Well, today I lent myself to science. I went shopping for some items. Mostly shipping material and some new sun glasses. I was tring to see if I could approach women. The result? Failure. I came close, but I did not reach my small goal of at least approching one woman. Arg. Towards the end of my test, I went to the super market. I was looking at crackers(not white people, actual food) and a girl entered the ile and looked aswell. She was quite close, but at a safe distance. At this point I started the 3 second rule, which I extended a few more seconds. Needless to say I did come up with something to say, but froze. This may seem like a step backward, but I see it as a good thing. This just shows I where I need improvement. At least now I am able to seriously consider approching(which is better then before). However, this is still an unsatisfactory result. I believe I was still too focused on not looking like an idiot and getting her digits, instead of not caring weather or not anything would happend. I could have just as easily said something funny and left it at that. I should not have focused on the "hunt" so to speak and just on being friendly. But anyway, I think I was preassuring myself too much to approch.
I thought that a neat idea would be to look at this in a more scientific perspective. I find that the less I trust my emotional side and the more I trust my rational side, the more bold and or darring I become. I cannot completely stop listining to my heart, because I am an emotional person. I think of my self as a balanced thinker. I used to not listen at all to my brain and now by doing half-in-half I think I will fare better. I don't think I could ever be a total DJ, for it's just not my style. I don't like acting like a ladies man nor do I like being ****y(unless I make it clear that I'm being humorus and in reality am not ****y at all). And sex is NOT a goal for me. Yah, I'm not going to be a virgin forever, but I'm certainly not going to just "put out" for anyone. I have too much respect for myself as a man to do any less. However, I do need to change a little bit more and I think I have just the idea how to do it. This is partly inspired by the DJ Bible its self:
1. Identify the problem: I can't seem to approach women that I'm attracted to in a non-controlled enviroment. This was due to too much planing. Also insecurity also plays as an issue.
2. Hypothesis: If I focus just on being myself and building up my confidence, I should be able to approach women that I am attracted to.
3. Deductive reasoning: In order to eliminate insecurity, I will think of myself as the best dressed and best looking guy. I will pump up my ego(or confidence) being sure to not become to ****y(that's where my funny bone comes in). Also, will allow myself to do this and tell myself that it is ok.
4. Data collection and analysis: I will test my hypothesis and see if I can indeed improve my self this way.
5. Derive conclusion: I will then beable to determin if my hypothesis is correct.
This is a new approach that seems for wrapped in logic then feeling. A bit extreem, but I think it will help to give an idea how I can better balance my logic with my emotional self. I will go up to women in groups or by themselves(without men with them of course) say this: "Hi, my name is x and I am running an experiment. I'm trying to see if I can approach women that I am attracted to. I thank you for your participation, have a good day."
I am not sure if I can do this, but I will try. I will post my observations and my results later on in the week. So, wish me luck fellow scientits!
I thought that a neat idea would be to look at this in a more scientific perspective. I find that the less I trust my emotional side and the more I trust my rational side, the more bold and or darring I become. I cannot completely stop listining to my heart, because I am an emotional person. I think of my self as a balanced thinker. I used to not listen at all to my brain and now by doing half-in-half I think I will fare better. I don't think I could ever be a total DJ, for it's just not my style. I don't like acting like a ladies man nor do I like being ****y(unless I make it clear that I'm being humorus and in reality am not ****y at all). And sex is NOT a goal for me. Yah, I'm not going to be a virgin forever, but I'm certainly not going to just "put out" for anyone. I have too much respect for myself as a man to do any less. However, I do need to change a little bit more and I think I have just the idea how to do it. This is partly inspired by the DJ Bible its self:
1. Identify the problem: I can't seem to approach women that I'm attracted to in a non-controlled enviroment. This was due to too much planing. Also insecurity also plays as an issue.
2. Hypothesis: If I focus just on being myself and building up my confidence, I should be able to approach women that I am attracted to.
3. Deductive reasoning: In order to eliminate insecurity, I will think of myself as the best dressed and best looking guy. I will pump up my ego(or confidence) being sure to not become to ****y(that's where my funny bone comes in). Also, will allow myself to do this and tell myself that it is ok.
4. Data collection and analysis: I will test my hypothesis and see if I can indeed improve my self this way.
5. Derive conclusion: I will then beable to determin if my hypothesis is correct.
This is a new approach that seems for wrapped in logic then feeling. A bit extreem, but I think it will help to give an idea how I can better balance my logic with my emotional self. I will go up to women in groups or by themselves(without men with them of course) say this: "Hi, my name is x and I am running an experiment. I'm trying to see if I can approach women that I am attracted to. I thank you for your participation, have a good day."
I am not sure if I can do this, but I will try. I will post my observations and my results later on in the week. So, wish me luck fellow scientits!