Disco, ex GF all in one:need advice.

lollipop

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Ok, I'll try to make this story as short as possible.Here's is the deal,I got an invitation for a disco.Free champaign and free tickets. I asked my schoolbuddy to go with me but he couldn't buy appropriate clothes and shoes on short notice.The problem is I just have 2 friends, one is my age and the other older than me and I don't want to show up alone at the disco. So, I invitated an ex girlfriend to go with me.

I know this girl and I knew she liked that kind of things.I didn't even doubted she wouldn't go.But she is kinda the female version of a dj.I mean: I flirt A LOT with her altough she has a relationship with someone of another country.When she talks about him, I make it clear I don't want that in a sutble way.The problem is I tease her a lot and flirts back to me.We aren't exactly "enemies" like in the movies.It's like a game and she's aware of it.

My strategy,to drink champaign with her, talk, tease,... Should I try kino? And of course dance with OTHER girls and occasionally dance with her.

Something funny: she asked me what the dress code was. I didn't knew so I said: "very sexy.":D I never been to that disco before and I only went once to a disco.I'll be using Acqua di Gio. ;)

Well, something about myself, I cutoff my hair and put blond highlights in it.But all this is after I broke up YEARS after her.So, she KNOWS I've changed.And I always keep a bit of mystery. She asked in a sutble way if I had a girlfriend. I avoided the question. Another example: I bought something and I saw her. We had a little chat and she asked what's in the bag? I said to her: "you'll never guess it." and laughed. Little things of mystery I use.
 

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I forgot to tell this. I don't necessary want her back altough it can't be bad. I can check out other girls without a problem at the disco.
 

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Usually, the bottom line is: never get back together with your ex's. If your relation has ended, it has ended for a reason, and if you've been a chump with her for a long time, there is a good chance that she will ALWAYS see you as the chump you were, no matter how much you've changed (believe me, this is the one thing that I have RL-experience with lol).

Did she dump you or did you dump her? If she was the one who dumped, I wouldn't even consider starting dating her again.

Here's what I would do: treat her like a friend in that disco. I.e. imagine her as that buddy who you would have gone with if he had the right clothes. I.e. consider her a "friend only" - and you'll have no trouble dancing with other girls. Now you don't do kino with friends do you? Treat her exactly like you would treat your guy friend who you had gone to a disco with. That's what I would do, at least...
 

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3 billion women on the planet and you are harping over the ex? I have an acronym for you

FTOB (Fvck Ten Other Bytches)

and then see how you feel about the ex! If you can't find any hotties to bone, then that is the problem you should be focusing on. Cmon man, dont take the low road and go for the easy pvssy. Its not the DJ way! good luck dood.
 

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Originally posted by Ninja Dude
3 billion women on the planet and you are harping over the ex? I have an acronym for you

FTOB (Fvck Ten Other Bytches)

and then see how you feel about the ex! If you can't find any hotties to bone, then that is the problem you should be focusing on. Cmon man, dont take the low road and go for the easy pvssy. Its not the DJ way! good luck dood.
I had no one else to go with.Like I said, I'll check out other girls.

Anson,
She dumped me but I don't expect anything. All I know is: HAVING FUN!! That's the main thing. I'll not be obsessed about her. I do what I feel like.
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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