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ok, some backround first. I found intellectual*****s.com about 5 months ago. Did some reading and talking in the forums there, got my first kiss, first date, and so on. I am a sophomore in college. I definatly dont have much expeirance, although all considering, the IW forums I think, gave me a jumpstart. I would be on the IW forums now, but they are down.
More specific backround:
I was friends with this girl last semmister. She had a boyfirend, and overall, I wasnt too attracted to her anyway. The bigining of the summer they broke up. I hung out with her quite a bit considering we lived 3 hours away from eachother this summer. She would call me drunk quite often and say things like "I love you". Asside from that, I started to get other more obvious signs of attraction from her (inviting me to passout in her bed with her, giving eachother backrubs, her wanting to play spin the bottle and so on. I kinda took my time making my move. I dont catch on to the signs of attraction too easly. Anyhow, we came back to school the saterday before last. The advice I was given on the IW forums, was that it sounded like she was trying to set me up to be her boyfirend for this semmister, and that I didnt need to worry a lot about game anymore. anyway, that night (saterday night) I made my move. We made out for a while, and it was definatly the best makeout session I have ever had. I think I have actually gotten pretty decent at it. The next night, we went and smoked hooka and just chilled.
Monday night, we get drunk, I lose my keys, she invites me to stay at her place. we get back, she asks if I want to snuggle. We start talking about things, and I think she was the one to make the first move that night. I know for a fact that if I had been more expeiranced we probably could have had sex. I got her shirt off, and some licking action there and that was as far as we got. We made out for quite a while, and I think she realized that it wasnt going to go anywhere and she suggested we go to bed. The next day, she was gitty. I gave her a kiss, and we went off to classes. Apparently, that night, she came by my place, but I wasnt there (my roomate told me). The next night same thing. I was just out hanging out with frineds. I called her on wednesday. Nothing really important for either of us to say. Over the week, we would see eachother occationally very briefly, she would be flirty/give me hugs. Friday night, we hung out in a big group and drank. She didnt pay much attention to me (similar to the night I spent in her bed, hoever, I just didnt seem right). I stuck around with a few people, and eventually, she just said goodnight and shut her door on us. She would usually call me quite a bit, however not so much this past week (could just be that she had to get used to working again and school).
Summed up if your lazy; We made out one night, then 2 nights later, almost had sex. She seemed happy in the morning, I kissed her and we parted ways to go to our classes but; aside from hugging me when we ran into each other on campus, not much happened between us the next week.
now the delema This Monday night (a week since I spent the night at her place) we were all drinking with our usual group of friends. We ended up walking back to campus together. I mentioned to her that “last Monday you told me I could spend the night at your place any time I wanted, and I really don’t want to wake up my roommate (we don’t know each other that well).” She said that she was really tired and had soccer in the morning at 9:00 and really just wanted to get some sleep. That’s reasonable, but I was drunk and kind of got a little whiney. I went to give her a goodnight kiss, and I think she though I was trying to get in her bed still. I just wanted to give her a goodnight kiss. Anyhow, I got cheek, then lips, then chin. Then she ran off and said something like “why are you pressuring me”. I felt horrible. What have I done? That night she was still flirting with me and would respond when I flirted back. Is it too late now? Did I blow it? Lastnight her roommate (who I am friends with) told me that she had told her (the roommate) that she was going to call me. I never got a call. I saw her today and I asked her what the deal was. She said she would call me tonight.
What should I say on the phone? I feel like telling her how bad I feel about the other night first and foremost. I am to terms with the fact that she will probably say something to the extent that we should just be friends, but is there anything I could say that might change that? Any other suggestions? I am going to suggest that have this talk in person. I am a very upfront person and I think it would really help to do this in person.
ok, some backround first. I found intellectual*****s.com about 5 months ago. Did some reading and talking in the forums there, got my first kiss, first date, and so on. I am a sophomore in college. I definatly dont have much expeirance, although all considering, the IW forums I think, gave me a jumpstart. I would be on the IW forums now, but they are down.
More specific backround:
I was friends with this girl last semmister. She had a boyfirend, and overall, I wasnt too attracted to her anyway. The bigining of the summer they broke up. I hung out with her quite a bit considering we lived 3 hours away from eachother this summer. She would call me drunk quite often and say things like "I love you". Asside from that, I started to get other more obvious signs of attraction from her (inviting me to passout in her bed with her, giving eachother backrubs, her wanting to play spin the bottle and so on. I kinda took my time making my move. I dont catch on to the signs of attraction too easly. Anyhow, we came back to school the saterday before last. The advice I was given on the IW forums, was that it sounded like she was trying to set me up to be her boyfirend for this semmister, and that I didnt need to worry a lot about game anymore. anyway, that night (saterday night) I made my move. We made out for a while, and it was definatly the best makeout session I have ever had. I think I have actually gotten pretty decent at it. The next night, we went and smoked hooka and just chilled.
Monday night, we get drunk, I lose my keys, she invites me to stay at her place. we get back, she asks if I want to snuggle. We start talking about things, and I think she was the one to make the first move that night. I know for a fact that if I had been more expeiranced we probably could have had sex. I got her shirt off, and some licking action there and that was as far as we got. We made out for quite a while, and I think she realized that it wasnt going to go anywhere and she suggested we go to bed. The next day, she was gitty. I gave her a kiss, and we went off to classes. Apparently, that night, she came by my place, but I wasnt there (my roomate told me). The next night same thing. I was just out hanging out with frineds. I called her on wednesday. Nothing really important for either of us to say. Over the week, we would see eachother occationally very briefly, she would be flirty/give me hugs. Friday night, we hung out in a big group and drank. She didnt pay much attention to me (similar to the night I spent in her bed, hoever, I just didnt seem right). I stuck around with a few people, and eventually, she just said goodnight and shut her door on us. She would usually call me quite a bit, however not so much this past week (could just be that she had to get used to working again and school).
Summed up if your lazy; We made out one night, then 2 nights later, almost had sex. She seemed happy in the morning, I kissed her and we parted ways to go to our classes but; aside from hugging me when we ran into each other on campus, not much happened between us the next week.
now the delema This Monday night (a week since I spent the night at her place) we were all drinking with our usual group of friends. We ended up walking back to campus together. I mentioned to her that “last Monday you told me I could spend the night at your place any time I wanted, and I really don’t want to wake up my roommate (we don’t know each other that well).” She said that she was really tired and had soccer in the morning at 9:00 and really just wanted to get some sleep. That’s reasonable, but I was drunk and kind of got a little whiney. I went to give her a goodnight kiss, and I think she though I was trying to get in her bed still. I just wanted to give her a goodnight kiss. Anyhow, I got cheek, then lips, then chin. Then she ran off and said something like “why are you pressuring me”. I felt horrible. What have I done? That night she was still flirting with me and would respond when I flirted back. Is it too late now? Did I blow it? Lastnight her roommate (who I am friends with) told me that she had told her (the roommate) that she was going to call me. I never got a call. I saw her today and I asked her what the deal was. She said she would call me tonight.
What should I say on the phone? I feel like telling her how bad I feel about the other night first and foremost. I am to terms with the fact that she will probably say something to the extent that we should just be friends, but is there anything I could say that might change that? Any other suggestions? I am going to suggest that have this talk in person. I am a very upfront person and I think it would really help to do this in person.
