Dilemma: Your input needed.

[Manonamission]

Here's the deal:

Me and this chick at college have been sleeping with eachother for four months, after meeting me for a month and hanging out for awhile she asked if we could be "official" or "in a relationship." I said "Sure why not." A week later she tells me that she "isn't ready, and that she doesn't want a boyfriend."

I pretty much told her that it's cool, and that I'm going to keep doing what I've been doing, but in no way will I be pulled back and forth from in a relationship to single.

Well as it turned out we continued to sleep with eachother, but now she tells me how much she likes me, and almost let "I love you." slip. She's just waiting for me to make a move and ask her out, but I'm not ready for that yet. I have other stuff on my mind, and I'm far too busy to have a g/f. (She's really clingy.

Now here is where my dilemma is: I'm heading home from school in a couple of weeks. (I live out of state.) Turns out there is another chick back home that is literally begging for it.

I weighed my options, and decided that it's no big deal if I did **** with considering me and the girl from college are not officially in a relationship.

I told my housemates about this other girl, and they basically told me that I should be ashamed of myself for even considering it. (What??)

Am I the only one that feels that since I'm not committed, that I'm allowed to do whoever and whatever I want over Christmas break?

Just curious for others inputs.

 

[ryannath]

Hell yes, you are allowed to do whoever and whatever you want with other girls since you are not in a relationship. YOU ARE SINGLE! And, if you don't believe that your girl that you were having sex with for 4 months is not gonna fvck other guys since she told you she is "not ready for a relationship", then you are wrong my friend. In all honesty, she is probably already fvcking another guy. That is why she is "not ready" for a relationship. She wants to feel other ****s or already is! So, do yourself a favor and give this girl back home some good times. Enjoy it. You're single.

 

[Manonamission]

Hell yes, you are allowed to do whoever and whatever you want with other girls since you are not in a relationship. YOU ARE SINGLE! And, if you don't believe that your girl that you were having sex with for 4 months is not gonna fvck other guys since she told you she is "not ready for a relationship", then you are wrong my friend. In all honesty, she is probably already fvcking another guy. That is why she is "not ready" for a relationship. She wants to feel other ****s or already is! So, do yourself a favor and give this girl back home some good times. Enjoy it. You're single.

There is no way this chick is doing **** with other dudes, she literally is obsessed with me. Thanks for the input though man.

 

[Charm]

Just do what you want here. You will end up doing what you want anyway. If you want to have fun with this other girl and youre not in a serious relationship, then have fun with her. You may end up liking her a lot.

 

[Maximus Rex]

This chick is playing games. Since your not in a relationship. You in no way obligated to her. You can see whomever, whenever you wanted and she would be outline and disrespecting you to question it.

This is a big time sh*t test. Call her bluff. She'll either do one of two things. 1) Leave you alone and take that juvenile bullsh*t elsewhere. 2) Continue with your "bed buddy," relationship. Either way you come out ahead.

Also never enter into a relationship with this chick. She had her chance at happiness and blew it. On top of that, she's a f*cking headcase.

 

[Desdinova]

There's a distinct difference between "dating / fvck buddy" and "long term relationship". The latter includes a serious commitment to the other person, which you do not have. Therefore, you are free to date and fvck anybody you like.

There is no way this chick is doing **** with other dudes, she literally is obsessed with me.

So what? Obsession does not equal a long term relationship. There are guys here with one-itis who are living proof of that. Commitment has to come from both parties, not just one person.

I told my housemates about this other girl, and they basically told me that I should be ashamed of myself for even considering it. (What??)

They sound like AFCs who don't have GFs. They have bought into Society's viewpoint that you need to be committed to one woman regardless of relationship status to make her fall in love with you. In the real world, this doesn't work, and I'd bet they're probably living proof of that.