and he responds with "I don't like you"
Why
"I just don't"
I know I rubbed him the wrong way a long time ago. I used to get very mad and would do some stupid things too. I even went as far as punching him in the face and giving him a big welt. Now all I do is just laugh it off but he continues to do this stupid shat to me. I went up to get a athletic award for baseball and he was Sitting there screaming vulgar names up at me and stuff like that such as "hot Carl"(meaning you shat in a tubesock and hit someone in the face with it).
He also just broke up with his girlfriend. now he is worst than ever and all his friends dislike him and stopped listening to him because of the stuff he is pulling. I think it is just his way of gaining acceptance within his little group.
Pretty much I have tried the uncivilized way, did not work. Tried the standing up for myself bit by punching him in the face in front of alot of people, did not work. I am to grown up for immature insults like "Your mom" or something like that. Is just ignoring him and laughing at him the best way to get him to leave me alone or is this a no win situation which I do not believe in.
I got a question, what do you do if you ask him and he responds with "I don't like you"
Why
"I just don't"
I know I rubbed him the wrong way a long time ago. I used to get very mad and would do some stupid things too. I even went as far as punching him in the face and giving him a big welt. Now all I do is just laugh it off but he continues to do this stupid shat to me. I went up to get a athletic award for baseball and he was Sitting there screaming vulgar names up at me and stuff like that such as "hot Carl"(meaning you shat in a tubesock and hit someone in the face with it).
He also just broke up with his girlfriend. now he is worst than ever and all his friends dislike him and stopped listening to him because of the stuff he is pulling. I think it is just his way of gaining acceptance within his little group.
Pretty much I have tried the uncivilized way, did not work. Tried the standing up for myself bit by punching him in the face in front of alot of people, did not work. I am to grown up for immature insults like "Your mom" or something like that. Is just ignoring him and laughing at him the best way to get him to leave me alone or is this a no win situation which I do not believe in.
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
Sammo had a post about this. He just kept it funny. Don't hold grudges. Especially in high school. Why?
IT'S NOT WORTH IT.
You won't be around these people after a few years. I mean, I've had my differences with people, but someway somehow I try to reconcile or keep stuff friendly.
Once I was literally called every vulgar name I could think of by this shorty punk who thinks he's the sh1t. In front of everyone. It would've felt bad.....if only he didn't go on for so damn long LOL.
So what did I do? I kept it humorous. After like 10 seconds he was gonna take a breathe so I was like, "hey pal, I'm gonna take a nap. lemme know when you're done. thanks"
So he went on and I just started napping. Everyone was laughing cuz no one likes him all that much. So then he stops and i'm like, "yay" But the b1tch grabs my hair and says, "LISTEN TO ME" And I just slap him hard as **** it was soooo loud. I'm like, "I'm talented, I can listen, sleep, wake up and b1tch slap your bastard @ss all at once." So he takes a swing.....and we all know that shorty gets pinned begging. MWAHAHAHAHA
Oh yea...violence isn't the answer. But it IS the solution.
Nah, but yeah, don't take stuff too seriously. There are a lot of jerks out there. If you try to fight each one, it'll be like Neo fighting all those Agent Smiths. You will take hits, they will take hits. But the thing is, there's only one of you and infinite *******s. Think about it.
My 2 cents.
IT'S NOT WORTH IT.
You won't be around these people after a few years. I mean, I've had my differences with people, but someway somehow I try to reconcile or keep stuff friendly.
Once I was literally called every vulgar name I could think of by this shorty punk who thinks he's the sh1t. In front of everyone. It would've felt bad.....if only he didn't go on for so damn long LOL.
So what did I do? I kept it humorous. After like 10 seconds he was gonna take a breathe so I was like, "hey pal, I'm gonna take a nap. lemme know when you're done. thanks"
So he went on and I just started napping. Everyone was laughing cuz no one likes him all that much. So then he stops and i'm like, "yay" But the b1tch grabs my hair and says, "LISTEN TO ME" And I just slap him hard as **** it was soooo loud. I'm like, "I'm talented, I can listen, sleep, wake up and b1tch slap your bastard @ss all at once." So he takes a swing.....and we all know that shorty gets pinned begging. MWAHAHAHAHA
Oh yea...violence isn't the answer. But it IS the solution.
Nah, but yeah, don't take stuff too seriously. There are a lot of jerks out there. If you try to fight each one, it'll be like Neo fighting all those Agent Smiths. You will take hits, they will take hits. But the thing is, there's only one of you and infinite *******s. Think about it.
My 2 cents.
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lol you slapped someone
MrBond007
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I beleive he meant t hat he slapped him with the back of his hand( pimp slap ). Thats even more insulting than a punch in the face. Its even worse if you cant stand up after it ahaha.